Is it right for a 20 yr old woman to date 31 yr old man who has a career already?

Question

I have yet to pursue my dreams ......and am thinking of moving to be with him..... i need advice asap,,,,,,pleaze

Answer 1

Don't move for him, unless it's in line with your career aspirations. And, unless you are really unusually mature, what does he see in you? When you're 31, would you want to be with a 20-year-old guy? There are a lot of differences, life experiences over those 11 years. I guess the question is, would he like you to be second to him, or is he thinking eventually you might be just the stay-at-home wife without a really serious career of your own?

You're going to do what you're going to do, regardless of what we say on here. Just try to put yourself first, and think long and hard of practical things, even when you love him.

Answer 2

The thing is; a 20 year old woman is not ready for a 31 year old man. A 20 year old is just finding herself, and a 31 year old man is already somewhat established, at least in his ways....A 31 year old man might not want to have kids..better find out EXACTLY what his viewpoint is on that Before you do anything. 20 year old women are still full of games. The maturity level has to be brought up like 1000 fold if you would ever expect to have a real long lasting relatonship with a guy
more than 10 years older. I will tell you something..a 31 year old guy is not going to see a 20 year old as a mature woman..he is going to see you as a kid.....I know this because At 34 I knew this 24 year old woman..even that I thought was a ridulous age differnce...24 was WAAAAAAAY to young. And a 24 year old woman is like 10 times more
grown up than a 2o year old.

Answer 3

There is 14 years between a couple I know and my friend married a woman 13 years older than he is. Age is just a number, it's maturity you have to worry about. If he loves you and you are SURE you love him then go for it. Some people get married and are the same age yet they divorce in a year or two. Others who are several years apart stay married for life. My Aunt knew a boy who was 21 and married a woman who was 63. The boy had loved her for years but never thought she would marry him. They were married until she died 27 years later. He never remarried. Don't worry about the number. Just be happy.

Answer 4

Yes it is ok for a 20 year old to date a 31 year old. But if you are unsure about moving when you want to get your dreams in order first then I would suggest that he is not right right now. Don't limit yourself in order to have a man.

Answer 5

my wife is sarabrooke27 hence she is 27 yrs old and i am 42
that is 15 yrs apart and we have the very best relationship and 2 children together we have been together for going on 6 yrs now and have never even had an arguement . i mean mabey a disagreement now and then but nothing major .
we are very happy together. so just follow your heart it will never lie to you.
GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 6

That all depends on you two. Just remember that you both have different goals at this point in life and you CAn make it work. If you really care about each other and respect each other's decisions its possible.

Answer 7

I think it's alright!
My friend's parents have been married for a looooooooong time and they're 11 years apart too.

Answer 8

It is neither right or wrong. It is very risky though. At 11 years you have different lives, expectation etc.

Answer 9

ya u can there s no age gap b/n people but later on u shudnt feeling awkward by goin with him that is the couple looking really gud or older or anything..i guess u understood wat i mean to say....u shudnt feeling difficult to adjust with him bcoz sometimes the mentality doesnt match in many of the cases...so be careful while handling him....neways gud luck....

Answer 10

You can pursue your dreams if you're with him you know. If you love him, go for it.