After school, all of the pious Muslim guys go down to the "prayer room" we have to pray asr...i also go to pray asr and qa'da zuhr, but none of the other girls go. I feel really awkward if i walk into the room and all of the guys are there talking and getting ready for prayer, and i am the ONLY girl! (also i am not quite used to praying in jamaah yet, it makes me kinda nervous) So i pray in an alcove right outside of the room, where i can still hear the leader....but they chide me, saying i should pray in the room with them....but i am not quite comfortable with praying in a room with 6 guys and no other girl there for moral support, lol! I'm fine if it is just one or 2 guys, but just the crowd of them makes me realllly nervous, plus i feel like an outsider, being the only convert =/
Is this really silly of me? Eventually i would like to join them, but right now it makes me uncomfortable. They seem to think it is very silly =/
any....advice? lol idk...input!!! Thanks =)
2007-11-27 14:16:48 · 18 answers · asked by lazuzhashem 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Ramadan
haha one of the problems is that, if i wait for them to finish, the prayer time may finish! =/
2007-11-27 14:48:41 · update #1
I know it is ok to pray with the guys...i just feel nervous with such a large crowd, i guess i feel like an outsider?
2007-11-27 15:07:40 · update #2
lol Jenn there are like 5 cameras in that room so that the school knows we arent actually having sex or dealing drugs.
2007-11-28 09:38:40 · update #3
no i guess thats perfectly sane.. besides its not obligatory for women to pray in jamaat.. so its quite fine! and since it makes you uncomfortable praying with them... dont do it! as far as they are concerned tell them its your problem and they should be least concerned about that.. Islam gives you the right to decide for yourself!
2007-11-27 21:54:49 · answer #1 · answered by Shariq M 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
As a woman you are not obligated to pray Jummah. Only the men are. However there is no harm if you wish to pray Jummah as well. My husband doesn't take me to the mosque at all as it is better for women to pray in the home and because he could get in trouble with his government if his friends discovered he was married as they can't keep quiet all the time. There's nothing to be ashamed of by being the only girl. This just shows that you have more faith in ALLAH(Subhanna wa ta'ala) then the other Muslim girls in your class and Insha ALLAH you will be rewarded for this.
2007-11-28 10:05:42 · answer #2 · answered by wolfkarew 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Congrats for being stronger than those other Muslims. You can pray outside if no one can see you because women shouldb't pray in front of people, especially if they're looking from behind. If no one sees you, pray in that place as long as you want, because it seems you're close enough to the leader of prayer since you hear them. People like you make me feel proud, thank you! May Allah be with you and make you stronger and closer to Him SWT.
2007-11-28 10:13:24 · answer #3 · answered by Khattab 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
As salaam alaykum wa rahmatuillahi wa barakatu
It is not silly to feel this way, and actually it can be seen as a good thing. It is best to feel this shyness and modesty towards non mahram men. I would continue to pray separately if I couldn't make it home in time as this protects your modesty. Praying in congregation is not obligatory on women. Women actually get the greater reward for praying at home. Attending Friday jummah is beneficial for you. Many good lessons are taught during the khutbah.
2007-11-28 04:30:18 · answer #4 · answered by Salmah 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The opposite happens to me as I pray....The place I go to is full of both muslim boys and girls.....but none of the guys except me actually pray the daily routine, but about 6-7 girls do...
What I do is wait for them to finish doing so...and then I pray alone...
:(
2007-11-28 02:05:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
That is really a nice and wise decision of yours not to pray with the guys as you are not even with your Mahram with you. the three best options are:
-get someone with you to pray( moral support)
-wait for the guys to finish but you mentioned time would get over by then.
-pray where you are praying.
Don't listen to them. or ask them to let you finish praying first and then they can cont.
Someone has written I guess, that its fine to pray with guys where as it is not. No Mahram is there. I would advise you to offer your salah where you are doingnow, separately.
2007-11-28 00:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If your a female and there is no Imam it is not ok for you to pray alone with these boys, For the person who said Prophet Mohammad saw allowed women in the masjid, thats the masjid not some room in a school that is most likely isolated from other students, also there is no imam and only boys your age...It is a not good for you to be alone with these boys...
2007-11-28 13:37:58 · answer #7 · answered by Truth seeker.. 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As Salaamu Alaykum
I know what you mean, I am very shy as well in a situation like that. All I can tell you is just know that you are praying for Allah not for the boys. Trust in Allah & do what you have to do. It is not bad to pray alone for the woman anyway.
Hope I helped . . .
Ma'a Salaamah
2007-11-28 09:41:19 · answer #8 · answered by ★Faith★ 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I personally would not advocate for you to do this. If you were my daughter there would be no way on this green earth that I would allow you to go into some "prayer room" with a bunch of boys your age who are not your immediate relatives.. and being the only female...there are so many bad things which can happen...I suggest you continue to pray in the alcove and have one of your girlfriends accompany you...
as one female to another it is better to be safe then sorry...
2007-11-28 04:50:43 · answer #9 · answered by je 6 · 5⤊ 2⤋
hayaa' is part of faith sister, and that's really sad that ur the only girl that prays there! no thats not silly of you at all, and the guys themselves should know that a muslim girl should be shy...they should put up a curtain between them and u so u dont feel as shy and nervous.
May Allah bless you sister.
salam
2007-11-28 15:48:27 · answer #10 · answered by Authentic Believer (SOA) 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋