my mom......?

Question

...i wrote her this note...but ... just read it.

I'm so mad at you right now..I can't even find the words..And when you're on the way down,
I just can't wait to see you burn...Are you even listening when I talk to you? Do you even care what I'm going through?
Your eyes stare and they're staring right through me...You're right there but it's like you never knew me..Do you
even no how much it hurts...But what's it matter anyways right...Cuz you don't no how much it hurts me...
You dont even care...what a mom.

-Beautiful Disaster

Answer 1

If it is not too late I would suggest not giving it to her. It is very normal to have arguments and angry outbursts during those pre-teen and teen years but sometimes journalling or talking out your frustration with a trusted friend is more helpful than letting loose verbally and then regretting what you've said.

More than likely your Mum cares for you and hates seeing you hurt. Cut her some slack and try to see things from her perspective too. Talk with her and listen to her too. All the best.

Answer 2

Remember 4 items -

1) Listening

2) Reasoning

3) Understanding

4) Negotiating

You could try the long-lost art of speaking with your parents concerning your thoughts and feelings.

Choose a time when both parents have absolutely nothing to do. (They can't give excuses, then)

Remember that you might need to give up some of your time for this to happen.

Also, choose an atmosphere which is conducive for discussion, such as a "neutral" room of the house, or perhaps (if the weather is nice), sitting on a blanket in the back yard.

Above all, the atmosphere must be relaxing and no interference, such as TV, other people, music, noisy locations, etc.

The simple trick of communicating is CALMLY (and I mean calmly) discussing with your parents your thoughts, dreams, and hopes. Other subjects could also be included.

Remember the word calmly. It does no good if one raises their voice and tries to control the conversation.

Another trick is listening to their side of the conversation. Don't you dominate the conversation and keep your ears open.

Remember, you asked them for their time, so give them your full attention.

Most conversation ends abruptly because of non-listening.

An item of importance; if one of your parents says something you don't agree with, don't belittle them; instead,

Negotiate and ask them what would be agreeable to them.

(This tends to work wonders - it makes them stop to think, sometimes helping them realize they just might be unreasonable. But keep in mind - they might do this to you, so have some reasonable answers ready.)

Keep the communications open and two-way (or three-way, if both parents are present.)

You'll find that listening, reasoning, understanding, and negotiating are very effective ways of communicating and eventually everybody gets what everybody wants.

It also shows your parents that you are growing up and possibly ready to handle responsibilities.

Answer 3

It is laid down in sacred scriptures of India, that a son/daughter may turn into a bad son/daughter, but a mother will never turn into a bad mother.It contains great wisdom and experience of several centuries.Occasional strains between members of any family is quite common and should not be taken to heart. In the event of any crisis or mishap, we look to our near and dear ones for help.For many other reasons too, no one with a sane mind will advise for a permanent severance of relations.And that too with a mother ? Never.I assure you that if you take five steps to reconcile with your mother, she will take fifty steps towards you.

Answer 4

Had you truly known what Hell was I'm sure you wouldn't have wished it on your mom, or anyone else.

What is the issue with your mom? Bad marriage, alcohol abuse, drug abuse, depression, etc. Something isn't right there. Is she so truly detached from you or your needs?
And what are you going thru???? This didn't just happen over night, but seems it's finally come to fruit whatever it is.

Answer 5

Do you think it's cool to be all emo and disturbed or something?

I mean "beautiful disaster"? who signs a note to their mom with "beautiful disaster"???