I was with him for a few years but am now married to someone else and have a baby. I have not been in touch with this guy for about a year, but I care deeply for him and his family. I was at the wake tonight and the funeral is tomorrow morning...
2007-11-27 14:07:46 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Since you went to the wake, you don't have to go to the funeral, but if you have someone to take care of your baby, and feel you want to be there, then go. If there is a luncheon after wards, I definitely would not go to that, it might be awkward for you.
2007-11-27 16:44:21 · answer #1 · answered by mj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's an open funeral (some funerals are mainly for family and close friends) but otherwise, if you'd feel comfortable with it, I don't see why not.
If it were me, however, I think I would just choose to go to the wake. They benefit people who knew the person on a different level.
2007-11-27 14:12:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what ever you feel comfortable doing. Funerals are not for the dead but for the living. Does the family need your support? then go.
I personally hate funerals, I don't go to them and I don't plan to have one myself. I think they are pagan and only benefit the flower shop, and the funeral home company. My body goes to science and there will be one giant party with margaritas.
My friends will come to see if I am really dead or just trying to make trouble.
2007-11-27 14:12:07 · answer #3 · answered by Lyn B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should go. It's not as if people re-kindle old romances at funerals, so you won't be sending any confusing messages. It's just a way to show respect to the father who was someone you cared about.
2007-11-27 14:23:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should go to his funeral. I know you cant be expected to go, becuase this is your ex were talking about here, but going will show etiquette and good form on your part. Not only do you care about this man that died, but people remember things like you going to this funeral, so going can only bring gratitude and respect to you.
2007-11-27 14:13:21 · answer #5 · answered by doglover 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go if you really care about your Ex-boyfriend and bring his family something nice to show how much you care about him and before you go to the funeral tell that your going and try to be friends!
Wish you good luck!
2007-11-27 14:14:32 · answer #6 · answered by Sophi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hated my ex girlfriend all the things she did and said to me. then my mother died. at the funeral i seen my exgirlfriend there paying respects to my mother. As much pain i was in because of the passing of my mother some of the pain lifted and a warm comfort came over me knowing that i had a friend, and we talked. We never dated again but our friendship will last forever.
Your ex needs a friend. it's a very difficult time. it is possible that you may be the only friend he has. go and be his friend
2007-11-27 14:19:38 · answer #7 · answered by young f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should go if you went to the wake and you care deeply about the family.
2007-11-27 14:11:13 · answer #8 · answered by teeeejay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You already went to the wake. Plus, I think it shows that you just genuinely care about the family....That's assuming that the relationship wasn't a complete disaster when you broke up, and your not going to stir up any bad feelings. In that case I would just send a card.
2007-11-27 14:14:36 · answer #9 · answered by 123..WAIT! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's kind and respectful for you to go - as long as your ex-boyfriend feels comfortable with it.
I went to my ex-husband's sister's funeral (she was only 45 when she died.) I'm not sure if I did the right thing, but I'm glad I went.
2007-11-27 14:11:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋