Why is it, that children can be so clingy and needy even when they are getting tons of attention?

Question

I am seriously going crazy here.

Answer 1

most likely it's because you have a great personality and they really like being around you so get ready for the crazy house

Answer 2

It's really hard to give an answer without a little more information but, I now what it's like to go crazy from my children needing so much attention. I once saw a sticker that said, "Being a parent is like being pecked to death by a duck." That was 15 years ago when my daughter was 3 years old and I still remember how absolutely true that felt. She doens't peck me anymore but, she sure did.
Someitmes kids need a different kind of attention thatn what they are getting. Sometimes kids need to be shown that there is even a limit to how MUCH attention you can actually give them -- no matter how much you love them and want them to be secure and content. You can only give so much and they do need to know that.
You also deserve to have adult time and space -- when you know that they are being well taken care of and you can relax and be an adult with other adults and not have to focus on kids 24/7.
Some parents think they are giving their kids lots of attention but what they really are doing is avoiding giving them the exact attention that they crave and that's why the kid wants more and more and more. Kids really can't be fooled and they know so well when they are getting the real thing and when they are just being gestured at with so called attention. Let your kids know (for real, in how you treat them and in how you talk to them) how much you adore them and love them and need them -- and then let them know that there is still a limit to how much you can give. If you are firm about the limit in your own mind -- they will understand. If you are guilty and insecure -- they will also (instead) understand that.
Take a break if you need one.

Answer 3

Humans are social animals - If your child isn't getting sufficient social interaction with other children or adults, they're going to want it from you.

If you're looking to 'fix' this, turn the television on, to a show with open, friendly people - It's not as good as actual socialization, but it's a common enough substitute for people.

Over the long term, try to get them out more - Using the TV as a substitute over extended periods produces very socially maladapted kids.

Answer 4

Because you are giving them so much attention when they are clingy and needy. Any child who craves attention and gets it will continue the behaviour (good or bad) that gives them what they want. Pay attention to them when you think the behaviour is good. Learn to ignore some of the bad behaviour.

Reassure them if they are insecure and help build their self-esteem. Look online for tips or see a Child Psychologist.

Answer 5

I think its a phase that most of them go through. Did something recently change? a move, go back to work, etc? Tons of attention, what do you mean by that? Tons of stimulation over stimulates then creates a clingy and sometimes cranky child.

Answer 6

They're children, that's what they do. Depending on their age, you could try some form of distraction - go for a hike or to the park, bake cookies, do an art project, clean out their rooms, etc.

Good luck!

Answer 7

You're probably giving them too much attention. Kids need to be taught and expected to play on their own sometimes. You're not helping them if your constantly entertaining them. Believe it or not they can figure it out by themselves if you make them.

Answer 8

Kids like getting plenty. plenty of attention no matter how much their getting. Kids like to be center of attention.

Answer 9

Maybe it's based on anxiety of losing that attention.

Answer 10

They are spoiled. stop doing everything for them. It will get worse before it gets better.