There is this guy I really care about and recently I told him how I felt. He said he just wanted to be friends b/c he's not ready for a relationship right now. He has a music career and thats the reason why he moved down here to pursue it. So he doesn't want a relationship because between working a 9 to 5 and his music he feels he doesn't have time for a girl now. He wants to be able to come and go as he please and not feel guilty for not spending enough time with me. I understand what he saying and I don't want to stand in the way of his dreams. But I really really like him and I don't want to miss out on being with a great guy like him. So my question is even though I respect him and how he feels should he respect how I feel. Do you think we should try to be in a relationship and see where it goes? I'm ready to take a chance on love and I don't want any regrets or What if's. Should I sacrifice the time we spend together for him to pursue his dreams and other things?
2007-11-27 11:16:35 · 17 answers · asked by tc22 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you really like him and care about him then YOU will respect HIS wishes. If it is meant to be, then hang in there, be a good friend, be there for him, don't pressure him into a relationship, and things are bound to eventually fall into place. If anything I bet it will push him away if you try to pressure him into being in a relationship with you. What if he DID grant your wish and then you felt neglected when he, as he told you, didn't have time for you? It sounds like he's being honest and open with you. I'd be appreciative and if you really think he's worth it, lay in wait. How would you propose to make him be in a relationship with you anyway, if he's already made it clear he doesn't want to be in one at this time?
2007-11-27 11:22:04 · answer #1 · answered by Analytical Observationalist 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's honorable to sacrifice certain things. Like drinking, if you had a problem and you gave it up for someone that is a noble sacrifice. But it shouldn't be expected of someone to give friends up, or a job they love because the other person wants them to.
2016-05-26 04:03:18 · answer #2 · answered by lara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you understand that it will possibly ruin everything. That sounds harsh but its true i think the best way is to try and let the relationship develop on its own, he will definitely resent it if you try to force him into a relationship just try being friends and let things flow but at the same time don't kid yourself about what is going on between the two of you. People cant choose who they love and if there is that potential between you two it will definitely develop, so stay friends don't be clingy needy or any of the other things that ruin relationships/friendships
2007-11-27 11:24:17 · answer #3 · answered by gage_lp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
What about your dream? What about your goal? Are you willing to sacrifice your whole life for a guy who care about his career more than you.
Love is like tissue paper in the society today, it dissolve quicker than you imagine. Love doesn't conquer all. There are no happy endings that you read in story or fair tales.
2007-11-27 11:26:56 · answer #4 · answered by Thanny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he did show you respect by being honest up front with you.
you should NOT pursue this guy.
he has told you in a nice way that he isn't interested in you.
if you continue to try and force yourself on him, it could be consider stalking, which is unlawful.
i don't know your age, but act as if you have some sense left.
be friends and leave it at that.
2007-11-27 11:23:59 · answer #5 · answered by LITTLE_JOHN 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think u give him much attention although u love him much and willing to sacrifice urself to him,enough for u to tell him what is in ur mind right now .. u have to move on coz u dont know that his reason is just an alibi to u and cannot say his real feeling that he doesnt want u.look forward to others and give the best for urself.
2007-11-27 11:27:39 · answer #6 · answered by abangan_lydia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think when someone doesnt feel ready it is cause they dont feel enough but at the end of the day just look at yourself and put your feelings in a balance machine. maybe my english is not good. what i mean is think if you go for it and is good how will you feel and if you dont how will you feel . see what will make you feel better regardless of the consequences and whatever balance more go for it. hope i was of any help
2007-11-27 11:25:17 · answer #7 · answered by rachelsimplythebest 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-11-27 11:18:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of sacrifice, why not support so when he accomplishes what he is going after, he'll look back and see that you were by his side the whole time and love you for that.
2007-11-27 11:20:42 · answer #9 · answered by snipe_d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you truly respect him, you will allow him to follow his dreams. If he is in love with you, he will let you know, when the time is right. Good luck
2007-11-27 11:20:55 · answer #10 · answered by pitbull1969 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋