after you visit his house and go back to yours letting him know you got home safe and ok?
I told my boyfriend it is important for me if he asks me to tell him I got home ok but he does not consider it important and does not do it and it bothers me because it shows lack of concern about me even if it is safe or whatever if it is late then the least I expect is for him to care if I got home safe or ok.
Am I being too wrong on it or is he just not interested on what happens?
I do tell him but he just does as he pleases; some times is concerned and other simply does not care or pays attention to it al all.
I do not wish to be possesive or needy; but I do not see it as something bad either to wish to be cared more or shown more interest either.
2007-11-27 16:34:51 · 21 answers · asked by Pandora 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No.
2007-11-27 16:38:03 · answer #1 · answered by Street Smart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both my boyfriend and I always text or call when we go somewhere... Theres got to be some reason why he's uncomfortable with this.. Is there any way he could be hiding something? Like he doesn't want you to know when he gets home, so that you don't know he may have gone somewhere else, or seen someone else? I know that it sucks to think like that, but you've got to be sure.. You're NOT wrong at ALL to want this. It's a healthy part of a relationship. Its not possessive or needy, and he needs to shape up or ship out. I wish you the best of luck, hon...
2007-11-27 16:41:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stuff like that is not important to some guys. some want to make sure you are ok when you get home and ask you to call. others figure that you will call if anything happens on the way home. i suggest you let this go. dont expect him to ask you to call him...just do it. when you get home call him and let him know you got home safely. after a while he will be concerned if you dont call when you get home.
2007-11-27 16:39:56 · answer #3 · answered by Lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! it's just normal for ladies to be more needy... but sometimes guys gives this reason to us "we are not that showy"..... i know how you feel.. cuz, my boyfriend does it all the time when go to his apartment.. i leave his apartment at midnight and he doesn't even bother to send sms or call me if i arrived home safely... of course i feel bad not receiving a call or sms when i got home so what i do is to send him sms/call informing him that i'm home but sometimes i do it in a sarcastic way... sometimes guys are not showy, they care actually but they don't show it... and that's what we try to understand..
2007-11-27 16:48:17 · answer #4 · answered by c bit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say it's something to end the relationship over, but I understand your frustration. I felt the same with my ex boyfriend. We argued/discussed it once and he just said that it's SO unlikely that something will happen that he doesn't think it's important. It does not mean he does not care about you. He just doesn't think anything will happen. If you tell him that you'd appreciate it, then he might give a little. However, you can't change their personal feelings about it.
2007-11-27 16:39:22 · answer #5 · answered by Lum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my gf and i are about a month away from our 2 year and i call her every day when i get home, hell, even if i think of something and want to hear her voice. Youre not being at all wrong, but u also have to remember, were guys. some of us r good and some of us dont care
2007-11-27 16:38:17 · answer #6 · answered by rvvitale 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe FOR YOU it's too much to ask, and if it is; you know what you should be looking for in a man. Then again, maybe he's great in every other way for you, but that. Only you know the answer. Sounds to me like he doesn't have that in his programming, does he show you another way that he has concern for you?
2007-11-27 16:45:58 · answer #7 · answered by HotDockett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are worried that something might happen on the way home and you would feel really happy if some cute big protective guy were to make sure you were ok :) cuz you know that he is the one who can protect you and be there for you. This will make him feel macho and needed, and I bet it will make him learn to ask you to call! Or for him to make the call himself! :)
2007-11-27 16:44:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though this might be a bit of a stretch, I believe that his failure to show consideration for you is a sign of things to come. It is typical for a relationship to cool down over time, but he is already on a fast pace to choosing his friends over you. I believe he should want to talk to you any chance he gets. I would ask him again to adhere to this simple request, and if he refuses, than perhaps it is time to seek someone who actually cares enough about you to take your feelings into consideration.
2007-11-27 16:38:57 · answer #9 · answered by brian f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be nice if he was concerned but you asking him to do it doesn't MAKE him concerned.. He'd just be following orders. And further, if he called and you weren't home he certainly wouldn't do anything about it because there was no concern in the first place.
He should be WALKING you home not calling.
2007-11-27 16:42:34 · answer #10 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to expect him to worry about you and that's good, but not all people go to that much extent to make sure someone is safe. Yes, it is nice and shows that they really worry about you, but not all people are like that; other people can possibly be worrying, but just don't tell the other person unless it comes to really testing that worry.
2007-11-27 16:39:09 · answer #11 · answered by LiZi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋