Okay, I don't know whats up with him!! 2 hours ago, he told me he was all depressed and all because he thinks I ignore him, and my mom, and my twin sister. He was so depressed, he literally skipped work today just because of that!! I'm getting really worried. I told him to fix my computer mouse and it took me at least 10 tries just to get him to listen to me and he finally fixed it. So, I went upstairs and before I went upstairs he called my name. And I was like, What? he said, tell mom while' your up there if she doesn't come down and talk to me, i'm going to skip work again tomorrow and i don't care if I get fired. WHAT'S GOING ON WITH HIM? He's not acting normal!! And the other day he almost punched my sister and I.. help me whats wrong with him.. he's not drunk he doesn't drink!!
2007-11-27 13:31:58 · 20 answers · asked by Dreamer 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Dtown, I answered him in a question form, What? I didn't even yell at him. You NEVER call a girl/woman a spolied brat you stupid peice of ****. Hell, I suppose your never going to get married with that selfish attitude, go to hell!! You didn't even help me at all, so if your going to be rude get the **** away from my question!!
2007-11-27 13:58:47 · update #1
This sounds pretty serious, if I were you, I would talk to a counselor at school ASAP, he may be suicidal or severely depressed, either way it's not healthy behavior.
2007-11-27 13:35:30 · answer #1 · answered by marm212 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Remember 4 items -
1) Listening
2) Reasoning
3) Understanding
4) Negotiating
You could try the long-lost art of speaking with your parents concerning your thoughts and feelings.
Choose a time when both parents have absolutely nothing to do. (They can't give excuses, then)
Remember that you might need to give up some of your time for this to happen.
Also, choose an atmosphere which is conducive for discussion, such as a "neutral" room of the house, or perhaps (if the weather is nice), sitting on a blanket in the back yard.
Above all, the atmosphere must be relaxing and no interference, such as TV, other people, music, noisy locations, etc.
The simple trick of communicating is CALMLY (and I mean calmly) discussing with your parents your thoughts, dreams, and hopes. Other subjects could also be included.
Remember the word calmly. It does no good if one raises their voice and tries to control the conversation.
Another trick is listening to their side of the conversation. Don't you dominate the conversation and keep your ears open.
Remember, you asked them for their time, so give them your full attention.
Most conversation ends abruptly because of non-listening.
An item of importance; if one of your parents says something you don't agree with, don't belittle them; instead,
Negotiate and ask them what would be agreeable to them.
(This tends to work wonders - it makes them stop to think, sometimes helping them realize they just might be unreasonable. But keep in mind - they might do this to you, so have some reasonable answers ready.)
Keep the communications open and two-way (or three-way, if both parents are present.)
You'll find that listening, reasoning, understanding, and negotiating are very effective ways of communicating and eventually everybody gets what everybody wants.
It also shows your parents that you are growing up and possibly ready to handle responsibilities.
2007-11-27 15:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by Living In Korea 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like there are two sides of this whole story and we are getting yours. People say things that they do not mean when they are going through a hard time, his emotions or his problem is getting the best of him. The real issue is he is depressed and its a marriage problem, he needs help now. You need to see what your mother has to say about this issue.. but you need to seek some school counsel and tell them whats going on in your home. He could be doing drugs and no one else knows about his problem but him.
2007-11-28 05:45:27 · answer #3 · answered by leapfrog44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would want to punch you too if I called your name and you answered by saying "What"! Then badger me by asking anything 10 times. If you do not get a response the first time, "BACK OFF". How dare you, you disrespectful brat! He's probably tired and going crazy in a house full of self-centered females. How about you drama queens treat him like the "king" that he deserves to be treated like. It seems that you all may be taking him for granted. When he says that he doesn't want to go to work, it's because he's trying to tell you ungrateful witches that he's tired of being wanted only for his paycheck. It's to get your attention. Christmas is a very stressful time for parents to try to meet the selfish demands of others...Lighten up! And tell your Mom & sis also. He literally needs to learn the word "NO" and use it often. You're an example of why I never wanted girls. Thank God I didn't have any. Boys rule! THANK YOU LORD!
2007-11-27 13:56:00 · answer #4 · answered by dtown 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like he's going through some real trouble right now, and has unfortunately put you in the middle of it. Maybe he's fighting with your mother and her refusal to talk to him is making things worse. You should talk to your mother and tell her what your father said and tell her that you are worried, and this isn't just your dad being an idiot, there is something wrong. Hopefully she'll listen.
2007-11-27 13:49:42 · answer #5 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After reading your added note I was not going to answer your question. However, I am going to try and ignore your crudeness and try and help you.
I don't know what, but I feel in my gut, that there is something going on between your Mum and Dad that you don't know about.
He is really upset with your Mum, and there could be a reason why he is so mad. Although what ever if may be he should not take it out on you and your sister.
Keep calm, don't get angry and talk to your mother. Ask her outright. " Is there something going on between you and Dad that we don't know about"
Good luck
Peace and love
2007-11-27 14:04:20 · answer #6 · answered by Maureen S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have any of you tried to talk to him, he does sound depressed. He told you he feels ignored. The man of the house does carry a heavy burden and if they don't feel respected or appreciated for all they do that can be depressing. Maybe he just wants to know that you guys appreciate him. Holiday times can be depressing for some people.
2007-11-27 13:45:38 · answer #7 · answered by c h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is definitely suffering from depression and what is causing it is anybody's guess. Time for a frank talk with your mom to ask her to get him some help. She is the one in the position to do that. In the meantime, talk to your school counselor and let him/her know what is going on. They should be able to help you.
2007-11-27 14:29:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it in the family. Talk to a family member. Uncle,Aunt Grandmother or Grandfather. Talk to your mother. But keep it in the family. School counselors could make it worse. They get to over zealous and tend to blow things way out of purporting.
2007-11-27 13:50:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to check him in a mental ward (and no I'm not kidding or trying to make a joke) that's how I was acting right before I tried to commit suicide....he is probably depressed and may also be bipolar......
2007-11-27 14:01:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋