She's always up my butt, like a thermometer. She gets mad whenever I talk about how much i don't like her fiance and starts sreaming at me. She starts stuff with my Dad, then blames it on me. She begs me to talk to her about "personal things", when I do, she ends up repeating the same things over and over saying, "It's that age," Ugh!
2007-11-27 13:25:55 · 9 answers · asked by bridgeey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yea thats a good mommy she really cares about you try sitting down and tell her what bothering you and never say you hate your mom cause its not good
2007-11-27 13:30:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bridget -that is a good Irish name.
Irish people are very passionate.
When my oldest daughter was a teenager, she said she "hated" me because of my rules and regulations.
Now, 30 years later (and for the last 20 years) we have a wonderful relationship. She chose her own way at that time, which sometimes I agreed with and sometimes I didn't,
It is like going into a tunnel on one end (teenage life) and coming out the other end, 10 years later.
Think of it this way. If she died tomorrow what would you feel like. Don't answer that just off the top, think about it.
Mothers and daughters clash sometimes, when the daughter is a teen. I have always loved her and she has always loved me, although sometimes she told me she "hated" me.
This to will pass, and you will be on your own, and at some point your mother and father will not be on this earth and you will be a mother yourself.
She is being harsh in her wording, but what I said above, about going in and out of that tunnel, is what she means when she states "It's that age,".
Believe me. when you are a mother, and you have a teenage daughter, you will know what I mean.
Have patience and give her love. Keep your temper and your anger down. Don't say anything that you will regret later.
She is your Mum and you wouldn't be on this earth if it wasn't for her.
Let your Mum live her own life when it comes down to choice of a fiance, and try not to be judgemental.
It is never one sided, you know.
2007-11-27 13:41:38 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to keep in mind, that us moms are meant to be hated but, seriously have you just come straight out and told her about how you feel about the things that she does? My own mother passed away a year ago and I hated her most of her life( I'm only 29). I think that most parents can be overbearing. I am a mother of 5 and I find it extremely hard not to be overbearing because I love my children dearly and just want to protect them. Try putting some space between the two of you , in terms of how you think. Remember HER age. You do not want to feel like you have failed when she passes on. Also keep in mind that she is also full of estrogen herself. Which means a total explosion any time the two of you are together for any lengthy period of time. Trust me I know, because I have a 15 yr old that we are adopting.
2007-11-27 13:36:56 · answer #3 · answered by idiots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just expressing your feelings due to a broken family, but your mom is not understanding how you feel. This is what happens when parents divorce. Now your mom has brought in a total stranger to add to the drama for you once again.
In my opinion. Your mom should have never brought someone into her life when she has you to raise. You are the one who needs her and she is the one that needs to raise you, care for you, and to love you. She needs to be your mother because that's why she brought you into this world, you are her responsibility, not the world.
I am not sure if I am able to help you, but if you can talk to your mom politely and express your feelings to her without her making any smart comment to you, hopefully, she will listen. Explain to her how you are feeling and that you need her most right now. Let her know that she shouldn't talk to you about your dad anymore because you are being hurt about what she says about him. Also, when she wants to talk to you about personal things, let her know that you will only talk to her if she doesn't repeat herself over and over again.
The blame is not on you. Your parents are to blame for splitting the family up and for not working their marriage out to keep the family together. It is wrong for her to blame you for her and your dads problems. They are divorce and now you are the one hurting.
I really hope that your mom puts you before him. If not, then there will be problems ahead. Hopefully, this made sence to you.
2007-11-27 13:40:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think thats what a M0M does u might feel like u hate ur mom at the time she does things u hate but then u will get over it and realize that there are times where u cant stan ur mom but there are even more times where u find ur self having fun with ur mom. so be thank ful for having a m0m others dont.
2007-11-27 13:36:34 · answer #5 · answered by star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dint you like her fiance??is it because you dont want him to try to be a father figure for you since you have a dad??most teens dont get a long with their mom,i didnt.why dont you tell her that it makes you mad when she dose those things.if that dosent work,just ream ember you dont have to like your mom right now but you do have to respect her.i basically didnt talk to my mom unless she asked me a question then i responded with a short answer.since i moved out me and my mom get along better,you might have to wait it out.
2007-11-27 13:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go live with your dad.If you hate her fiance and that doesnt matter to her then something is wrong.I wouldnt marry someone my kid's hated.
2007-11-27 13:46:56 · answer #7 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. sounds like my mom.
2007-11-27 13:29:26 · answer #8 · answered by Catherine Rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should respect your mother no matter what.
2007-11-27 13:29:20 · answer #9 · answered by luciousgreeneyedlady 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋