Ok so i have one brother and a million cousins and if you put them all together you get trouble! My brother has been smoking for like a year now and he is trying to cut down on it because of the negative outcome [cancer, struggle to breathe etc.] I heard him talking on the phone the other day, These were his exact words "I swear to god i have not smoked but i have been......... i could not hear the rest but it sounded like he said trying cocaine! I dont want to loose my brother to drugs, smoking or anything like that! In case you are wondering how he started smoking it was by my cousin`s husband [now ex] and my brother in law!!! They started hanging out Saturday nights and they just started to try new things like marijuana, other drugs, and mixing drinks!!!! My brother is studying really hard to be a doctor but if he keeps this up he will end up in jail! I just want to know what do you think i should telll him!!!! I am not trying get involved but i know my brother is getting worse!!!!
2007-11-27 12:11:11 · 4 answers · asked by Neggra 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think that my brother is getting more of my cousins on drugs like my 17 and 14 yr old cousin!!! The people who are getting hurt the most are the kids!!!! my brother in law has a kid [6 months] and he leaves her with me when he is at home doing nothing or going out to do drugs and while my sister is at work!!! where are my parents??? my dad does not want to get involved but he has tried to tell my brother to choose better choices!!!! Then my cousin`s husband has two kids [3 yrs] and [2 months] and he is trying to get me to take care of his two kids!!!!
2007-11-27 12:17:55 · update #1
Having a mom, a step-sister, and a friend who smokes I believe you can trust me when I say that this is not going to turn out good, and will only get worse unless there is some sort of intervension performed and very VERY soon. While I have no family or friends that do drugs, I have given so many people advice with relationships AND FAMILY both online AND offline I feel that I can give you a well thought out and accurate answer to solve this problem.
First of all, people may say that smoking LITE cigarettes is better for you, but that is only true in the short term, they are still just as likely to get lung cancer and the people around him are still just as likely to get lung cancer from second hand smoke.
Also, my mom takes this stuff called Chantrix that is supposed to make the cigarettes taste bad and help eliminate some of the nicotine. It has been working for my mom and she is smoking only about a pack a week or LESS so you should consider getting a perscription of this for your brother.
You also need to put the thought of jail time for his drug possesion/abuse in his mind and really make it stick in any way, shape, or form possible. You also need to talk to your younger cousins and explain to them what drugs do to there bodies, and what kind of trouble they can get in with the police for drug possesion/abuse and how limited their futures will be with such a bad crime on their records.
If you can catch the problem with your younger cousins "In The Bud" then "cure" your brother of his problem it should all work out as long as he gets new friends and never speaks to or sees his old ones.
Good luck and I hope everything works out for you
Also, the alcohal problem is going to be the hardest of them all, no kidding, statisticly: alcoholism is the hardest - AND MOST DANGEROUS - addiction to break due to the horrible medical problems that can result from the withdrawls. The sudden absence of the toxins/chemicals found in all forms of alcohal (even worse when in MIXED DRINKS) cause horrible withdrawls unlike anything you will ever know, I am pretty sure that people have actually died from alcoholic withdrawls. So don't rush him to stop drinking, just get him to stop mixing first of all and give it a week or two then get him on LITE Beer give it another few weeks or so, then get him to cut down on how often he drinks altogether
I hope this nice and easy proccess will help your bro
2007-11-27 23:26:33 · answer #1 · answered by TwoFacedAngel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All else tell DAD or a bigger brother than him not doing it. Cocaine is bad yes, but, its not like crack, speed, mushrooms, heroin,LSD, etc Hell I smoke pot all the time and I'm still the same person inside and out. I smoke cigs too but I wish I never started way back when I was 17. If hes just smoking pot every now and then, ok whatever, but doing coke and smoking cigs is definatelynot ok
2007-11-27 12:20:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its easy.... ask him if he still really want to be a doctor... and if he says yes... tell him that he is contradicting his wants with his actions...he's basically working hard for nothing.... tell him he is old enough to make his own choices and that he is smart enough to figure out the possible outcomes of the choices that he makes.....so its up to him which route he wants to take.... if he decides to do what he's doing, tell him mind as well leave the doctor thing alone because he's wasting his time and energy.....
2007-11-27 12:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi hon....
first of all, you don't have to babysit if you don't want to... secondly, if the kids are in danger, call children's protective services and report the parents' drug use... druggies dont' need to raise kids.
you cant' control what your brother does... and it's no one's fault he started smoking, drinking or taking drugs. YOUR BROTHER CHOSE TO DO IT.... no one tied him down, threatened or forced him... it was his decision...
you can urge your brother to seek help, and let him know you care.
lesson learned -- drugs and alcohol don't improve our lives, but they do the opposite.
i hope it all works out
2007-11-27 12:37:32 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋