I suddenly find myself getting annoyed at my parents?

Question

Lately I've noticed that I get very irritated with my parents. It seems like everything they say irritates me somehow. It's not like they're extremely controlling or anything, but for example, if they start talking about god and christianity I get really annoyed. Also, it seems like they want to talk with me about life more than usual. For some reason I can hardly help rolling my eyes at them and saying something rude.

Why am I acting like such a brat? Why do they suddenly get on my nerves so much? Especially my Dad. (I'm a 15 yr old girl by the way.) Please help

Answer 1

Remember 4 items -

1) Listening

2) Reasoning

3) Understanding

4) Negotiating

You could try the long-lost art of speaking with your parents concerning your thoughts and feelings.

Choose a time when both parents have absolutely nothing to do. (They can't give excuses, then)

Remember that you might need to give up some of your time for this to happen.

Also, choose an atmosphere which is conducive for discussion, such as a "neutral" room of the house, or perhaps (if the weather is nice), sitting on a blanket in the back yard.

Above all, the atmosphere must be relaxing and no interference, such as TV, other people, music, noisy locations, etc.

The simple trick of communicating is CALMLY (and I mean calmly) discussing with your parents your thoughts, dreams, and hopes. Other subjects could also be included.

Remember the word calmly. It does no good if one raises their voice and tries to control the conversation.

Another trick is listening to their side of the conversation. Don't you dominate the conversation and keep your ears open.

Remember, you asked them for their time, so give them your full attention.

Most conversation ends abruptly because of non-listening.

An item of importance; if one of your parents says something you don't agree with, don't belittle them; instead,

Negotiate and ask them what would be agreeable to them.

(This tends to work wonders - it makes them stop to think, sometimes helping them realize they just might be unreasonable. But keep in mind - they might do this to you, so have some reasonable answers ready.)

Keep the communications open and two-way (or three-way, if both parents are present.)

You'll find that listening, reasoning, understanding, and negotiating are very effective ways of communicating and eventually everybody gets what everybody wants.

It also shows your parents that you are growing up and possibly ready to handle responsibilities.

Answer 2

While your behavior is disrespectful and spoiled, unfortunately, I'd have to say it's perfectly normal behavior for a 15 year old girl. It seems to come with the hormones. And as much as your parents are driving YOU crazy....believe me, you're equally irritating to them. All they are trying to do is guide you in what is right. They do have oh say....20-30 years experience in life on you so they MIGHT not be complete morons so you MIGHT want to think about actually listening to them once in a while. And if you can't, then you can at least ACT respectful towards them since they did give you life and a roof over your head.

Answer 3

Wow. You have such awsome insight for ANYBODY not just a 15yo.
I'm not being sarcastic, really.
Most kids your age are asking "Why are my parents so annoying?" like they are so convinced that the real problem is the parents.
BUT! You asked "Why do I let myself get so irritated by my parents?" That proves to me that you realize that it can't ALWAYS be just them that's the problem here. SMART!

Well I don't mean to minimize your dillemma, but a lot of this has to do with some nasty chemical imbalances that are ocurring in you right now. It's true, we all still have to take responsibility for our own actions and attitudes, but most kids your age are having a battle raging on inside their bodies. Through the ages it has become to be known as the "awkward age".
We all go through it, and it manifests itself in many ways.
Some of us break out with serious skin conditions like acne.
Others have their limbs grow faster than their torso's only later to have their torso's catch up.
It's weird, and a bit of a cruel joke, but that is very likely what is happening to you. Believe me, the chemicals that get in to our brains have a serious influence on our perceptions and attitudes. It sort of works like a filter through which we are forced to view the world. Right now your filter is getting kind of distorted.
To your credit, you have an amazing intellect that is getting in front of your distorted perceptions and it's causing you to say "wait a minute, I usually have respect for these people (parents) so what has happened to change my attitude toward them?"

Answer.... hormones!
Don't worry Hon, you'll outgrow it soon enough. So don't go looking for any pills to counter what is going on inside you right now. What is going on is natural, and is better left to just run it's course.

Maybe sometimes you act like a brat, but from what I can tell about you so far, I'll bet your parents are VERY proud of you.

Answer 4

Honey, at 15 those hormones are churning, and the emotions go on a roller coaster!

I remember thinking I was so grown-up and sophisticated. I was so blase`. Shortly after that, I watched a scary movie on TV and had a bad dream, and went in and got in bed with my folks because I was scared.

Understand that you will get through this phase. Your folks are the same folks that made you feel safe after a bad dream. And, they'll be these same folks forever.

Please don't say anything rude, you don't want to hurt their feelings. (The eye-roll is OK once in awhile.)

Answer 5

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Answer 6

I am going through the same thing. I read about this and is said that most teenagers get annoyed at the smallest things. We get annoyed and start getting emberassed. It is not out fault, it just happens to us! When we grow up, this thing stops. I don't like it because I know my parents get hurt and I can't control it. anywayz I hope i helped!

Answer 7

Every 15 year old girl gets annoyed at their parents. It's a phase. You will learn later in life to appreciate your parents and not walk all over them.

Answer 8

It happens to every teenage girl.
There will be fights and stuff.
Try not to make it escalate to the point of hatred. That can be awkward for a few months.
Try to look at things the way your parents must see them:
Their daughter's getting older.
Soon she'll be driving and who knows where she'll go?
They're just trying to hold on to you. They're just worried and I know it's annoying but you gotta wait for it to be over. It'll pass.

Answer 9

Your parents probably see the young beautiful woman you are growing into and want to remind you of your morals and Christianity. It not that they are trying to control you they feel they are guiding you. You feel they are annoying you. Honey, it's so normal for teenagers to feel annoyed with their parents it's not even funny. When your about 20 or 21 you'll think they make a lot of sense again...it's a vicious circle we all go through with our kids and you kids go through with us parents lol. They only want what is best for you...take it easy with them ...they love you.

Answer 10

Haha I think its natural to most teens. They want to be independent. And your parents are gonna want to tell you more about life cause you are getting older. Yeah it happens to me ALL the time.. It gets a bit annoying but sometimes its good to listen to them.