Why does it always seem i am attracted to complete jerks and not the decent guys i want to like? do u have the same problem?
2007-11-27 17:05:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am, and to be honest I cant wait to out grow it.....(hopefully before I'm 30).... I just do not find nice guys sexy.... don't get me wrong, but if you're nice and call me the next day I'm going to be like why the hell is he calling me, that stalker!, but if you don't call me I'll be like why didn't he call? what did I do wrong? and then I'm stuck on him!......
Its strange I know. However, I also know that you do grow out of it.... eventually you will seek stability, and suddenly the nice guy is looking really good.
2007-11-27 17:11:37 · answer #1 · answered by Bubbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason you and many other women are attracted to those fools is simple. You all say you want a guy that has self confidence. Well you all take being cocky and rude as self confidence, it's not. I have self confidence, but am not cocky and full of myself. I am nice, polite, funny, and smart. I don't try to show off or play games. I smile and talk with women, yet they always think I am just being friendly and I end up being one of their good friends, who they never date. This is because I allow them to be themselves and act like who they really are. I also am myself and do not strut around, talk loud, show off and play games. Guys that do that women are attracted to because they think it shows that the guy has self confidence and is funny. Well he is funny, but in a stupid way and those are the guys who will be mean, cheat, and who end up not treating the woman they are with right. Women also think that once they start dating or even in some cases marries the guy that he will change and be that loving, nice, and romantic guy they really want. Well believe me they don't change, I have some friends that have gotten divorces because the guy didn't change. When you date a guy, the way he acts with you and to you will be the way he will always act. If he is acting immature, cocky, mean, dinks to much, flirts with other girls and so on when your dating then he will always be that way. Women just seem to go for the bad boys, then expect them to change into prince charming once they are together. Well it doesn't work that way and until women start to see and realize that they will date jerks and get their heart broken and treated like crap. Also remember no guy worth anything wants a woman who has dated a whole lot of guys. So usually when the girl figures out that the nice guys are really the kind of guys she has been wanting many nice and good men do not want her because she has been around just a little to much. I wish women would understand this sooner instead it seems like most don't understand it until their about 30 or 35, but at lest they do finally see. I hope this helped you some and helps you see why women seem to get hurt and end up with the wrong guys so much. =)
2007-11-28 01:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by Prof. Dave 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to attract a different type of guy,what is it about you that jerks are drawn to?I also know that it is a 2 way street.What adjustments can you make to better yourself.Don't be eager,get to know someone b4 committing,keep your unmentionables locked up.To piggyback on what was said up top,maturity will make you take your time.
2007-11-28 01:10:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls are not attracted to nice guys. It is like a law or something. The ones that are, are looked at as weird. If you stopped looking at just what guys look like and started looking at what guys act like, you might be a happier person.
2007-11-28 01:10:43 · answer #4 · answered by ________ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you later evaluate the guy and determine that he was a jerk, you are doing so from a wider perspective. that's how you can tell he's a jerk.
the solution?
well, try to make yourself use that same wider perspective at the time, and you'll be able to avoid these jerks, and find a real man who can treat you the way you deserve to be treated!
2007-11-28 01:08:50 · answer #5 · answered by sir_mix_occasionally 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont have this problem because I'm not into dudes, but from what it sounds like you like the bad boys and it's hard for you to turn in for a goody to shoes
2007-11-28 01:08:45 · answer #6 · answered by Chock Lesnar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a good question.i can't figure woman at all.you all say you want a nice guy , then you go with a jerkoff.then wonder if there are any good guys left. we are all over the place. i swear you all like being treated like sht.the worse your treated the more you go back for
2007-11-28 01:17:23 · answer #7 · answered by digger 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
decent guys never follows u & never try 2 talk 2 u.
2007-11-28 01:37:32 · answer #8 · answered by batista_nicky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join the Stupid Girl Club. There's thousands of you.
2007-11-28 01:09:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
screw F***wits. I know a lot of them and treat their girls like crap.
dudes that are nice to girls but know when to stand out for themselves are the way to go..
2007-11-28 01:16:23 · answer #10 · answered by C47V3779 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋