My sister won't get off my back. How do I get her to leave me alone?

Question

My sister is 18 and about to go to college for violin. I want to learn to play the guitar.
we both need instruents.
She dosen't even want me to learn the guitar.
every time I practice she looks at me and raises one eyebrow and tells me what kind of an idiot I am, and that I can't play to save my life. she dose this with almost everything I do and I feel like she thinks that I'll never succeed in anything I do.

Please help.

Answer 1

She feels this is "her thing" and you're creeping in on her zone. Also, all the violinists I know are snobs. Seriously. So she probably looks down on you like "oh, he just wants to play the guitar...."

Who cares what she thinks anyways? She's 18 and acting like an 8 year old. Move on honey.

Good luck

Answer 2

How really, disturbingly tragic it is that you are not "best friends" instead of jealous rivals! Why do suppose that you kids were NOT RAISED to be good, supportive, loyal, loving FRIENDS???

I'm really very sorry for you kids that you have been PARENTED so badly (Same in my own family!) and brought up to be so hostile and unfriendly.

BUT IT'S NOT TOO LATE to undo the damages of your parental training and begin to develop the kind of loving and encouraging relationship you should have been given from the beginning.

You alone (even if your sister sticks with the hostility that she was trained to express) could begin to show and express: loyalty, concern, friendship, LOVE, pleasant humor, supportive interest in her deeds, friendly treatment, and all the most positive things you can think of that you would like to have given to you (even tho your were not trained in early childhood to be this way!).

By setting such a friendly EXAMPLE, you may see your sister and others treating you that way in return - or you may never see her change from her childhood programing - BUT at least you will be setting into motion a standard of behavior and treatment that will benefit you elsewhere later in life - especially in intimate relationships.

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Answer 3

The next time she says this to you tell her. Are you really that insecure in your violin playing that you have to put down my guitar playing. I think she has gotten used to being the musical person in your family and now that you are starting to learn to play music she maybe becoming insecure. While it is nice to have her support and good wishes it is not necessary to achieve either. Do what makes you happy and you will be a success.

Answer 4

Ignore her! My siblings used to make me feel like such a failure even though I had the straight a's and they barely passed. Dreams weren't something you shared in our family and if you did they just made you feel like dreaming was a waste of time. Do what makes you happy and if they don't support you do it anyways. You don't want to look back and have regrets! You may want her approval but you don't need anyone to validate what you want to do with your life. It's yours, live it doing whatever will make you happy!

Answer 5

My dear, ti's your sister that sounds young and immature. It is not what instrument you play. It is the desire and passion that you put into it. Let her raise her eyebrow. ( will just give her wrinkles). Every time she makes a idiotic remark or put down, get up, give her a hug and say I will miss you when your gone, then smile walk away. Believe me that will shock her. Do it every single time...LOL!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

shes jealous that you'll be better than her