There is this guy at my college who i like a lot, we argue some but mostly we get along great. He doesn’t have a girl friend and i haven’t herd him mention that he likes anyone. So how do i get his interest? How do i get his attention and see if i can get him to like me? We talk all the time he’s two year older and normally we hang out with the same crowd. How do i take the relationship from friends to more?
2007-11-27 18:15:01 · 16 answers · asked by Qwen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is hanging out with you it sounds like he already likes you. Sounds like he is too shy to ask you out also. Why don't you invite him out. Not just the 2 of you at first. Maybe a couple (guy&girl) of your friends and ask him to go with you to the movies. Movies are great because they are dark inside and if he holds your hand or something it is not so embarrasing for him. Maybe go for pizza after the movies. Keep inviting him to join you and friends for a while until he gets his courage up. If he likes you he will invite you out but if he doesn't at least you still have a good friend. Don't pick a scarry movie. A comedy is good or a drama or even a Christmas movie. Something moving but not too romantic at first.
2007-11-27 18:26:39 · answer #1 · answered by Medicine Woman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi... first off, ignore these aholes who write back to you with some sarcastic comment or idiotic answer like the jackass who said"humm... ask him out".... Anyone with any intelligence can assume that you have thought of this already and the help you seek is on how to approach this step, that, for most is nerveracking as it kinda lays you out there fr the potential pain of disinterest.
Rather, I'd tell you that men... even younger men, are flattered by the thought of being desired.... and any gent would treat this emotion of yours, even if he in fact does not feel as you do,.... with care and kindness. You say he is a friend, so the risk is not embarrassment or rude rejection, but I assume it is if it is not mutual then it would be strange to be the same friends as you were before your expression of attaraction. The truth is that there is no avoiding the moment where this cat gets let out of your bag... but the ways in which you feel him out... flirt, hint, suggest, joke, .. all build little by little and with each wink, each touch that is clearly not just friendly... he will no doubt get the point and will be thinking of this, of you, and of his feelings towards this, without you standing alone and shouting this out to him.
Women are tremendous, ad have the power to melt any guy to the point of helplessness... all by way of seduction.Not the physical kind (although this too is a clear expression of your intent) but I am speakijng of playful sexuality... short of arrogance or conciet.... more like confident... powerful, seductive and sultry....
If this does not captivate this guy.... he is not deserving of you. I know if I were shown this sort of alluring attraction from you... I'd see it, know it, love it, and react to it. Think of it like this..... the best relations stem from the man feeling as though at any given moment he is out of his league and you.... you are jusdt a tiny bit better than he deserves. This my dear, will have him and keep him always answering to this... living up to you, to be deserving of you.
I'll admit it is a slippery slope, not to be seen or percieved as a *****... that actually doesn't think of him as for you.... vs.... a sure woman who knows what she wants, needs, deserves, and that she has no need to expect or settle for anything less.
I'd love to hear how this goes for you.
xxoo
2007-11-28 02:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by steve f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with now a days culture it's best to bring it to his attention by simply asking if his ever thought about going out with you. If you wait to long to ask him, he may end up dating someone else with out even knowing that you were there waiting for him to ask you. If that's to forward for you then you can always try to have him talk about what he looks for in a girl, while sometimes pointing things out about yourself. If he doesn't get the massage at this point, try getting some alone time with him. Take the movies for example, try finding one that you both like and then have just the two of you watch it together. Allot of the times guys want ask their friends because they don't want to take the chance of losing their friendship. They will let things remain where they are because their not sure of how you truly feel towards them. So trust me in this if you wait to long then you will miss your chance and be left with " What if..."
2007-11-28 02:32:51 · answer #3 · answered by wolvenfang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what his favorite author, or movie, etc. You could invite him to have coffee, or lattee, etc. Ask some of your other friends what sort of things this guys is into and what ever you decide to ask him....maybe you could do it in an original way. Like try to slip a note in his pocket (jacket is good), give him a little gift box with an note inside to meet you somewhere. Good luck.
2007-11-28 02:21:52 · answer #4 · answered by larithd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to dinner. Getting away from the crowd for a night might move things along.
2007-11-28 02:18:37 · answer #5 · answered by Jinx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start showing him your interested, ask him to hang out outside the friends circle, start saying stuff that implies you want a relationship...possibly with such as oh I really wish I had a boyfriend..Then see how he reacts Touching is good, compliments are good, smiling, maybe asking him to do stuff, he is interested he'll say yes.
2007-11-28 02:20:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST JUST U LIKE so u want to go ahead is not now a days fandas,FIRST JUST TALK TO HIM ABOUT UR FEELINGS AND TTY TO KNOW MORE ABOUT HIS FAMILY BACKGROUND AND TRY TO BE FAMIL;LIAR WITH HIS PARENTS FEELINMGS AND BACKGROUND ,IT IS q OF whole life coz this is india,my friend and for girls in INDIA,once done then always at pray even if guys or their relatives are at mistakes,so know his family and aand family background first,their feeling and never surrender to ur feeling prior to marraige or else,even guy will put rubberstaaaamp of chaloo,be ware.
2007-11-28 02:28:14 · answer #7 · answered by wwf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him he'd like to have a coffee sometime, just make sure he understands it'll just be the two of you. Then you can spend some time getting to know each other.
2007-11-28 02:24:07 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
flirt around him more and try to know what he really likes... If he likes to go out, then invite him for such an outing.. Or see if he likes to watch movies, then arrange something for watching his favorite movies and so on,,, Then try to talk to him in a very gentle and trustworthy way.. Make him confidence that you really love him and want him by any means.
2007-11-28 02:26:49 · answer #9 · answered by Ghiacy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him out. Make sure you let him know it is a date and not just 2 friends hanging out.
2007-11-28 02:19:16 · answer #10 · answered by celtic_princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋