I dated a guy for about a year and we broke up about 4 months ago. In this time we havent really talked but my friend who is still friends with him says he asks about me all the time and still cares for me. Well, this made me excited and decided that I wanted to see him so I asked him if he wanted to hang out sometime. He ended up telling me that he was kinda seeing someone else and it wouldnt be a good idea. I am having trouble with the fact that I was so excited about him asking about me I began to get feelings for him again only to be shot down. Now my depression seems to be even worse. Any advice on what to do?
2007-11-27 15:18:32 · 6 answers · asked by erin5700 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
My sister went through a situation similar to this when she was in college. Ultimately, you will have to make your own choice on what path you want to take, but I will lend the same adivce that I gave her.
Move on! Start focusing on improving yourself in every way possible. That includes working out, reading, school/work, hobbies or whatever gives you a passion and zest for life. Spend more time with your family and close friends. It is hard at first, but what you will find is that you are providing yourself with direction, focus, and pride in yourself. All of which lend themselves to you being involved with and dating people of substance.
As far as your ex stating that he asks about you all the time and that he still has feelings for you.....that is typical guy malarkey. I have friends and acquaintances who have and are trying that same game. They have moved on to a new flame and they are still trying to keep their ex 'in the loop' as a hook-up or fall back option. Trying to have their cake and eat it to so to speak.
Just my two cents worth. I hope this helps and good luck as you move forward.
2007-11-27 15:42:01 · answer #1 · answered by Crimson Bannister 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
noone likes to be shot down, and everyone feels depressed when bad things happen.
i went through a breakup not that long ago but even though you feel sad about it you have to think about the new and exciting things that are going to happen in your life. i know you think what im saying is bs but you are going to be starting again and everything is going to be new....
another first kiss,
another first "i love you"
and everyone knows when you get a new partner that they must be an upgrade from the last haha
goodluck
2007-11-27 23:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It takes time, you're basically "in mourning" for your old relationship.
I've known people who actually have funerals for old marriages. They fill a coffin with relics of the past relationship, bury the coffin with a few friends in attendance. Say final words of good bye. It sounds kind of silly, but it really helped them out.
Maybe you need to bury the past literally?
2007-11-28 12:29:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might still care about you, and ask, that is natural. Your friend might be stretching it a little, about him asking all the time to make you feel better. That is where you are getting confused. Yeah, time to move on, it's hard, but necessary.
2007-11-27 23:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by Clipper 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can't or refuse to move on? What has not moving on got you has he come back to you because of it ahhh nope. Get out experience your own life without him in it. You had life before him and you will have life after him this is a temporary situation.
2007-11-27 23:31:21 · answer #5 · answered by mdjgirl7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it go girl!!!!! I.m not trying to hurt your feelings but he is probably telling your friend that because she is your friend and he doesnt want to seem like an asshole.(because he knows shes going to come back and rell you)... dont be bummed about it move on!!!!!!
2007-11-27 23:23:16 · answer #6 · answered by torontogreekgirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋