What is to be said of a female that has slept with 30 men? & would the same be thought of a man?

Question

In today's society, when looking at a woman around 20-25, what we be thought about her for sleeping with 30 men?

Would a man be considered to fit into the same opinion about the female? Is it okay because of our society for a man to have more female partners? And would it be more okay for a man to have a 3 some (w/all girls) than it would be for a female to have a 3 some (w/all guys) ?

-My bf & I have very strong opinions on this ... please help!

Answer 1

Thank you for asking this question(s). I have enjoyed reading all of the answers...lol

I am in my 30s, been with one man all my life...have sexual fantasies and yes a 3some is of interest to me...for the longest time, in my dreams, it has always been two of my husband...like a clone (not a twin brother). He is amused as I vividly describe to him how I am pleasured by my two men...even wrote them up in my fantasies and gave them to him to read...For him a 3some with me and another female is "art"...yes, he would be interested in that. We never did it because we are afraid of how it would change our happy home....so it remains in my head...my fantasy...Good luck.

Answer 2

Well if a guy or a girl has been with 30 different people I would say they are loose and s*uts. I would not date or get serious about any woman who has been with that many men. If a woman has been with more than 5 guys she is not worth spending my time on. Yes guys do get more freedom in that area it is not fair but it's true. I have a friend who has sleep with well, we stopped counting at 53 women. He is a male sl*t. I also think a 3 way is not good I don't care if your a guy or a girl. If your a girl I do look down upon it more and would see her as more of a sl*t than a guy that did the same, though both are really not very good people. I guess I am a little old fashioned to some degree. I will admit I have been with 11 women and in all honesty I regret all but 1. Wish I could take the other 10 back. I no longer do the one night stand thing and have not for the past 3 years. The thing is I do not want a woman that has been with a lot of guys. It makes the fact that she is with me less special and would make me feel like just another number which I don't want to be. I also think it would be unfair if I continued to sleep around only to only seriously date a women who is not like that. You see what I mean, that's why I have stopped. The truth is women are looked at as a sl*t if they have been with more than 5 or 7 guys and are in their 20's. That's just the way it is. Guys as a rule are not seen as bad or male sl*ts unless they have been with like 15 to 20 women and are in their 20's. No it's not fair but that's just the way people seem to view it. =)

Answer 3

In my generation, a women that had 30 men would be considered a w****. She would be the talk of the town and a huge scandal and disgrace to the women. A man on the other had is just a dog all around. Doesn't matter the amount of women he has had, it's in his nature to pop everyone he can. Even a male animal does the same. It's just a male thing. Yes, it would be more acceptable for a man to have two women than for a women to have two men. One thing you must consider, A man can wash a women off, a women can not wash a man out.

Answer 4

The standard for men and women is also just as variable although you will certainly find more acceptance for a man with those numbers than for a woman. Threesomes, same thing, who really wants to think of their delicate little flower surrounded by two obviously freaky men. That's 4 pairs of balls, two penis, and two really nasty hairy butts. That's a lot to imagine for many men.
By contrast, the image of two ladies vaulting all over some poor guy. Being fondled and confused as he is trying to decide which one is orally pleasing him and which one is pleasing the other is a tasty treat for a man to imagine.
Women, like a man that other women find attractive so it's even appealing and to some extent accepted that a man has done such things. It takes a special kind of woman to have two guys kissing on each other then on to her... Most women have said that the picture is diminishing to the idea of masculinity, I would have to agree. Although, if no touching were involved the dynamics might change from a female perspective.
Think about the amount of women that say they don't like bi men but feel no such angst when it comes to female/female relations. I think it's funny, but I really am glad that such women exist... Basically it goes back to who you are standing in front of, when asking that question. If you think it's too much slow down, if he thinks it's too much tell him to get over it and keep that type of conversation off the table of things to discus with your love interest.
Will you/won't you? Fair game. How many? Off limits.

Answer 5

Time to bust this bubble. He'll be coming back till he's dead. You don't have to do much but let him in the door. This man is not just twice your age, he's twice your age, plus eight. He's got hemmorrhoids older than you. But if you really want to know the depth of his love, have him listen to your favorite music, and download it for your pleasure. I wonder what the two of you discuss after the cigarette, I mean does he tell you about his life, or lecture you about yours?He's a little insecure because he knows that when he's seventy five years young, you'll be approaching fifty. Life expendency in the USA is about seventy two for a white boy, but he may do better since his sex life will still be vigorous, and that tends to keep one feeling chipper though the prostate has been giving one fits for the last ten years. He knows you may need, not just want, but need a person nearer your generation for the long haul. The most he can do for you is give you knowledge of proper style and grace to charm any male. By the time your thirty and entering the most demanding time of a womans life, he'll no longer qualify for that great rate on life insurance. Have him get as much as he can carry, and adopt you, same bennies as marriage without the stress of till death do you part. As any man over forty can tell you, there's lots of things worse than death. See if he'll foot the bill for you to enter Law School. Might as well become a lawyer, you might need it at probate.

Answer 6

It's bad for both. It shows that sex is just a toy, a way of pleasure. It also shows they have had very few if any long term relationships, some kind of mental issues there. Unable to commit to one person, but then again you could say a woman has been with two men and had sex with them 1000 times, it would be better than 30 partners one time.

Answer 7

in todays society i think the women would be looked at as being too promiscious and a high risk for diseases. a women who has no respect for herself and considered just an easy lay. a man would just be considered a player and not someone who is ready to settle down, no big deal for him. as far as a 3 some goes, i think it is ok for a married couple with either another women or another man.

Answer 8

If a guy sleeps with a girl that has had thirty men. That guy has (in essence) slept with those men as well because of her reputation. No opinions here, it's the truth.

Answer 9

Society tends to tolerate men having multiple partner more than women. To me both are equally wrong.

Answer 10

a MAN THAT had already slept with 30 women is better than a woman that had already been slept with 30 men............but they both dont deserve to have 3 at the same time...........