Is there ever a valid reason to cheat?

Question

When caught..cheaters always have a rationale why they did what they did..in your opinion is there a justifiable reason to have sex outside of a commited relationshiop?

Answer 1

no

Answer 2

So how do you define cheating? Having s*x with someone other then who your married too? How about this situation Your married, you haven't had s*x with them in over 6 years They don't want it You can't live any more without human touch Your not going to divorce Is that rationalizing guilt? Or is there no guilt anymore? Or could cheating be falling in love with someone else even though you never go to bed with them Since you defined it better, then no, there is no reason to cheat Your only cheating yourself even if you get away with it

Answer 3

Well, I know some couples are swingers, and I just found out recently that a couple (married) that we know have an "open" agreement where one of them will simply inform the other that they are going to sleep with someone else. Personally, I don't feel it's my place to judge that, as it's their business. I just know it's not cool with me or with my husband. We're of the strictly monogamous variety. However, as I think about it, those folks who do swing or have open relationships aren't really cheating, since they are honest with their partners about it.

As for do I think there's ever justification for actual cheating, my answer is an unequivocal NO. I have heard plenty of really ridiculous excuses such as the following:

--It was uncomfortable for her while she was pregnant and I couldn't wait that long.
--Her stretch marks after she had the baby were really a turn-off. (Same guy as the first one.)
--I hate that his chest has gotten so hairy.
--He had too much to drink and fell asleep at the party and I was horny.
--I think he/she may have done it to me before, so he/she owes me one. (I love that one, because I have heard it from both men and women, and they never have anything but vague suspicions or paranoias--they never have proof.)
--His job sent him out of town for a two-month project and I just got lonely.
--He/she was so sexy and my partner just isn't that sexy to me anymore.
--I was seduced. (I LOVE that one, because what the person is basically saying is, "I have the control of a dog in heat.")
--I don't like her new perfume.

Yep, all of those are totally true juicy rationalizations I have actually been told by people. They get really frustrated with me because they expect me to not only buy the BS they are selling, but somehow give them my blessing for being a jerk.

To me, there's no wiggle room or excuse good enough. It's all just a way to try to make yourself feel better about being a dork or a dorkette. And I am always amazed when cheaters get caught and end up getting dumped or in divorce court. It's like they told their stupid stories to themselves so many times they started to actually believe they were justified. It's pretty sad.

Answer 4

If you're not married then of course you can cheat because it is just a relationship, you can have a relationship with the same sex. Also it isn't sacred marriage is. It is a soulful committment marry your woman (partner) so you won't cheat on her. If you do cheat in a relationship you would always do it again don't get this confuse. People cheat because they don't understand marriage. People tend to bring their relationship ways in to marriage remeber longivity, a relationship could end it isn't stable.

Answer 5

Technically no one is beholden to another person, but a marriage contract is legally binding and if you want to be with someone else it's common courtesy to get a divorce. Otherwise you're breaking a contract and that makes you dishonest. Not immoral, but not someone worthy of your trust. Consider your cheating a divorce, though some people have trouble noticing when a relationship is over. Chock it up to "people make mistakes." The sooner you leave a relationship you've given up on the better for both of you. Otherwise you're just hurting people, and yourself.

Answer 6

I don't think there is ever a valid reason to cheat. If you are seriously thinking about doing it, then you should be honest with the person you are with and break up with them or try to work things out. Think of how you would feel if your significant other did the same to you?

I travel for work and am gone two weeks of every month, it can be very hard on a relationship, however my fiance and I make it work, but even then there is no valid reason to do it (I don't care how horny you are).

I was cheated on in College and I didn't find out about it until after we broke up, it was the most painful thing I ever experienced, not to mention that he cheated on me with a friend of mine who was trying to convince me that I would be better off without him.

Answer 7

absolutely not. If you are committed to the person you are in a relationship with, cheating should not be an issue. If you are cheating, then you really aren't committed to the other person.

commit--to bind or obligate, as by pledge or assurance; pledge: to commit oneself to a promise; to be committed to a course of action.

Answer 8

sometimes people don't have any feelings for each other any more but one of the people in the relationship will threaten the other person if they leave... so they find someone else to love and stay with the person that threatened them

i personally think there's no good reason, and a lot of my friends have cheated on their girl/boy friends and i don't get involved because I don't want anything to do with that stuff

Answer 9

If someone is in a position where you think there is valid reason to cheat then you need to end the relationship you are in. Obviously there is something wrong with the commited relationship they are in.

So NO!

Answer 10

if u love someone else, and both your current relationships suck,u owe it to yourself to talk to the one u care about both of u need to decide what the next step should be. Let know one decide or judge what cheating is until theyve lived what u have

Answer 11

There isnt a good reason. I guess if your current relationship has fallen apart already & you are in love with someone else then thats as good as it gets