my partner and me have had a horrible weekend with his mum brother and auntie rigning us up and going nuts about a money situation that we are in the right about anyway he has a cousin whos wedding is in two weeks that we have sent a rsvp into. whats a nice way to put we arent coming she is aware there is some family issues going on. i feel rude but i cant face these people they are horrible but the cousin isnt.
2007-11-27 12:45:58 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Send a real nice gift along when you rsvp you arent coming. Then they will probably not take it personally.
2007-11-27 12:59:08 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have to give an explanation as to why, when you RSVP that you aren't comming?
I thought all you had to do was let them know that you weren't going to be able to attend and let it go at that.
Save the excuses for when they start asking questions.
Having said that, I hope you remember that the wedding is about the happy couple who are getting married. If your quarrell isn't with them, then I suggest you attend their wedding and leave your issues with the rest of the family at the door, and expect the rest of them to do the same.
You can attend the wedding, congratulate the newlyweds, and stay away from the nasty element in the family can't you?
I know I could!
2007-11-27 21:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to give an explanation.
Just send a gracious RSVP telling them you are sorry you cannot come. Send a card and a gift (if you were planning to give a gift) and say you will be thinking of them and wish them every happiness.
Most people don't seem to realize this, but it would actually be rude for them to ask you why you can't come.
2007-11-27 20:53:53 · answer #3 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just send her a nice card and gift and say that you are really sorry you cant come to her wedding, that something came up but you would love ot take her and her new hubby out to dinner sometime. I dont think you need to explain anything more, unless you want to. I think she will get the hint, but also understand that you care. She will know the truth.
2007-11-27 20:51:02 · answer #4 · answered by Raelee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your cousin has always been ther for you and has always gone to your events you owe it to him her. Go for a little while eat dance a little and make sure she seats you somewhere else besides those annoying family members. Then leave after a little bit. Make sure you give a wedding gift or money more expensive than your dinner plate. Good Luck
2007-11-27 20:56:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll now have to call and gracefully decline. Tell her, your present is being mailed to her, to you forget the weekend of her wedding (something came up, I can't tell you what to say)
Let her know how happy you are for her and how badly you feel about missing the wedding but please send you plenty of pics. Maybe your husband will go in your absense?
2007-11-27 20:53:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
simply let them know you regret that you won't be there... and appreciate the invitation...
the wedding will still go on, with or without you there!
i hope everything else works out for your family...hugs
2007-11-27 21:11:44 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋