ok. the girl of my dreams just broke up with me because she said that she is not ready for a boyfriend just yet. so rite now we are back to being good friends. this crushes me because i like her a lot lot lot and care about her super lot! i think this could work out but she is not ready.. do u think she could still be my dream girl?? or should i just stay friends and keep looking?? i want to wait but i also dont want to miss any opportunities if she decides that were not meant to b. my heart is telling me to wait and be there for her wen shes ready but my mind is telling me to let go and find another girl. idk wat to do.... please help!!!!
2007-11-27 11:17:33 · 27 answers · asked by Anthony I 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just take it one day at a time, be just friends and keep looking for the next dream girl. Too many fishes in the sea to lose sleep over one who doesn't have mutual feelings for you.
2007-11-27 11:22:23 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Šωèé†íé♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait just a bit more, listen to your heart, not your head, at least in this situation you should. Anyway, this is a tru story. Once a girl was going out with some guy and they were a great couple and then one day she decided that she just didn't feel the same way anymore. The guy was crushed but stayed friends with her and after a few weeks passed they were hanging out somewher just as friends and then the girl realized that she still liked the guy or just fell in love with him again and they got back together. It's 100% true and this could happen to u too. Don't lose hope and listen to your heart. Make her feel special but don't bother her and don't act all really really sad that you two are broken up. Maybe afte some time passes she will relize that she misses you and you could get back together. It is possible. If that's what your heart is telling you to do right now then do it. If a while passes and she doesn't come back to you, stay friends but look for some one else. Anyway, I truly hope everything will work out, so good luck. :-)
2007-11-27 11:29:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Correct me if I'm wrong, but doesn't the "girl in your dreams", in general, reciprocate your feelings?
My advice: Take your power back, not to mention your self-respect. I'm sure she's a nice person, but the last thing you want is to become just another one of her "girl friends". Trust me, once you've picked up that label in her mind, your done. You have no shot -- ever.
At this point, the best thing you can do is to focus your efforts on other people and other things. If you see her, be "friendly", but by no means be her friend. Don't give her another thought. Seriously, not even for a second. The last thing you want is to be labeled as desperate and pathetic. Women are attracted to fun and interesting, not lame and desperate.
Go out and have some fun. Forget her and you'll find another before you know it.
2007-11-27 11:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by JM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound kind of young. If she was the girl of your dreams, you will get back together soon. If not then she wasnt the one for you and you will find someone else. You shouldnt wait around for her to make her decision. Just stay good friends with her and take it one step at a time. If you stop thinking about her as the love of your life and start think of her as a friend then you will know that there is someone else out there for you to be with. Just go with your heart and do what you think is right.
2007-11-27 11:25:17 · answer #4 · answered by luvcaramel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you are feeling. I would be confused to. Just wait a little longer, I'm sure she don't need that much time. If she keeps you waiting, tell her how much you need her and care about her. She either is really nervous about it, or she just doesn't know what she wants. And thats not your fault at all. Listen to your heart always. BUt if its too long. way to long. Then find another one, theres more fish in the sea. Good Luck !
2007-11-27 11:23:49 · answer #5 · answered by ~!Ashley!~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Careful... moving in on your gf's girlfriend could put you in zero-land, because you could be seen as a betrayer. If they're really friends, the new girl is most definitely gonna tell your gf, and then you'll be without either one. The only POSSIBLE way out is for girl number two to make a SERIOUS, unmistakable move on you, one that couldn't be misunderstood as a "test" to see if you'd cheat. She'd have to, like, practically have sex with you, otherwise it could just be her testing your for the sake of her friend. Danger, dude. Radioactive.
2016-05-26 04:03:29 · answer #6 · answered by lara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? Statistically you are best off letting her go, period. She is not in love with you, and so long as you are still hanging out with her, it will be difficult for you to get over it and find someone better. Sounds like you need a break from her, at least. Give her some space, get out and have some fun, and see what happens. Good luck!
2007-11-27 11:20:56 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait for a little while but not forever. If she just isn't ready for a boyfriend then give her space. If you don't then she would probably never want you back. See if getting another girl upsets her. If it does then she still has feelings for you.
2007-11-27 11:21:15 · answer #8 · answered by animal luver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't exactly go LOOKING for another girl, but if one comes along there is no reason why you can't start dating her. Keep your options open, don't get into anything too serious for now until you are over your ex. Have you heard that saying about setting something free and if it comes back to you, it was meant to be...that's what you need to try...but there is no reason you can't date in the meantime.
2007-11-27 11:23:33 · answer #9 · answered by beaners1229 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait for her, but it would probably be harmless to go on a few fun dates while you are waiting. Tell her that you'll be ready for her when she's ready, but until then you want to date other people. Just listen to your heart.
2007-11-27 11:22:51 · answer #10 · answered by MandyRox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋