My mom has been married to my dad for 18 years now. My mom used to be one of those super christian no style everyday moms. now she has changed. alot. SHe loves shopping, is wearing thongs, (!) (i found that out on a shopping spree) tries to stay in fashion, listens to todays music, and is acting like a 21 year old! Worst of all she and my dad are on and off. they somtimes really love eachother and somtimes bicker like children. my siblings are blind to the change or else they think it is "cool". Am i over reacting? im really hurt by this and i need help. Please someone help me!
2007-11-27 10:58:18 · 6 answers · asked by roxi_chic343 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi honey..............I am hearing you. Okay, I'm a 54 year old mom, and quite young looking for my age! A lot of people say they thought I was in my upper 30's. I have always said that I want to be and look like the very best 54 year old that I can be. I have always cared about how I look and age is not going to get the best of me. HOWEVER, I have been married for 31 years and believe in keeping my vows. I am a christian woman and believe in family and home with our Lord at the top of the list.
Your mom you say has changed a lot. Have you tried sitting down with her to talk? Have you let her know that you are hurt deep inside by her "actions"? Quite honestly, those thongs are most uncomfortable for me. My daughters wear them, but I don't. They irritate me. I tried about 6 months ago, but didn't like the feeling of them. Is your mom hanging out at night? Also, try sitting down with your dad and see what he feeling. Ask him what is going on. Ask your mom what is going on. The best way to get to the heart of the pain is to face it. Go to the two people that are involved.
Maybe she is doing the right things and has just tried to adjust her looks to make "her" feel better. OR, maybe she is going through "midlife" changes. Like I said, I'm age 54 and I've been in menopause for 3+ years now. Without knowing your moms age, it would be hard for me to know this.
I highly suggest being open with them both verbally. It will probably make you feel better to hear them outright.
I will pray for you and them. Whatever you plan to do, take it one step at at time and "make a list of your questions" that you plan to ask. But, don't overlook this as it's causing you to worry and is disturbing you. Make yourself feel better by getting them to open up to you. Many blessings, and hugs!!
2007-11-27 11:32:54 · answer #1 · answered by Pilot ~ canine son! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother might be going threw the change, it can make some women done right nutty. But the underwear she wears isn't a big deal, even if thongs are very unhealthy. I wouldn't worry about it to much. All woman go threw it. It will get better. Just don't let it get to you, my mother was awful when she went threw it. Did all kinds of things I never thought she would do, even got her belly button pierced.
2007-11-27 19:04:01 · answer #2 · answered by cris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication is key. Talk to her about it. Tell her you noticed the change in her behavior. Tell her why you think she is wearing thongs. She will have the opportunity to give you her reasons for her fashion choices. Ask her if she has any insight into what prompted her change. Talk to your parents about their arguing. Ask them how they would feel if you were to be as disruptive with your siblings. Your concerns are valid, and your input may help provide some insight.
2007-11-27 19:07:42 · answer #3 · answered by rod85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom has some freedom now that she didnt have when your parents were on all the time. its new and exciting to her. it will get better soon. hopefully they will stay together
2007-11-27 19:06:54 · answer #4 · answered by glori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray for her.Sounds like she is in denial about getting old.
2007-11-27 19:03:48 · answer #5 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if they have been married that long they deserve each other
2007-11-27 19:03:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋