i married a woman who was a virgin.we just got back from our honeymoon but i noticed whenever we have sex she just lays there and stares at the ceiling.its not enjoyable for me and when im done she rolls over and goes to sleep.
she made a few noises but nothing significant sometimes she willll move away from me alittle
what do you think is wrong?
2007-11-27 12:32:09 · 8 answers · asked by .i. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hopefully, you are experienced enough to know your way around the female anatomy. Remember, as a virgin, she has no experience in the pleasure of intimacy. You are charged with the wonderful duty of introducing her to these pleasures!
Plan on extensive foreplay. Playfulness helps, both having fun and experimenting. Maybe a glass of wine, not too much.
Maybe a bubble bath together. Just make it fun, and take your time.
Buy a book on pleasuring a woman. Read it together.
Good luck!
2007-11-27 12:50:23 · answer #1 · answered by Cat Lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't know her own body, probably because she is real conservative, and might believe is naughty or something to touch one self and learn what feels good.
My wife was very similar so we made a rule - no clothes in bed, and every adventure must be preceded by 10 minutes of looking into each others eyes....
That did it... Then she went crazy with the instigation thing. You should tell her what you perceive and keep score of who instigates sex - she needs to lead this statistic.
good luck
2007-11-27 20:41:28 · answer #2 · answered by Frequency 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It could be a number of things. Yes, she was a virgin and she could be having some pain. If she continues to stare I would try to talk to her. She may have had something happen to her when she was younger. Try to be sensitive, and be a little playful.
2007-11-27 21:16:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she isn't comfortable with sex? perhaps she wonders what the big deal is? you need to talk with HER about it... don't ask us.
there is couple's counseling which deals with issues like this... but i think first thing is to talk with her about it... maybe get a book ... Barnes & Noble is a huge book store with a lot of titles, on thousands of subjects, and i'm sure you can find one for people who are just married and new to the sexual experience....
i sure hope it works out... sorry for your worries...
sending good thoughts your way, hon.
2007-11-27 20:41:42 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is in pain, and she is inly having sex to make u happy, have you thought of that? If she was a virgin, it will be a little while, until she actually starts enjoying it.
2007-11-27 20:42:43 · answer #5 · answered by jmel20 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
look she was a virgin when u married her teach her she probaly does not know what she is doing tell her what u like and ask her what she likes communication is the key hope it gets better
2007-11-27 20:37:35 · answer #6 · answered by NIKKI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she was a virgin for gods sake....she knows nothing about sex or how it should be. What do you think.......women instasntly become pros? it is all in the partner.
2007-11-27 20:36:52 · answer #7 · answered by Jene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a therapist. There is something dark going on in her.
2007-11-27 20:37:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋