Would u consider this slutty?

Question

theres this guy that i completely adore; we arent going out (well we did once before, but things werent workin out on that level) but we have strong feelings for each other, and we are having sex - would he be considered a fxxx buddy? is it slutty to have sex with someone ur not in a relationship with?

Answer 1

It doesn't sound like a stable relationship as friends or other. Slutty ? Yes I would say so. You aren't going out with him but going for the convenience. Thats more or less what it is. I hope I haven't offended you, but why not see if he would like to give it another try. Is this type of relationship something you want to continue for how many yrs ? Don't you feel used + somewhat like the "other woman" even tho there may be no other woman ? Try to make it into a going out relationship, then you wont feel you have to ask a question like this when you are feeling doubtful. : )

Answer 2

Yea it would be considered a f ___ buddy but who cares. Slutty Only if your friends want to say that but its what you think that matters that's all. Believe it or not I just saw a story on the news last night about " friends with benefits " and a lot of guys and girls are doing exactly what you are and with a lot of them it turned into full fledged relationships and with almost all others the s-- stopped but the friendship stayed in tact so just be careful with birth control and do what you want . If your having feelings for this guy then maybe its time to talk to him about taking your relationship to the next level.

Who knows he might feel the same
Goo luck

Answer 3

Depends who you ask. People are doing much worse things (sexually) these days. As long as you aren't having casual sex with a bunch of men it is ok. Make sure you are using a condom! Also the thing about having a purely physical relationship is emotions get in the way. One person involved usually ends up hurt. If you think you can handle having just sex then continue but if the thought of him with anyone else drives you crazy then I urge you to get out before your feelings get too involved! Don't ever close yourself off to dating other people just because you are sleeping with this guy. Make sure it's a priority that you enjoy yourself without letting him use you and toss you aside. Make sure you are comfortable with this and never be afraid to end it if you feel like he's being dumb with you!

Answer 4

For the first question, this is a little harder to answer than it may seem. Usually, in this is situation, which you can call "friends with benefits" without fear of getting censored, there really aren't too many feelings involved besides feeling like you need some, & feeling good when you get some. If you have strong feelings for each other, this usually negates the friends with benefits scenario. You might hang out as friends, & you might have sex, but if you think you might be in love, would be hurt or jealous if you found out he was going to start dating someone else, or ever catch yourself thinking you wouldn't mind if his condom broke & you got pregnant, you're in dangerous territory. If you just enjoy hanging out & making one another climax, then he would fall into this category.

As for the second question, I'm not the best person to ask about this, because I never look down on women for wanting sex. I wish more women embraced their libidos the way us guys do, & would just try to enjoy life more. Life's too short to worry about every single thing women worry about when it comes to sex. While I do think men & women should worry about pregnancies & diseases, I don't think they should worry so much about social implications. I really think society places too much pressure on women to be virginal, & I believe women should have just as much freedom to enjoy sex as I do. So, unless you're charging him money for sex, my answer to your second question would be an emphatic no.

Answer 5

You have strong feelings for him and are going to get hurt Fxxx buddies don't involve feelings

Answer 6

kinda slutty, in the eyes of others if they know whats going on, however, as a person who has been a fu*k buddy before I can say that it is an extreme turn on to be able to unleash your sexual animal side without fear of "how is she going to interpret this?" etc all those little thoughts disappear when two good friends are just getting each other off....

Answer 7

Nah.
Most fxxx buddies don't have strong feelings for each other.

If you have MULTIPLE buddies like that...I'd say, yes.

And if you're actually dating someone at the same time.

Answer 8

Actually, it prevents you from finding someone who will care about you and love you. So, it's not important whether it's slutty, it's important whether it leads you to your true goals. Frankly, I think if you adore him and he's just giving you sex, then you're selling yourself at a low price, and that suggests poor self-esteem. Also, I bet you have strong feelings for him but he only wants you for sex. I'd drop him if I were you and find someone who will love you.

Answer 9

fxxx buddies are usually people you do want your Friends to see you with...if you are cool with that...then it is not slutty...just don't expect much..other than a good time..yahoo!!!

Answer 10

-If you don't have feeling's for him than is your own judgement.I'm no one to judge in your circumstance's I'm a man and I myself see that is disrespecful and not very lady like-
A slut in term's mean's someone who is having sex with many men at same time and getting paid is a hooker.So you are not a slut.
If you have one man and PROTECTED SEX!
you are if you do it again and with other men on the side.He see's you as such if you ask him..
I just would not take someone like that serious at all.
have a good night..and I hope you come to your sense's and not use your body as a tool to get men to like/love you.
Just have faith in your inner self and be honest with what you
want in life for simple fact.
That you have one BODY!

Med Student CK-