She and I were togeth from 99-fall of 06. I proposed to her in Amsterdam, fat ring, live on the radio in 25 countries. Summer of 06 I really neglected her. She had an affair and got preg. now she HATES the guy and is realizing everything her familiy and I told her was true. I have career, this guy is loser sleeps till noon, cooks for living , and is druggie.should I forgive her and take on her & her baby?I really love her,but know I deserve better.right? She and I have been all over the world together. this guy was just a predator and only wanted to get his genes into the next genepool. he promised her to get a better job, stop smoking ect... He did breifly, but went right back to his old ways.hes 39 shes 25.Im 33 & confused right now.Espec@ x-mas. I just dont want to think she wants back togeth becaus "im a better provider" I know if I take this on..I will be saint.just paid ring off(which I have) help.any sug?shedue12-10.we have been intim whil preg! for furth insite see my otherques
2007-11-27 15:38:15 · 14 answers · asked by James H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dude. no. think about it. if she can do this to you now imagine when ur married with her. and u had to work late hours and stuff. what will happen then?
but if u really positively think that she would change and all that and that ur crazy about each other then go for it. if both of u know the responsibility of each other to run a marriage than everything will be fine. but after a while. promises are forgotten, responsibilities are neglected. and so on.
what i suggest is that you talk it out. plan. especially with the baby coming u don't want it to be born into a broken marrige if u decide to do so. think about the future in this issue. it shouldn't be taken lightly. an innocent soul is involved.
but before u do so. are u sure you can wake up every morning see her face. see the kid's face without any regrets??
2007-11-27 15:53:19 · answer #1 · answered by neddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who's on drugs again???
I think YOU oughta quit your good job, start cooking, continue the drugs and get some chick knocked up.
Option 2 realize she choose someone else other than you and from here on, her life will be about the kid (if not that's another 'issue'). Best thing for you - more on.
Easy for me to say because you are in love?- sure, but someone has to have some sense here and do the best thing for you. Are you hard up or something?
Find someone who will love and respect you.
2007-11-27 23:55:51 · answer #2 · answered by true_value5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That woman is talking because she knows that she can get over on you... you will be providing for her and the baby she created with someone else, and she should have talked to you about being lonely instead of stepping out with someone else... my husband is working most of the time yes I get bored and lonely but what we have together is not worth throwing away for little bit of "sex"
2007-11-27 23:48:15 · answer #3 · answered by micheleh29 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what the right answer is.....As you stated in Your Question " I ( you ) deserve better " & " I ( you ) just don't want to think she wants back together because I ( you ) am a better provider ". Once a cheat----always a cheat. Time for you to move on. If you don't move on...Don't say you were not warned !
2007-11-27 23:52:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes probably coming back to you because shes alone now and pregnant. and she knows that you can take good care of her and her baby. you deserve so much better. i mean, how do you know that she wont do it again? so just leave. you should find someone better. you guys were together for so long and then she does this. and after she now hates the guy..she comes back running back to you. pleasseee. you can do so much better
2007-11-27 23:44:39 · answer #5 · answered by j yanks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont ask us! ASK URSELF! if u love her and u feel like you can spend the rest of your life with her then go for it! BUT if u feel like u love her but not enough because you know what she did and she might do it again. Its like a prom dress, you dont buy it unless u dont have any doubts! hahaa lol anyways so ya i would put some deep thought into this one brotha! LOL GOOD LUCK ;)
2007-11-27 23:43:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you forgive her, and get married maybe it will be hard for you cause her baby has the right to see his/her dad so he has the right to do so... I married with someone who had a baby with somebody else and when i got marrie it was very hard for me , cause my husband had to contact with his son's mom, and for me it was hard to accepted it,=.. It means that it can also be hard for you, because now or in some future they have to be in contact.... so THINK ABOUT IT.... IF I knew that it was going to happened to me, TRUST me i would married with a single man........ THINK BEFORE YOU MAKE A CHOoSE....
2007-11-27 23:50:15 · answer #7 · answered by @@@@ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not reading the details. All you needed to say was in the question. NO! NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Don't let that woman anywhere near you. You deserve better! I feel badly for the kid, though....
2007-11-27 23:46:22 · answer #8 · answered by The Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ONLY YOU CAN ANSWER THAT.yOU KNOW THE BEST .oK SHE HAD AN AFFAIR,AND GOT PREGNANT.wHY DID SHE NOT USE PROTECTION?yOU MAY BE OPENING YOURSELF TO A WHOLE LOT MORE HEARTACHE BY TAKING HER BACK.tHIS GUY WILL BE IN HER LIFE FOREVER.
2007-11-27 23:45:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you do is up to you --- for me if it was my lady yes of course i would accept the situation --- i want her happiness and if she wants to be with me then that is fine ---- probably the best thing to do is have a serious talk and see what you both decide ---- best wishes
2007-11-27 23:44:34 · answer #10 · answered by trader1867 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋