Quick question:
If you don't plan on marrying the current guy i'm dating, then do you think i should still be with him, or exprience life more.
He's ninteen years old and i'm sixteen. He made me give up all my best guy friends for him, and takes this relationship extreamly seriously.
We have been together for four months now, and he's already told me he loved me.
I don't plan on marrying the guy, so is he holding me back?
How do i end such a serious relationship?
2007-11-27 15:11:41 · 21 answers · asked by Talik M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO, do HIM a HUGE favor and break up with him right away.
2007-11-27 15:14:25 · answer #1 · answered by ValleyR 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im going to be very honest with you i do believe in love at a young age but to get married so young, is like giving up your youth this guy have already had a chance to experince life and to see whats out there. You haven't! You should lets this guy know that you are not ready to get married right now, and explain to him why and he can except that then. there is a more deserving gentleman out there for you! you have already lost your best friends, how much more are you willing to give up for someone who is so controlling. he is truly holding you back! i can tell that you are very mature because you are seeking advice! Just be honest with him and tell him that you are still young and want to experinece life before thinking about getting to serious! hope this helped
2007-11-27 23:22:50 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Picot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, you should not stay with him. First of all, if he is controlling enough to make you give up your guy friends for him, then he will control you in other ways and you're already experiencing signs of an unhealthy relationship.
Also, when you date someone, one of three things happens:
1) You break up
2) Your significant other dies
3) You get married.
If you don't seriously consider yourself to have a future with this guy, then just end it. Tell him he's not right for you and then start experiencing other people. You're just at the right age to start exploring dating, don't let some jerk hold you back.
2007-11-27 23:17:55 · answer #3 · answered by charlie charlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so, heres my opinion!.. I've been in your situation exactly except I was 17 and he was 19. I knew ever since we started dating that I didnt want what he did at least not with him anyway. I was too scared to hurt his feelings and end it so I ended up staying with him for 2 years !! knowing that he wasn't right for me. I regret it so much because I know I coud have experienced more things being still in high and being my age. He was very protective and didnt let me hang out with friends or even talk to anyone really expecially guys. If your boyfriend has already started making you give up your friends.. please please end it .. you need to experience during highschool and have fun!. I got into a serious relationship soon after I ended mine but the difference was he was trustworthy and let me have friends and just be me. I'm so glad that I finally ended my relationship afterr two years of knowing ididnt want to be with him for the rest of my life because i got to meet someone I could actually picture myself being with! I hope this changes your mind a bit and you make the right decision!
2007-11-27 23:26:39 · answer #4 · answered by <3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're only 16, and your bf is talking about marriage already, he's crazy, he doesn't know what he want, he still haven't exprience life, he's still a very young adult, when things happen later, he will regret this.
if you don't plan on marrying the guy, why are you still with him, talk to him about how you feel, if he love you like you said, he should respect your feeling and answer. you're too young for this, life is just starting for you, there's so much other things out there, have fun and enjoy...
2007-11-27 23:20:10 · answer #5 · answered by Kev 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off your dating right now to get expierence your or should I say were (only a year older than you) to young to even think about marriage. Now if this guy is jealous guy and can't accept the fact that you have male friends than its probably not somebody you should spend your time on. Like I said were to young to be thinking about marriage and right now were building friendships all over the place. Who's to say that your boyfriend will be your boyfriend tomorrow you know. But maybe one of those guys you cut loose to be with him is a true friend that would have stuck with you no matter what your situation is you know.
Think of it like this. Those friends that you cut loose to be with a guy your probably not even digging like that could be one of the roots on a tree. Now if you really look at the tree and know a tad bit about a tree those roots last a very long time possibly a life time and imagine your probably upping one of those roots for a guy whose probably like one of those branches on that tree...The branches are very easily broken but for the root of the tree to come tumbling down takes great strength. Hope that made some since. Be wise in your choices momas cause you don't need a guy especially while us teens are at the age that defines what we may be doing in our adult hood. The time is now and distractions aren't needed espeically by a boy whose to ensecure with himself to trust the young lady he's in a relationship with.
2007-11-27 23:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by classymst08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All relationships when you are your age are experimental. Your wants out of a boy who will later become a man will change as you become older and wiser. What is important to you now in a relationship will not be important to you when you are in your 20's and 30's. I wouldn't even date anyone with the intentions of getting married at the age of 16. Good luck.
2007-11-27 23:21:01 · answer #7 · answered by raeki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you are WAY too young to be getting so serious!!!! And how dare he tell you you can't have any guy friends .... he may tell you he loves you, honey, but he's still a control freak. Yes, he is holding you back and down.
You're only going out a few months, just tell him you think it's too serious and that you still want to have fun, and it's better to end it now.
2007-11-27 23:19:30 · answer #8 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't plan on marrying him I thing you owe it to him to let him know! I can say that it is frustrating to have someone on a totally differerent page!! You should find out what his plans are for your relationship and if its marriage...let me know that you have already sacrificed enough and that you can't see yourself marrying him at this time. It would be unfair to him, as well as, yourself if you knew in your heart that you didn't want to marry him, and he had his set on marrying you. If you don't want to get married let him know so that he could pursue someone who does. Then again, he may be willing to wait...but that's a long shot!! ANyways...Good luck and I hope things work out for the best!!
2007-11-27 23:18:05 · answer #9 · answered by divalov 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i look at life this way, keep looking for the person that you want to marry. if you are with him now and you know that you wont marry him in the near future then move on and keep looking that is the only way that you will find the one. if he made you give up all of your best guy friends then he sounds very controlling.
2007-11-27 23:15:23 · answer #10 · answered by melinda k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel the same about him dump him and quit wasting your time. You should be having fun, hanging out with your friends not ditching them because your boyfriend is insecure.
Why are you even thinking about marriage? You're 16!
2007-11-27 23:26:30 · answer #11 · answered by Ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋