i heard that my 16yr boyfriend was secretly planning to hav my baby and he is a scorpio so he keeps things from me. can u believe it!!! im turning 15 and he wants my baby. i got this info from his cuzzin..they had a long conversation about me and his cuzin said he's been thinking about gettin me preg. Y? he said cuz he loves me, he likes kids..and all that other sweet stuff. i have deep feelings 4 him too. but y would a 16yr old wanna hav a baby sooooo bad?
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he said he'll take care of us..
he is in a detention center and he gets out every week..dont ask
we been together for 2 in a half yrs.
i live in nj and he lives in ny..but we see eachother evertime i go visit my family because my cuzz was the one who hooked me up wit him
and he came to visit on the thankgiving weekened,but he really didnt hav a chance to do anything
and he is visiting again on christmas..
his cuzzin didnt tell me at first because
2007-11-27 13:05:44 · 29 answers · asked by Mariah_Gurl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey. jus because hes in a detention center doesnt mean hes bad. cuz believe it or not, people do change. i wouldnt plan on getting pregnant anytime soon because u never know what might happen. But if u do decide to have sex with him get on birth control asap and make sure that u are on it for at least 3 months. also make sure that he always wears a condom. if ur not ready for kids then tell him. and just so that you know having a kid at your age isnt healthy and its alot of responsibility. r u sure that ur ready??? Can u handle waking up constantly to a crying baby even thhough ur still growing up yourself??? think about.....
2007-11-27 13:15:50 · answer #1 · answered by stars_086 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok... this is about what you want.. not what he wants.
He can get you pregnant and then run off 2 yrs down the track leaving you 17 and with a baby to look after.. Yes its romantic the thought of having a family and being together forever but it doesnt work that way sweetie.
I had been with my bf for 2 yrs when i was 15. We got pregnant by accident and i choose not to have the baby.. a few mnths later he cheated on me.
Please do what you feel is right... not what he wants. Where would you live... how could you afford it? Hes in a detention Centre.... think about it.
2007-11-27 21:20:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever seen the Maury show? Have you ever seen the Jerry Springer show? Have you ever seen the Ricki Lake show?
When you bring another human being into this world, it's not something as simple as buying clothes for he/she and he/she will watch TV. No it is not. You've got to wake up in the middle of the night to take care of he/she. You've got to spend money on nappies and other accessories. The list could go on.
Don't believe what he says. He doesn't love you - he just wants you to be another girl on the streets selling drugs to earn a living. What can you expect from a boy that is in a detention center? He doesn't even want to have kids. He just wants a one-night stand and I can gurantee you he'll forget about you the following morning.
If I was a girl and if I was you I would try my best to avoid him at all costs. You tell me what you want to be in life? A girl who has money working for her and making her parents the happiest they can ever be OR to get pregnant and have no boy to look after you and put even more burden on your parents. It's obvious what you want to choose.
I hope that helps
- And remember: it only takes ONCE.
2007-11-29 11:34:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a bunch a bullshit. Girl! don't even think twice, as a matter of fact don't even think about it at all. If I was you I would slap the living sh*t out of him. Don't you dare get no kind ideas. If there any morons on here that tell you other wise they're a bunch of assholes. If he ever ask you to sleep with him you tell that ***** no. If he ask you again leave his crazy a**. If he wants kids so bad than tell him to go wit some other chick and get her pregnant. This kinda foolishness gets me mad and discusted.Excuse my french but if you wanna go off and have kids at your age than girl you are gonna be S.O.L. Now i'm only 14 and I don't have any kids but I have been down this road before and all I van say is don't fall for it. I've never had any kids and I plan to keep it that way. There are too many young girls who have babies now. Don't become one of them.
2007-11-28 21:10:18 · answer #4 · answered by xXxEpic VictoryxXx 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't even think of having a baby your age.You will regret this for the rest of your life. the easiest way to lose a boy friend is look at the enormity of raising a child. Hundreds of dollars a month , month after month. How are you going to support yourselves and a baby/ one of you will need a job with about 50 thousand dollars a year to afford a place to live and your living expenses. This is not a good thing to do. your education will end right there. And wont your boy friend have a record?That will keep him from getting high paying jobs and you will live in a hole in the wall apartment with a baby that constantly costs money every hour of every day, Don't do this to your self, please.
2007-11-27 22:36:44 · answer #5 · answered by redd headd 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your family doesn't have problems with your relationship which is good, but it sounds like you aren't ready for this and you shouldn't be at 15 at 15 you should be in school and hanging out with friends not changing diapers you need to discuss this with him just flat out tell him that you don't understand why he is so anxious to have a kid, obviously you guys aren't in the ideal situations to have one either...no offense
i have no idea why he would want a kid my guess is he probably feels like you two will always be together or maybe because he is locked up he thinks that a kid would be a way to keep you with him it would give you a reason not to break up with him
congrats on the 2 and 1/2 years though i'm 16 i can't hold anything longer than 4 and 1/2 months
oh yeah just be really careful with everything you do make sure you're staying protected
2007-11-27 21:16:03 · answer #6 · answered by Lindsey 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you had to come on here and ask a bunch of strangers for advice (100% of which agree), You are NOT ready to have a baby no matter what this guy tells you. It is very understandable to have feelings for someone who is not right for you (we ALL do it) but the only way to move on from someone who is not good for you is to find someone who is. It could take weeks or months or years but don't give up on finding the person who truely makes you happy and wants the BEST for you which would not be having a baby at 15 years old no matter what the circumstances.
2007-11-27 21:14:18 · answer #7 · answered by tustudent 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie.. dont do it. Dont put yourself in that position. You are way too young for a baby and by the way, you are 15 and shouldnt even be having sex. He's too young for a child too. If you and him stay together then maybe down the road that is something you and him might consider but not now. Talk to him and tell him how you feel. Tell him you arent ready for a child. Good luck.
2007-11-27 21:17:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i work with teen moms and I see how hard it is for them. If you KNOW you are not ready for a baby then you need to let him know that, he may say that he is going to be there and help, but in the end it is your body and the rest of your life. No one can stop you from doing what you want, but a baby is a big deal and something that you will have to commit to for the rest of your life. you are 15 and have so many great things to come in your life, is he the only one for you? are you ready to be part of his life forever and have him as a part of yours?
It is up to you to get birth control or not to have sex with him, but over all you need to tell him how you feel about having a baby now, or even in a few years.
2007-11-27 21:16:59 · answer #9 · answered by confused 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh girl..... We men are bred to believe that having a baby is the worst possible consequence of sex... I can't image why he would want to do something like that, but by the looks of it, this kid wont actually stick around after you have the kid, so please don't do it... How exactly would he take care of you and the child from the detention center? I know you love him, but this is ridiculous... you shouldn't really be seriously thinking about having a child on purpose at 14....
2007-11-27 21:12:16 · answer #10 · answered by vllyofthedamned 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋