Hi there, I am a 27 year old female, doctoral level degree, have great friends, am happy with most aspects of my life...however, I have one "problem" I have never dated anyone before! I've had a bit of a one track mind during college and grad school and have focused mostly on my ultimate educational goals. Now I feel ready to start dating people, but it just seems like everyone around me is either in a serious relationship, married, engaged, or is still in a "player" mode. I am not really comfortable in "bar" type settings. My friends tell me that I "need to put myself out there" but I'm not sure of some ways of doing that. Any advice?
2007-11-27 14:10:25 · 21 answers · asked by cc n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't listen to the guy that says "it'll find you". I'm in the same sad boat you are. Try a Unitarian church? Go for one of those player guys and see if you can turn him into a settle-down guy.
2007-11-27 14:18:25 · answer #1 · answered by 2bzy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok ! Here is the thing , As you get older there will be more and more men looking for a good girl ( women ) 27 is kind of in that middle age for dating. Seems like everyone is married. So relax I promos there will be more men soon. A church , family , or friends is the very best way to find a spouse. On line or in a bar may find a man for you, but would he be the kind you want to spend the rest of your life with? You have a long time in front of you. If you was 50 that would be something different.Take your time , look round. Find the right guy for you. One who will work , not beat you ,and believes in the same things you do. To try to spend your whole life with someone you can't stand would be terrible.YOU WILL FIND THE RIGHT GUY !
2007-11-27 14:24:55 · answer #2 · answered by ldp999000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Date like you think.
Get clear on what you want. Figure where that type hangs out. Right?
Bars are great places to meet pseudo alcoholics looking for one night stands. I'm guessing this isn't what you want.
Just for starters, highly educated women usually want equivalent men. So random dating isn't going to work for you.
So, network. Ask your friends to help. Join Mensa. Try eHarmony. Part of College is meeting people of equivalent intellect. So take a few post grad classes. Get a job worthy of your degree, at a large company, where you will find a likely pool of educated professionals matching your criteria.
One big cautionary. Make sure your goals are not conflicting. Is the priority career or kids? Don't string along Mr. Hearth & Home. If you want career AND kids, you are looking for a house husband, not a fight over who's working part time.
Good luck.
2007-11-27 14:51:05 · answer #3 · answered by Phoenix Quill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations. I think its amazing that you went to school and focused on your life and made yourself happy before jumping into the dating pool.
There is nothing wrong with that at all.
It's hard to get out there, and that's what alot of people are going to say to do. Well they are right.
But take a different approach to it.
Getting out there doesn't mean you have to be on the prowl 24/7. When you go out, go out with friends if you can, have an amazing time, and whatever happens will happen.
People will be attracted to your confidence, your security, and that you are a fun girl.
Let them come to you, and in the meantime, live life. You've earned it.
There are people who are out there at the age of 35 going on dates for the first time, or even still dating. You're still very young.
Don't be intimidated by the rest of the world, show them what you've got, because it's alot more than most women have.
=)
2007-11-27 14:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by waterelement85 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't date a 27 year old because I'm too young. Buuuut, honestly I would very much wonder what was up with this dude. Either he is very socially awkward, or he was some player who just slept around and never had a girlfriend. Both seem unappealing.
2016-04-06 01:27:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 31 and single lol honestly...I would suggest dating as many people as you can so that you'll know what kind of person you want to be with. Don't settle for the first decent one that comes along. Some good guys do go to bars from time to time so thats not a horrible idea just BE CAREFUL. There are soooo many bad people out there but have fun dating!!
2007-11-27 14:20:08 · answer #6 · answered by D M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I didn't date until I was 34 so it's not unheard of. Try joining a club or organization that interests you, don't go just for the purpose of meeting men, go to enjoy yourself. Of course the larger the city the more choices you have, look in your local paper and see what's out there. Unfortunately I can't really recommend the dating websites, I'm not too sure about them myself. A friend joined a ski club and Habitat for Humanity and did meet her future husband there. I can tell you from personal experience that starting late makes you feel like you're years behind and don't have any idea of what you're doing. Just try to relax and let it happen. Good luck.
2007-11-27 14:23:04 · answer #7 · answered by Lostandconfused 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I'm 28 and I've never dated. Overall, if you want to date just be outgoing. Go to regular places or go to places where they have functions and just be yourself and meet new people. If you find someone you're interested in, converse with him and find out what he's really about.
Since it'll be your first time, it'll be kind of a learning experience. It can either be good or bad. If it is bad, don't conclude that dating itself is a bad thing to do. Look forward to the next one.
2007-11-27 14:20:50 · answer #8 · answered by William C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
go to lots of places where single 27 yr olds hang out!!!
Sports games, concerts, fun places!
you dont have to meet someone at a bar
there is also the internet, if you are into that. many people fall in love and get married over the internet, if you're careful
im sure who know someone who has a single cousin who goes totally crazy for whatever things it is that you are interested in, and who would love to meet you.
just smile and be yourself, and some day some guy will pass you a note that says:
D0 U L!K3 M3?
Y3$ N0
(C!RCL3 0N3)
ps-- i hope u circle yes
well maybe not like that, but im sure you'll get your happily ever after =D
2007-11-27 14:29:42 · answer #9 · answered by Kenna Coconut™ Actorasauress Rex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you my friend will sell like hot cakes, just hide the degrees on the first few dates it may scare guys.
but all you have to is just talk to people, you dont even have to do much with guys. when you see some one you might be interested in try to make eye contact, a smile is also good sign. this will work any where markets , church, any where you name it..
2007-11-27 14:26:54 · answer #10 · answered by out of control 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋