I'm strapped for cash. My cousin and I rarely see each other, not even for Christmas (but I see the rest of her family). I can't remember a time we have both exchanged presents. But, this year I'd like to buy her children something now that they are getting older and like toys.
Should I? Or not? Maybe buy her and the boyfriend something small?
2007-11-27 15:21:23 · 11 answers · asked by PlasticTrees 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
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2007-11-27 15:27:22 · update #1
NO it is not wrong, but you might gently say to her this year I am just for you or your honey just for the kids hope you donut' mind..
2007-12-01 12:19:28 · answer #1 · answered by LittleDaisy. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong at all. In my family, no adults buy for other adults--we buy for the children only (nieces, nephews, sons and daughters, younger siblings, etc.). Most adults (unless you're practically homeless) don't NEED anything. For kids, Christmas is all about presents and fun; adults should know better and understand the real reason behind the holiday, and know that it's about giving.
2007-11-28 02:06:11 · answer #2 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like the idea of presents for the kids and not the grownups. However, if you will be celebrating at their house, you might want to bring a hostess gift such as a bottle of wine, or flowers. More of a token than a serious gift. If you are celebrating with her at someone else's home, I wouldn't worry about it.
I applaud you for staying within your limited budget and not loading up your credit cards. You'll be much better off in the long run.
2007-11-27 15:43:13 · answer #3 · answered by oldernwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my family, the adults have stopped buying gifts for each other and just buy for each others' kids...the family has gotten way too big and it's just too expensive.
Christmas is really more for the little ones anyway. The adults should just be happy with having everyone together for the holidays.
2007-11-27 15:26:48 · answer #4 · answered by LolaCorolla 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No Christmas is more about the children anyhow hun..Besides if you start sending them all presents then one year when you really can't afford to buy the parents presents then they will be offended.
2007-11-27 15:29:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that's fine. In most families, presents are only given to children. It's too expensive include adults. It's not rude at all.
2007-11-27 15:27:11 · answer #6 · answered by J'adore 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Christmas is for the kids. You don't have to get the mom and bf anything, but if you can afford to a box of chocolates would be appropriate.
2007-11-27 15:43:29 · answer #7 · answered by plaplant8 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no thats fine people do that to me all the time my kids get tons of gifts and often i get none,but buying them a gift is like buying me some thing i totall dont mind and i feel your cousin will understand also.
2007-11-27 15:34:16 · answer #8 · answered by cocoa 4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong. You do not have to buy anyone anything. If you want to buy for her children then I would do it. That does not mean that you are obligated to buy for anyone else.
2007-11-27 16:24:24 · answer #9 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it wouldn't be wrong. I think they'd be happy that you bought the kids something.
2007-11-27 15:25:02 · answer #10 · answered by Little Red Hen 2.0 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋