My parents try to control me. I'm only 14 and I know there are some things that I have to listen to and somethings that I can't get because I'm just too young. I stopped asking for a nose piercing because I knew I could just wait till i'm 18 and get one. The one thing that really bothers me is my mom and dad. They're going through this "big divorce" it doesnt bother me at all because I don't like either of them. I mean of course i love them, but its just the fact that they piss me off so much and upset me too. I asked my dad the other day if he could schedule a hair appointment for me so I could get the end of my hair razored and my hair thinned out (its really thick and I really don't like it on me) He couldnt think of a reason not to say no so he was all "your mom could say something to a judge and she'd get custody of you!" what the ****. It's my hair. Then my mom was like "I've made that mistake when I was your age you cant cut your hair unless you get it like mine!" I don't want
2007-11-27 12:32:50 · 5 answers · asked by courtneygrater838 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
hair like my moms. I want my own style. I also wanted to dye it myself (i've been getting it salon dyed before) I just wanted to go one shade lighter and they freaked oiut even more. My mom was like "I own your body you cant do anything" and my dad was like "if you cut your hair yourself i'll shave your whole head" I dont understand there actions! Its my body, its not like im getting a tattoo where its permanant. If it looks bad on me its my fault. Its not like theyd havea to live with it. Please help me. I don't understand what to do!
2007-11-27 12:34:30 · update #1
I really don't care about their divorce. They've hated each other ever since I was born, I grew up with the fighting and everything. All I care about is myself and I'm fine with it. Judge me all you want, I just want my haircut.
2007-11-27 12:44:15 · update #2
Get used to it. This is just a practice run for when youre an adult and you find out almost nothing in life is fair. For example the retard who works in the cubicle next to you who spends 90% of his time not doing any work while you work your butt off all day will be the one getting the promotion you wanted. Your future husband will always side with his mother when you argue with her. Your kids teachers will hate your wonderful child but reward the one who bullies the others.
What youre going thru now will prepare you for all that.
2007-11-27 12:45:55 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you are saying. My parents were some what like that. I mean that they were over-controlling about everything. Their way or not at all. Your parents at least let you dye your hair at 14. But look, they need to get over this divorce thing before they can focus on any big issues they have with you wanting to be your own person. You are also still too young to be doing certain things which it sounds like you already know that. I say wait a year or two then bring some stuff up again.
As for the hair cut, maybe try to discuss other hair style options that you and your mom can agree on. That is one way I got through to my mom. She might be viewing your choice of hair style as "radical change".
Sorry you have to go through all this. I know it can be hard to be this age and having to deal with the turmoil that parents cause between each other.
2007-11-27 21:29:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 14 -- so why on earth do you need to COLOR your hair??? Darlin, i'm sure your natural color is very nice...
As for the hair cut, if your parents say "no", there isn't much you can do, unless they decide to change their minds.... sorry you feel so stuck.. I know this is really important to you right now, but for some things, we have to wait.
Take care and i hope you do ok...
2007-11-27 20:44:46 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are going through hell right now and you worry about your hair.
Try being nice and helpful and supportive. You have no idea how thankful your parents will be if you don't add to their already stressful time in their live.
2007-11-27 20:53:59 · answer #4 · answered by Kira 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
id be more concerned with your parents divorce rather then your want to get your hair cut. id think your parents frustration would be more important to you not so you can get some nice lil hair cut.
2007-11-27 20:39:36 · answer #5 · answered by jstaires15 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋