How can i handle dateing someone with bipolar that wont take meds?

Question

My boyfriend of 2 years now is a great guy, when he isn't going wacko, he wont take meds from one excuse to another, he has high and low days and i have finely come to the point to avoid them. he stays with me all the time but wont work to help around here. he has fits like a child, he b*tch's like a woman. i feel traped on being with him but i love him so much to let him go. we fight nonstop, day in day out. he smokes pot alot but heck that clams him down so i dont mind it. i have 2 daughters from a past marriage just seems i cant do nothing right for him. he finds some mean words all the time. how can i change this? what can i do to make this work with out wanting to always dump him. i do that alot. i love him thats all that matters. so any info please.i am 27 he is 28

first off, my daughters are safe, he isn't showing one bit of anger toward them. so people get off the case of that. no one has answered my question as of handling a bipolar man that wont take meds. we have more good days then ever bad days. so instead of lashing out on me how about answering the question. thanks

Answer 1

If your boyfriend doesn't take his meds he will never be normal and he will never be able to give you a stable life that you and your children deserve. I know you love him now, but you should cut your loses and move on while you are young and still have a large dating pool out there of people who will treat you right.

My father is bipolar. Growing up he had very many high days, and low days. He would take his meds on and off here and there, but would stop when he started to feel better and then would go manic again. He also started with pot, which is just a gateway drug to worse things. He turned to crack, cocaine, and heroine. Not to mention he also became an alcoholic. He spent thousands of dollars on garabage that could have been used for college for me or my brother. He started to become abusive and would hit me. He became a drain on society. My mother put up with it for many years, but finally couldn't take it anymore. She is now in her 50's and single, which seems to be a lot harder then 27.

I'm not saying that this is how things will turn out for you, but there is a good chance. I would think long and hard about if you think it will be worth it.

Answer 2

Well, while you are waiting for him to go darkside and take out you and/or your daughters, do not neglect your duty as a parent.

Make sure your daughters know that love is more important than intelligent choices in men.

Protect them at all costs from the notion that women are capable of rational thought.

Remember nothing teaches girls to be meek little victims like a good example from their mom.

Insane and abusive men everywhere are counting on you to raise the next generation of submissive moronic females.

On the other hand you might consider GROWING UP and getting over the incredibly immature notion that love justifies child endangerment.

You could read "10 Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives" and get this man out of your life and away from you kids.

Here's the info you need: "Crazy men make bad fathers"

Answer 3

I am married to a bipolar guy who had 3 major breakdowns 5 years ago. Even tho' at that stage they had put him on meds he still wasn't stabilized and the 3rd time he took to me with a double barrel shot gun. He was then put in a lock-down ward with trials of drugs and quantities for 6 months before the doc's got him stabilized. He has been on 3 different types of meds for the past 5 years and is now very stable. The only problem with some bipolar people is they have a very addictive nature and as the years pass by they are addicted to what-ever has caught their attention i.e. alcohol, drugs, smoking etc. My man is addicted to alcohol and heavy smoking so at the end of the day, we have got him back on track for his bipolar but now our life is miserable because of the alcohol!!! You must think very seriously long term for you and your children as it will not get better - only worse and who knows what he may end up doing towards either you or your babies. The sad part is that he doesn't know what he is doing so it is hard to try and reason with him. As for thinking all that matters is that you love him - love will not keep you or your children from possable harm in the future!!!!!

Answer 4

I really don't know how you lasted two years, but you did! I don't know why you kept two young kids among this mess, but you did! I bet you fear for your life sometimes, I bet you do! Guess what you should, you choose to stay with crazy all this time and you just now realizing that you can't handle him? WTF! And to top it all off you have two children in the midst of this mess, what kind of example are you setting for your children. You need to get as far away from this person as you can before something tragic happens to you and those kids! Best of luck to you!