hello about a month ago i got out of a relationship with a girl. this was my first real gf and i was her first real bf and i cared for her a lot. the first few weeks were amazing, i was so glad i found somebody perfect for me. we made it about a month and a half, and then one day she starts kind of showing some signs of not liking me, and at the end of the day she breaks up with me. i talk about it and she says she didnt feel the same way about me like she did before, and that she would rather be with another guy when i asked. it was an obvious blow to the heart. i still have days/mornings/nights where i am so so sad and fed up with life itself. i found the perfect girl for me, despite what others judged her for. and now its all over. she says she still wants to be friends and all, and that she understands how i feel being sad and all. but i dont know if i can take this any longer. it just KILLS me that she once liked me, but now she doesnt feel the same. how do i get over her?
2007-11-27 12:55:10 · 4 answers · asked by Greg S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah, i am in the same exact situation. My girlfriend, the first too, "changed a lot" (her words) on me.
I love her a lot. You love your girlfriend a lot. You have to remember, she has to make her own choices. She left you, and you did not leave her. My gf left me, and let me tell you first, do NOT cave in and be desperate. Do not. It will make things worse.
My best advice is to wait. Let time take its toll. Be strong, stay committed. Be open to her, and if she wants friendship, be friends. But you have to be strong. She dumped you. If she starts to warm up to you, you have to be strong, and let her make the choice to either "reunite" or not.
Let time pass. If she truly loved you with everything in her heart, she will truly come back. Whatever she loved you for, you must stay as you are. She will love you again if you keep your composure, your strength, your pride.
Do not cave in. Do not. Time will either heal the wound...or bring you closer to her. She must make the choice. She must choose you. Love is a choice, and not a destiny or fate.
Be strong. Don't cave in. The one thing girls lack is the one thing they seek in a man: Strength. Stay strong.
2007-11-27 13:05:45 · answer #1 · answered by Kyle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First love is always the most intense romance there is, but it is also the most heart wrenching when it ends,as you have already discovered. My heart goes out to you in this your hour of pain and frustration.Since she has made her position clear and there does not seem to be any hope of a reconciliation, you should move on. First, get rid of the anger,disappointment, and despair.She has moved on with her life and is currently dating someone else.While it is extremely hard to forget a first love,you can do it taking all the values you learned about yourself and her in to future romances.As you mature from this experience, you will discover that love is bitter sweet-----it can give you the most mind numbing and exquisite pleasure and then give you the most heart stopping heavy feeling in your chest and in the pit of your stomach.But it will pass and you will be reborn again ready to take your rightful place within the community of women looking for a nice guy. So hold your head high and go grap all the world has to give you.
2007-11-27 22:06:01 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you holding on an unwanted love?
Try to have fun with other things that you like to do..
I know it will feel different without her but ..
Know that u deserve better and believe that there is some1 better out there for u..
that's how I survive until today. :)
2007-11-27 21:05:12 · answer #3 · answered by lilsweetiboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meet other people
2007-11-27 21:03:04 · answer #4 · answered by didomidoxa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋