Well I'm 18 years old and in college. I have a really close friend who lives in Georgia while I live in Texas. She recently invited me to stay over her house with her family for a week during winter break (the week before Christmas) I agreed to it. Well I'm still living at home and when I told my father about my plans he told me I'm not allowed to go! I don't know maybe I'm being bratty or something but I see no reason why he shouldn't let me go. I am going to pay for the ticket out of my own pocket. I am 18 and have never gotten in trouble in my life, I'm very trustworthy. I've never done drugs, I've never gotten drunk, I rarely go out with my friends, I barely HAVE any friends, I'm a straight A student. My friend is my age and we've known each other for years now, her family is just like mine and my parents have meet her and her parents many times and they know what a couple of goody goodies we are. How can I make him understand that I'm an adult now?
2007-11-27 16:05:07 · 9 answers · asked by punky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tjnstlouismo I did ask him why, I did present my case, he is stubborn and he refused to give me an explanation, he simply said that I am not allowed to go and I don't understand it.
2007-11-27 16:18:06 · update #1
An adult would ask her father why. An adult would be able to present her case without whining on Yahoo answers about it. Maybe he knows that just because you can say you are an adult doesn't mean you are.
2007-11-27 16:10:15 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Explain to him all that you put on this page and If he still says no, then just go. Like you said you are 18 and have the money to pay for the ticket. He cares about you and doesn't want anything bad to happen to you, but It's time to do things on your own. What's he going to do ground you??? Leave him a note on the day of your trip out along with your cell number and have fun. He might be pissed that you would disobey him but who cares. If he knows exactly where you are then you are showing him you are responsable enough to let him know. Good Luck!!
2007-11-28 00:19:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Punky,
You are a very nice girl with no bad habits. You also seem to be good at taking care of yourself and doing all your things properly. In this case also, you use you such intelligence and abilities. You wanted to go, your dad said no. Instead of feeling bad about him or worrying over it, think why he could have said you should not go. If you are not able to find, tell your dad that you are confused why he said you should not go and hence could he please tell you what made him say so. Dont tell him you are an adult, it is your money etc, that will only make things worse. Dont blame him or feel bad of him also. Let him clarify and then you will understand why.
take care..
2007-11-28 00:20:20 · answer #3 · answered by doer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately many parents have a view of their house, their rules. It sounds like your Dad thinks this way and unless you can reason with him or compromise I would suggest not going until you are out on your own and can make these decisions without starting a father/daughter war at home.
2007-11-28 00:11:08 · answer #4 · answered by Laceyfromcali 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your dad needs to cut the apron strings and trust you on getting there in one piece. thats what scares him not your going to do bad things. watch the news teens are abducted and never seen again and your a good girl. maybe if you plan where you will stay in touch with him on the trip sweetie you are lucky to have someone love you like that but you are like you said 18 time to learn to travel where you like goodluck and have a great time be also very careful
2007-11-28 00:15:51 · answer #5 · answered by maree2007hamill 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am 31 years of age and my Daddy still will not let me go. I am even married with 4 kids. Sometimes a dad just can not let go of there little girl.
2007-11-28 00:28:08 · answer #6 · answered by folkner6 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is being very protective of his little girl. i say take it as a good thing. However you should talk to him more about it. Daddys are very protective, and i'm sure thats all he is trying to do.
2007-11-28 00:10:32 · answer #7 · answered by Michael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have done drugs, got drunk, and hung out more with your friends. having done so, you would have prepped your father for this circumstance and he probably would have said "no problem"! lol
Seriously though, just talk to him, tell him what you've told us., maybe he'll see the light.
good luck!
2007-11-28 00:17:33 · answer #8 · answered by sportguy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're 18!
If I were you, I'd MOVE OUT!
2007-11-28 01:33:01 · answer #9 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋