how can i convince my crazy overprotective mom to let me go to a concert with my friends at night?

Question

She makes a big deal even if i'm an hour late because I have a curfew and I was in a movie that didn't allow phones..So I panicked and called her and she got really mad. I promised her next time I would call her but she doesnt believe me.. My friends invited me to go to a concert but the problem is, it's at 10 P.M. and my mom doesn't like me to go out late at night and it's an hour away from the concert so I might go home between 11 or 12.. how can i convince her to let me go out late and far with my friends?

Oh and Im 16

Answer 1

Remember 4 items -

1) Listening

2) Reasoning

3) Understanding

4) Negotiating

You could try the long-lost art of speaking with your parents concerning your thoughts and feelings.

Choose a time when both parents have absolutely nothing to do. (They can't give excuses, then)

Remember that you might need to give up some of your time for this to happen.

Also, choose an atmosphere which is conducive for discussion, such as a "neutral" room of the house, or perhaps (if the weather is nice), sitting on a blanket in the back yard.

Above all, the atmosphere must be relaxing and no interference, such as TV, other people, music, noisy locations, etc.

The simple trick of communicating is CALMLY (and I mean calmly) discussing with your parents your thoughts, dreams, and hopes. Other subjects could also be included.

Remember the word calmly. It does no good if one raises their voice and tries to control the conversation.

Another trick is listening to their side of the conversation. Don't you dominate the conversation and keep your ears open.

Remember, you asked them for their time, so give them your full attention.

Most conversation ends abruptly because of non-listening.

An item of importance; if one of your parents says something you don't agree with, don't belittle them; instead,

Negotiate and ask them what would be agreeable to them.

(This tends to work wonders - it makes them stop to think, sometimes helping them realize they just might be unreasonable. But keep in mind - they might do this to you, so have some reasonable answers ready.)

Keep the communications open and two-way (or three-way, if both parents are present.)

You'll find that listening, reasoning, understanding, and negotiating are very effective ways of communicating and eventually everybody gets what everybody wants.

It also shows your parents that you are growing up and possibly ready to handle responsibilities.

Answer 2

I know that I will get negged for saying this, but seriously man, you are 17. I understand that you don't want to do anything behind her back but if she won't let you do it in front of her then what sort of choice are you left with? Think about it, you are as adult as you will be for the next 5 years or more, you can be tried as an adult on many crimes, in some countries (states) you are a perfectly legal adult. Stand up to her. You are your own man. First of all the first thing I would try would be politely asking her to lay off a little, but use terms like 'worry less' because that is what she is doing. If that doesn't work then be a little more firm, explain how you feel to her and that regardless of what she says you will do what you want. As a last option, tell her to f*** off since you are no longer her little child and you can do as you damn well please. I also agree with the above, show her this, or at least tell her this sort of thing, maybe she will realise how unreasonable she is. From a 'distance' she may better understand what she is doing.

Answer 3

Concerts at night are dangerous and you have no idea what you are getting yourself into
Stay at home in your warm pajamas, you may be angry now but if you go and get hurt or worse, you will be even angrier and sadder
Sorry hun but I agree with your mom, I'm not sure what your friend's parents are thinking letting them go to a late night concert at 16

Answer 4

You want your mom to trust you right?
Trust works both ways you know.
When are you going to trust that your moms judgement is good in these matters?

You won't convince her that you are trustworthy until you start to show some faith in her.

Calling in an hour after your curfew just shows her she's right not to trust you without tighter controls in place.
Whining, complaining, and trying to convince her to change her mind about it just furthers her resolve to make no exceptions to her rules.
The next time you want to ask her to bend her rules for you, make sure that you have given her more than ample reason to consider it.

Not just because you want it!

But because you did something to earn it.

Answer 5

She only does this cause she loves you. Concerts at night are usually full of druggies and stuff unless its like an orchestra thing which i doubt. Esp. since you are by yourself with your friends. That makes you very vulnerable. She is just fearing for your own safety which you should take for granted. Alot of moms aren't like that.

Answer 6

Well when your mother thinks that you have broke her trust this happens. It will take some time to get her trust back. You can ask her if you can sign an agreement between you and her to let her know that you underwtand her rules and you know that you made a mistake. My problem with your question is that we have no idea how old you are. Good Luck

Answer 7

Ok.. Tell her you want to have an Adult conversation with her... Don't yell and scream becuase then she will get mad... But first off. what does your dad say about this/ Is he jsut as over protective or is he more laid back?
Here is what you say to her: Tell her that you are going to become an adult soon. and That you should be able to go to a concert and come home late as long as you keep in touch with her.. thats what my mom tells me to do.. its annoying but its ok.. Tell her that callmyy and dont DEMAND things.. just simply ask... If she throws a fit and still says no.. Then you say to her .. Fine.. I will play by your rules.. but when im 18.. IM DONE... see hwo see reacts. My parents are kind of bad too and im 19 :) im me if u have any questionss :)

Answer 8

parents who really love their children are overprotective. would you like it better if she didn't care about you and let you do anything you wanted to do? sure, right now that sounds good but you will see when you get older that being overprotective can be a good thing, especially if you ever have kids of your own.

Answer 9

Have a 14th birthday?

Answer 10

You cant.Too much pot and crap at concerts.
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