Im 15 years old and have only had 1 Gf in my whole life. Im not at all a bad person and I know I don't look to bad because I know more than a few girls like me. I however only like one girl, and I don't know if I'll ever go out with her. My school is pretty big with 1000 people( its a Jr High School 2 years) so that means about 500 girls. I hardly ever get in relationships because I don't think I've found the perfect girl yet. Am I being too strict in what I;m looking for? Should I go out with the girl thats the most like me, or wait, Does not going out with somebody say until mayby even college hurt me and does having relationships( or not) really benefit me in the future?
2007-11-27 11:50:38 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask yourself if your are meeting someone else's needs.
Why do you feel like you have to date?
You don't owe an explanation to anyone about what you want to do or not do. Screw'm
When you feel comfortable with dating, believe me, you will date.
You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders and probably won't let other boys, who aren't dating, rag you into feeling like a poser.
Give them the finger and do what you feel like when you feel like it.
YOU ROCK, DUDE
2007-11-27 12:00:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should wait for the right girl. I am almost 20 and have never had a boyfriend before. I don't even go out with them. I did maybe once or twice but I did not like them and I did not want to settle for someone who did not meet your expectations. I don't think I am bad looking either because I also know some guys who like me in my university. Bottom line, you do what ever feels comfortable to you but in my case, I want to wait until the right guy comes along. I sometimes feel wierd for doing that because other friends are in relationships but I know I am doing the right thing by waiting. Good luck and don't rush. You are still so young and girls will always be there.
2007-11-27 11:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wait until you are comfortable enough with the idea and the person....Do not just settle....It is not bad to Not be in a relationship....You are not being too strict....Wait until others around you are more mature and can handle a relationship....It is not bad in the slightest wait....You know what you want....and you will know when someone is the right person to start you "Love Life" with....maybe they will stick it till the end....You should look, but commit to no one until it feels just right....You can be looking for the right girl....without going through then like you change shirts....
2007-11-27 11:54:14 · answer #3 · answered by *Swimfan48* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good question. i would consider the following:
1. ask this girl out. what do you have to lose? if you area decent guy like you described, then there shouldn't be a problem. :)
2. so say this girl isn't into you. well, i think you should give these other girls a chance, but only after you ask out the girl you like. who knows? maybe you could like them a lot. give them a chance.
3. nooo it doesn't hurt you! now, unfortunately, people may think ur weird, but ur not. ur only waiting for the right one.
4. it CAN benefit you. some will, some won't. u just have to wait and see.
i am a freshman in high school, btw. good luck!! :)
2007-11-27 11:57:37 · answer #4 · answered by ♥evster♥ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are smart enough to ask and it is not stupid to wait. Give yourself some more time. When the time is right it will happen! Try to be friends with the girl you really like and go from there. Not sure what you are looking for, but you need to share common interest's and be like minded in your goals. None of us are perfect, so don't expect perfection. We all need time to grow. You appear to have a good head on your shoulders and I am sure you will be dating before college. All relationships are beneficial bringing you to maturity to find just the right person to love and be loved. Congrats on looking ahead to college. Good luck & Happy dating!
2007-11-27 12:12:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
the more mistakes you make now, the less mistakes you will make in the future. Its your choice, but just be aware of what you will miss. Being emotionally/sexually dormant for a good number of years could also mess up your chances in the future. practice makes perfect, so the more relationships you have, the better you will get at it. You dont need to find the perfect girl in junior high, but find girls that you like and start from there, it will help you determine what you like about them and what you dont like, so when you do find the perfect girl you will know that she is the one, and not just pass her by.
2007-11-27 11:56:10 · answer #6 · answered by PBaddict 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
At this stage in your life you should not be seriously dating, I mean looking for a woman who you want to spend your life with. You should date now just for fun, and to learn skills that will help you later (like how to talk to a girl on a date!) The idea is just spending time with girls, talking to them, doing stuff with them, and enjoying their company.
You're not looking for a 'relationship', just a companion to go to a movie with, or miniature golf, and maybe ice cream or a hamburger later, and talk. If you get a little make-out action, that's nice too, of course, but that's not the main purpose. You don't have to be IN LOVE with the girl, you're just friends.
When you get older, like college or your early 20s, then you're looking for a life partner, and if you haven't dated much, all the girls will have more dating experience than you and think you're gauche and clumsy.
2007-11-27 11:58:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well honestly that depends on you, if you know what you want wait for it, thats not stupid at all. Dont date someone just b/c they like you if you have no feelings for them, thats just going to get someone hurt. But I have known of people who never dated anyone untill college, and it ended soon b/c they never learned how to act in a relationship and they ended up over pariniod/jealous/pysico. On the other hand I have known a couple people who never dated anyone until college then ended up getting married and being wonderfully happy! So wait for someone you like but dont end up crazy pysico boy!! Good Luck!!
2007-11-27 12:03:32 · answer #8 · answered by Landon's Mommy! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should stop stressing over what every one else thinks. Also, you will not find the perfect girl. You really need to get to know someone. Enjoy your youth, keep a positive attitude and remember every experience weather good or bad teaches you more about yourself and what you want out of life.
2007-11-27 11:55:54 · answer #9 · answered by DAISY 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You maybe a little young to be thinking about relationships. For now I suggest you do group dates. Wait for about three more years then start dating. But please do start dating at 18. Once you are done with college, it is very hard to find a mate. Trust me this is coming from my own life experience.
2007-11-27 11:57:21 · answer #10 · answered by Dr Love 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋