I am 18, and still living at home as I am a senior in high school. I live with my mom and abide by her wishes. I make straight A's, tel her everythign about my life, have never done drugs or smoked a cigarrette or gotten drunk. Unfortunately my mom is a prude and highly protective, so if I want to hang out with friends, she has to talk to the parents first. When she talks, it is more like an iterrogation, and she is always highly paraniod. I would never do anything she doesnt want me to, but when my friends get together on the weekend, and I have to be home by 11, then there isnt much fun I can have. My friends usually hang out until 1 a.m., but I would be fine if I could stay out until 12. I am lucky enough as it is, because she gets angry when I come home at 11. any ideas?
2007-11-27 16:23:50 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My parents were like your mom when I was in HS. I also made straight As in school and never did anything to upset them. At the time I didn't understand why they were being so protective of me. To make it more interesting, I stayed home throughout college. The day that I moved out was when I got married. This was quite some years back. Lol.
Now that I'm no longer living at home (about time...lol), I actually asked my parents why they behaved that way. Their answer was "We didn't want anything to happen to you!" I explained to them that they made my HS life so miserable. I felt like they robbed my semi-adulthood away from me because like your mom, my parents put me on a 10 pm curfew. After our talk, they told they didn't know how I was feeling because I didn't really tell them and express my feelings.
I regret for not making a greater effort in standing up for myself. You should sit your mom down and really talk to her. I mean...talk to her. Maybe she doesn't know that she's being overprotective. Let her know exactly how you feel and tell her she has nothing to worry about. She can trust you to do the right thing. After all, you are a very good student and that shows her that you can make good choices...even when she's not around to look after you. =)
Good luck!
2007-11-27 17:07:06 · answer #1 · answered by Adn's Mommie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could help you but unfortunately I am in the exact same boat as you. I'm also 18 and still living at home and a straight A student who has never gotten in trouble in her life. However, both of my parents refuse to cut the apron strings despite the fact that I am in college! It's so frustrating. Maybe you could try explaining to her the reasons you believe you should be allowed to be out later, tell her that if she really loved you that she would trust you. Although, I'll admit that none of this has worked on my parents as they are just stubborn like heck. My only solution would be to move out, I'm thinking about applying to on campus residence next semester and I suggest you do the same because I believe that'll be the only way to get our parents of our backs and to let them know that we are trustworthy.
2007-11-27 16:32:26 · answer #2 · answered by punky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg...she needs to loosen up a little! Your 18 and seems like you never ever had fun! Mommy is not always gonna be there to make your decisions later in life. You need to grow and find out who you really are not what mommy wants you to be. Talk to her about h0w you feel. If won't be easy but at least your voice will be heard!
2007-11-27 16:34:27 · answer #3 · answered by Miss H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Won't be long until you can leave that kind of opressive parent and make you own life - hopefully better.
Meanwhile study up on exactly what a healthy/good relationship is and see if you can introduce some of those concepts to your overbearing parent (s). When you learn what constitutes a good relationship, you may see what you need to expect and demand from others - even your parents.
Start learning in here and look in some books:
http://www.google.com/search?q=relationships&sourceid=navclient-ff&ie=UTF-8&rls=GGGL,GGGL:2006-40,GGGL:en
2007-11-27 17:30:29 · answer #4 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is tell your mom how you feel!! Its not that she doesnt trust you she just wants to protect you by all means and she doesnt want you to make any mistakes.
2007-11-27 16:28:49 · answer #5 · answered by Mrz. @mAzing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do different things so she can earn your trust
2007-11-27 16:34:38 · answer #6 · answered by calmgirly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋