My parents have been divorced for almost 10 years, and I haven't seen my dad much. My dad has been really ill for the past 3 years and me and my mom don't really get along although we are close. The only thing holding me back from living with my dad is their would be huge changes in my life some are good, new school, I'll have to get used to not being the only child (4 other kids at my dad's) and not being able to get away with things as easily. I have spent 15 years of my life with my mother, and have many memories to remember, she is getting remarried and won't need me around as much anymore. But even though my dad is married he still hasn't had much time to spend with me. Even though I visit him once a year I don't think that it is enough anymore. I just don't want to regret not taking the opportunity to spend time with him while I could..What do you think I should do and be completely honest?
2007-11-27 13:09:21 · 5 answers · asked by joseluv13 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The good thing to hear is that your mom is getting remarry, so she won't be alone if you leave. And I think you're right, since your dad is ill, you should move over there and spend more time with him so he can be happy to be with you. Since he is ill, I think you should take care for him later. If he get better soon or when you finish high school, when you're 18, then you can go back and forth to visit them.
2007-11-27 13:15:04 · answer #1 · answered by Lotus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if your dad is ill and you do get along with him, then make the move. If you close to your mom thats good, but u might not get along because u might have dif personalities. Your mom is probably going through a lot of changes right now with the whole remarriage thing and what not. So it's probably a good for you to just leave her alone until she gets settled after the marriage. While she's busy doing that, I'm sure she wouldn't mind it if you spent some more time with your father. And I'm sure your father would appreciate having you around and getting to know you better.
2007-11-27 21:54:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You asked for honesty, so here it is.
I think your idea of spending more time with your Dad is an honorable one. BUT!
I read the other messages you slipped in like "me and my mom don't really get along", and "she is getting married and WON'T NEED ME AROUND AS MUCH ANYMORE"!!!!!!!
I think there are some changes happening in your home and you don't want to be there to deal with them, so you are making excuses so you can run off to daddy.
Also I sense some anger exists between you and your mom, so I'll bet there's also an element of revenge in there as well.
Anyway, I think your wanting to move to be closer to your dad has little to do with his failing health, and a LOT to do with your relationship with your mom, and your lack of willingness to work things out with her.
If I am right, then moving to Mississippi will end up being a big mistake for you.
2007-11-27 21:33:11 · answer #3 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you get along better with dad - go with him. The changes are something you could deal with and if you don't get along with mom it would just be a stressful situation for you.
2007-11-27 21:15:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your HEART... and do what it says.
2007-11-27 21:14:40 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋