question for married men ???

Question

if a young and very attractive female made it clear that she was interested in you, would you return the attention back ????

Answer 1

Note: I am no longer married, as my ex-wife cheated on me.

Now, your question is quite vague, as "interested" and "attention" are innocent sounding words. I offer my attention to people all the time.

If you mean cheating, I think this shows a lack of respect for oneself. If someone is not feeling their bond with your partner, they should break it off before getting involved with someone else. I simply can't fathom how anyone would not understand the simple adage; "If they will do it with you [i.e., cheat] they will do it to you."

Answer 2

I'm going to answer this based on the assumption that by "attention" you actually mean sexual advances.

Not just yes, but HELL yes!

However, I am not a-typical of the average pu__y whipped American male.I am a firm opponent of monogamy as a basis for a relationship. Period.

Once a person begins to view another persons genitals as private property, (which sadly, is the norm these days) they begin to open a relationship up to a number of thoughts and ideals that are counter-productive to a healthy relationship. Jealosy is certainly the best known of these, but there is also a sense of property that can only be equated to sexual slavery. Sexual repression is just a single step along the path that leads to deeper psychological issues of self esteem, self worth, body image, etc.

This "special bond" of contrived sexual monogamy compels the vast majority of people who have been "cheated on" to throw away perfectly good relationships over something that can actually BENEFIT the relationship. But, I'll get back to that.

Now, while MOST people hold to the belief that monogamy makes a relationship "special" I am compelled to ask:
A. If it is what the majority of people think, whats so damned special about it?
B. Since every person in the world of any given sex has basicly the same genetalia, why should anyone really care about it in the first place. You may not have seen mine, but if you've seen just one, you have a pretty good idea of what mine looks like, nes pah?
C. When you marry someone, do you honestly believe you're just marrying their privates, or do you believe you are marrying a whole person?
and...
D. If you believe you married a whole person, is it then inconcievable that that whole person may occasionally have needs or desires you are unable, or unwilling, to fulfill?

Back to the benefits. In a relationship that does not include monogamy, you or your lover may
-retard or remove jealosy from your relationship entirely, which is one of the most destructive forces in any relationship.
- discover new levels of communication since communication is limited at a rate eqaul to the repression of thought or action in a relationship
- learn new and exciting ways to please your mate sexually and make your sex more satisfying
- discover freedoms of a non-sexual nature as a byproduct of removing monogamy as a prime directive of the marriage
- gain self esteem as a result of being able to freely express yourself with people outside the relationship

The benefit of monogamy, aside from the religious fluff, is simply this
-you won't catch an STD.

All things considered, that IS a big one! AIDS is some scarey stuff, and no mistake about it! Even through the use of condoms and other safe sex practices, there is always the slim possibility that you may get it. However, unless sex is your profession, most people run a greater risk of dying in a thousand other gruesome ways long before they contract an STD, let alone get killed by one.

Herpes remains the king of STDs. I don't know about you, but I would rather get used to the phrase "Not tonight, I have a cold sore" than throw away my marriage, house, cars, family, investment portfolio, retirement plans, and all the other baggage that comes with a marriage over something as trivial as what my wife is doing with her privates.

Since that is how I feel, I expect the same consideration in return.

-SD-

Answer 3

Probably not - I am completely content/fulfilled/consumed with one major relationship in my life already. On the other hand, I would certainly feel very flattered and I would feel tremendously good about the attention. I would probably tell her just as directly that she should look for someone else and might introduce her to one of my younger brothers or if she was a great deal younger than myself perhaps I would introduce her to my son.

Answer 4

Read my question on sunday. It was one of the first times that a question recieved such a blessing of answers, from both sides. All the the best.

Answer 5

I always do.
I can look but I cannot touch.
Then again ..... I have done before and I could be sufficiently tempted in the future.
Call me?

Answer 6

not married

and it would depend on the person
attraction to one may not be to another
and looks isnt everything

Answer 7

Nope. My Bishop would defrock me and my wife would kill me.