I know money isn't everything but it counts for something evidently. I have been dating this 24 year old guy. He's really nice but he needs a form of income. He still lives with his parents and he borrows money from his friend to do simple stuff like go to the movies. He ask me to go to lunch but we always pay seperately. He use to tell me he was looking for a job but lately I haven't even gotten that excuse. There are things I want to do that I know are out of the question. I just think at 24 you need to do for yourself. I am 22 and working. I have always had a job because there was no way I could live with my mom without a job. How do I tell this man to get a job. How long should I wait until I give up on this relationship. Its been 4 months already.
2007-11-27 12:30:43 · 15 answers · asked by from_me_to_you 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him he needs to grow up and become self sufficient and to call you when he does (but don't hold your breath).
2007-11-27 12:34:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
yeah dump him or before you know it he will be 30 and still at home with mom and dad. Unless he is in college, which even at 24 he should be done if not close to done. even so, unless he is going to law school, or becoming a doctor, or even getting his masters degree he should at least have a part time job. this doesnt sound like the case. i have seen many guys like this. dont be an enabler for him. dump him, and when he asks why tell him its because you dont have a job and you dont see him going anywhere with his life, the truth hurts and maybe it will hit him where it counts.
2007-11-27 20:43:20 · answer #2 · answered by benjamin r 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow are you and I twins? I'm 22 and have the same problem with my 24 year old boyfriend. I finally just told him to get a job. Why should I feel bad? I go out everyday, weather I feel like it or not and go to the job I don't necessarily like. I resent him for not working and he knows it. He's the man and he needs to start acting like it. Believe me, if he doesn't get a job soon, you need to dump him, you don't want to be in this boat for as long as I have been. Good luck to you!
2007-11-27 20:42:16 · answer #3 · answered by cindos_69 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Can you say looser ? If a grown man needs to be told to get a job he's a looser. If you are with him still after 4 months and asking the question here your gonna end up being one too. Why did you go out with him in the first place ? 24 years old lives with his mommy, mooches off friends, no job. Wake up and smell the coffee.
2007-11-27 20:45:59 · answer #4 · answered by sfcjoe4d 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if uv been dating for 4 months already then its time to let him know that there are things you want to do in life and they take money. Tell him u really like him but that he really needs to get a job and start taking you on real dates were he pays, if at this point u cant have this conversation with him then its time to get out.
2007-11-27 21:24:34 · answer #5 · answered by ladybeach 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Perhaps you should tell this fellow that it is time to grow up. He has been a leech too long. Sounds like a loser to me and if you wish to continue a relationship, what does he bring to it? There is no future for you except trouble. It will be about money.. Get out while the getting is good.
2007-11-27 20:38:23 · answer #6 · answered by googie 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
say something like "i have wanted to talk to you about money and jobs, i think you should start making some income so you dont have to borrow money and i think you would like it as well" you can explain a little more then that but say it in a nice sweet tone of vioce and if he still gets upset just explain to him how you really feel, im sure he would understand.
2007-11-27 20:37:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well just wait until you get married, if you don't let him go you are going to be very sorry. I wonder how he pays his parents when he borrows money to take to the movies.
2007-11-27 20:48:09 · answer #8 · answered by new MAC-er 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ummmm now. He's not a real man in my opinion and he doesn't understand a man must provide, not just for his family but for himself too. I'm upset with his parents to instill a value that it's okay to beg and borrow from others. I don't think you want a man who doesn't have a desire to work and achieve goals.
2007-11-27 20:37:18 · answer #9 · answered by Swindoll 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You might have to nag him and keep reminding him about a job. Tell him that you sincerely wish that he earned a living because you like him and see a common future together. Tell him and encourage him. Tell him you care about him and that he should not feel belittled by your comments. He will definitely be stirred!
Good luck!
2007-11-27 20:35:01 · answer #10 · answered by Protik Maitra 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If he feels at 24 that the world owes him a living, he probably won't change. Unless you want to end up supporting him, you'd best lose him.
2007-11-27 20:41:37 · answer #11 · answered by Just Hazel 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋