I am newly wedded. My husband is the only son of his parents. He is very good at heart and a decent guy. he has studied in a boys' school. so he has never come across girls-no girlfriend, no sister. so now he is shy with me also. he does make love when he is alone but feels shy to even hold my hand in public.
2007-11-27 12:40:56 · 10 answers · asked by Spicy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i'm sure he was the same way before you were married, therefore, aren't you used to it by now?
when we marry someone, we need to accept them at face value... if your husband does not like a public display of affection, then he doesn't!
sometimes we have to let others know what is not comfortable, set personal boundaries.. especially in relationships...
give him time to grow older and mature, too. remember, you are both young and starting a new life... age brings wisdom and he will probably get a little more relaxed about things as time passes.
have a great life, and take care.
2007-11-27 12:47:39 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I are opposites,he is the shy one. I have had to calm down alot but, I love my husband and resect him. He first learned to be more lovable at home. Thats where I would start. Make a game out of it. Go shopping and buy all kinds of FUN stuff to play with and test drive them,if he will go shopping too thats great. Ask him what he would be comfortable trying and allow him to take the lead. Talk him through what turns you on and ask what turn him on. As time goes on he will get more comfortable with expressing himself in the house and eventually outside the home too. It take time but if you love him and he loves you both of you will make changes to make each other happy.
2007-11-27 22:23:03 · answer #2 · answered by CARA S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let me congrats you on getting such a fine husband. This kind is hard to find. Give him some time to get accustomed to it. You can try to bring out the romance by expressing it through flowers, candle light dinner.
That should give him some clue on what he should be doing!!! If he is shy to hold your hand, then why not hold his.
2007-11-28 04:30:10 · answer #3 · answered by indi9820 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you knew this before you married him and do not ever think you can change him.
The longer you two are married and the more positive and affectionate you are, he may come around, maybe not, but this is something you should have known before you married him and if so, something you should just accept that this is the way he is, If later in life he changes, that's just a bonus.
2007-11-27 20:50:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's the way he is, so what I think you should do is look for the little things that he does that show you that he loves you. If you see the ways that he expresses his love how ever modest you will probably feel more fulfillment in the relationship!
2007-11-27 20:47:05 · answer #5 · answered by Athena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when u get the perfect answer let me know bcause i am facing same problem since 14 yrs.
i think any problem in marriage or any relationship can be solved only by one thing that is just
talk ...talk... talk....
i think if he is shy then u should take the lead. tell him how you feel about it .
2007-11-28 04:51:40 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do would be to ask him why he is so nervous, make him understand that you are a part of him.
Make him understand that you'll always be there for him.
Express your love and one fine you'll crack the nut.
All the Best!!!!
2007-11-27 20:53:29 · answer #7 · answered by Smith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"love cannot be found where it does not exits
love cannot be hidden where it does exits..........."
take a chill pill.....he loves u but does not belive in showing off
2007-11-28 01:54:25 · answer #8 · answered by Love 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's so terrible about that? As long as he does it in private!
2007-11-27 20:47:33 · answer #9 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you be more expressive.he will start responding better.
2007-11-27 21:12:27 · answer #10 · answered by love all 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋