Censoring to much?

Question

Does anybody else agree/disagree that we censoring too many things for our children and by doing so making them more fascinating and alluring for young people. An example is sex some parents make sex out to be this huge deal that has all these boundaries and rules with it when actually it’s just a natural act that people urge to do when there hormones start telling them to reproduce it’s a basic instinct and by telling children it’s bad to do before getting married and telling them they can’t have sex when teenagers , it just makes it more fascinating to them and a way to rebel as we all know , all teenagers do and they will go out and do it anyway without the guidance of their parents which they should have been giving them resulting in teen pregnancy etc

Another is in preschool with them banning children playing with imaginary guns , I’m Anti-gun but I remember when I was little playing cops and robbers and using “guns” to get the baddy and I have turned out fine as did all my other class mates who played with me , the fact is guns are around everywhere in the media in the wars that allot of countries are a part of even in children’s programs buzz light year has a laser for example so by banning them we confuse children and we lose a chance to teach them how guns can be used for good by police etc and for bad by criminals and teach them how to use their morals to choose what’s right

PLEASE I KNOW THIS IS LONG BUT IF YOU ARENT WILLING TO READ IT ALL DONT ANSWER THANKYOU :)

Answer 1

Sex IS a big deal. However, it is nothing to be afraid of. Unfortunately, a person can have sex and be a parent long before that person is ready for the responsibility. If society tries to discourage young people from having sex by totally forbidding it, that will never work. The human sex drive is too strong. We need to wake up, in this country, and realize that the only way to cope with the problem is to educate young people about condoms, contraception, and the consequences of not using both (babies and DEATH).
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Answer 2

I do agree with you for the most part. Banning toy guns and swords is a joke anyways. Anyone with boys knows that they will pick up sticks, rocks, their own hands, and make them into a gun. Just because you let your child play wtih a toy gun, doesn't mean he is going to grow up a serial killer. I feel the same way about TV. People have gone overboard restricting TV. My son had a playdate today, and the kid is never allowed to watch TV at home. He spent the whole playdate lying around begging to watch TV. While my son, who can watch TV relatively freely, had no interest and wanted to play outside. Its the forbidden fruit syndrome.

As for sex.... I definitely would rather my kids wait until they are married. However I would never tell them its bad and that they can't have sex. When they are old enough, I plan on explaining the emotions that go along with it and the intimacy that is best shared with a lifelong partner, the risks of STDs, etc. I personally don't think teenage sex and pregnancy is a result of rebellion. I think a lot of it is uninformed teenagers and teenagers that don't have open lines of communication with their parents. Just my opinions.

Answer 3

I think this is the same also. If I had a child, I would let him/her know about sex if s/he asked about it, but not too overboard, and I would let him/her know that It's probably not a good idea to have sex as a teen, because (if my child's a girl) then she would get pregnant.

As for the whole gun thing, I think the teachers/other people are making a big deal out of it. Good and bad people use guns. Pre-schoolers don't get the real reason guns are used

Answer 4

Guns, swords and sex should all be part of the childhood experience. Why mask anything? Of course, you need to use some parental judgment and introduce concepts when age-appropriate, right?

You wouldn't' force your toddler to learn calculus, would you?

Answer 5

as mother of 4 very young girls i cant even imagine my girls doing stuff like tha.
i believe in being open and honest with my girls. if they ask me something no matter how embarrassed i am by the question i will tell them the honest truth. no parent shpould be ashamed of telling theeir children about sex. if it is not hard for you to talk about it to other ppl why should ur child be any different?