I have a set of nine year old twins that attend 4th grade. One of my twins was bullied by a girl in her class. The girl hit my daughter 3 times and threatened to beat up my other daughter. I plan on speaking to the Principal regarding this, but is there anything I can do to help my child with this ? I also would like feedback on what I can expect from the Principal to end this situation.
2007-11-27 17:18:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
When a child exposes a bully they are showing more COURAGE than the cowardly bully who sneeks around terrorizing their victim. Have you ever heard of the bully admitting they did something wrong without trying to assign some of the blame to the victim?COWARDS.If people had the courage to confront the bully you take away their control.Sometimes bullies are not feeling insecure, to them it is all about controling someone.This control gives them a sense of power.It takes at least 3 people for a bully to succeed.The bully, the victim and the bystanders.Parents should be teaching their children to stand up and be counted ,get the teacher.Even at a young age children must be taught that telling the truth is the right thing to do.Bullying has long term affects on the victim and should not be tolerated.Schools have a responsibility to provide a safe and positive learning environment for all students.Zero tolerance means exactly that.
2007-11-28 05:47:33 · answer #1 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This little tyrant has got to be shut down! As much as I'd like your twins to beat her up it would probably just end up with them being expelled. The schools in my area have a zero tolerance policy which means this child can be expelled for hitting your daughter. Talk to the principal and the teacher but please make it clear that you don't want your girls vicitmized further.
I know a lot of people are opposed to the idea but from personal experience I can tell you if a report is handled properly the bullying does go away. Discuss the methods in which the principal and teacher are going to handle the situation and talk to your girls prior to speaking to the school and see how they would like it handled
2007-11-28 03:53:42 · answer #2 · answered by susannacassie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off teach them some self-defense, there are classes. Bully's only bully the weak.Once your daughter shows them that she isn't scared they will leave her alone..
Now, that's not going to solve the problem. The bully will just move on to someone else so you have to be consistant with this. Talk to the principal and ask them what their bully procedures are. Our school has a 0 tolerance on bullying.
If you cant get anything done there, move onto the school board. Read the story about the 15 yr old that just got life in prison in WI for killing his principal after being abused and bullied.
These things just cant continue to go on, the schools have to take a harsher stand against bully's....I also believe the parents should be held accountable for their child who is being a bully because 90% of them just laugh it off or deny it.
Best of luck with this...dont give up
2007-11-27 17:27:49 · answer #3 · answered by nscarfan24n48 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At 4th grade, this should be something you talk about with the Principal and her teacher. Teachers in elementary school seem quite concerned about Bullying. I am sure the Bully has done this to other kids as well. Also if you know the name of the child's parents, call them if you have to. Violence at school is terrible. Maybe the Bully needs a special school. If you speak up, the school will know to keep an eye on that kid.
2007-11-28 03:39:59 · answer #4 · answered by tig 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what does your daughter do when she is hit? how does she respond? does she sound weak? if she does no wonder shes being bullied. teach her to hold herself up, chin up, strong facial expression, shoulders back and straight spine. this will show everyone that your daughter's not afraid and not weak.i've been bullied and as soon as i started to hold myself differently it started to go away. if your feel it right, tell her to hit the girl back. im serious if she does, even not hard, it will show that girl that your daughter's not going to put up with it any longer.
most importantly, tell her that she is better than what she is getting from that girl. tell her that she deserves way better and that its not her problem. it doesnt and wont mean much while she is being bullied but sound genuine and look her in the eyes. when she gets through this she will be so much stronger and resillient and she will know that it wasnt her fault.
good luck
2007-11-27 18:52:41 · answer #5 · answered by hottie_grl92 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, DON'T DO IT!!!
The best thing is teach your girls self-defense,
although fighting is not the answer.
Trust me.
If you tell the principal,
your kids will be SNITCHES,
they will be teased and it will only
provoke the bully to bug your kids more.
and your kids will feel scared all the time.
best thing is maybe teach them some self-defense,
as mean as it sounds, teach your daughters to punch
that bully in the face, because although they are young,
that is life and self-defense is a kit for survival.
The principle will probably call the childs parents,
and the childs parents might not even care,
considering their kid is a bully as it is.
2007-11-27 17:27:16 · answer #6 · answered by English Dream 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The only way to fend off a bully is by fighting back. Having mommy come in and try to fix things just exacerbates matters.
2007-11-27 17:38:43 · answer #7 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
teach them to protect themselves and to stick together. no one should lay there hands on twins and not think the other one is coming
2007-11-27 17:26:50 · answer #8 · answered by smooth jones 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋