Family problems?

Question

I really need help cause i don't know what to do from here. I live with my grandparents and aunt and she hit me, kicked me, and shoved me over a stupid phone and is just plain rude to me whenever she is around me. It might stress out my grandma to have another heart attack and i don't want that to happen so i called my mom and asked if i could move back with her. She said yes but after soon afterwards said no cause she said I lied about everything and need to grow up. My Aunt accuses me of going into her room and leaves stuff in there and says i do it. I cannot stay here with my grandma cause i will seriously go insane, and my own mom dosen't believe me. I have no other family who will take me in, where should i go. I am 17 so i could move out but i have no idea where to begin, and i know i will struggle alot if i do that but it is the only option for me.

Answer 1

Live with Grandma.....go by Grandma's rules
Live with Momma.....go by Momma's rules

The fact that your mom said "no" to you leads me to believe that you are somewhat of a troublesome girl. I have 3 adult kids, ages 28, 25, and 23. All of them were wonderful to have in MY home, however, our oldest was my headache at ages 16-19. Those are tough years where you are trying to prove you are capable of doing your own thing, and rules are a bit of a problem to young people at that age.

I had to be tough with my daughter, and I actually told her to leave. It hurt terribly, but the sense finally came through when she realized it wasn't greener on the other side. Now, she is 28 and happily married! I love her dearly, and she respects me for my patience, agony, and hard work to pull her back to what we all needed.....respect.

Maybe the best thing would be for you to do is go out and live on your own to learn what the world is all about. You will have struggles, and you will learn to care for yourself. You'll need to get a job full time to pay the expenses. I am age 54. I do remember clearly that when I was age 19, I moved out and got my own apartment and I loved it. Only then will you realize that family is SO VERY important. All anyone older than you asks for is "respect" from a much much younger person. This day and age does not teach respect to elders. I just never gave up. As hard as it was to say "no" to my daughter, kick her out at her young age, listen to her conversations on the phone, and find who her friends really were, WE BOTH REAPED THE REWARDS. Now, my husband of 31 years and I, along with our 3 adult kids, two of which are married, and the last one is finishing his last year at a University for Mechanical Engineering...........we all love each other very very much. All 3 of my kids (now that they are older and over the hump) are more wonderful than I had ever dreamed. The oldest is so warm and caring to us. She has appologized for her past right in front of myself, my hubby, and her sister and brother. Nine years ago, she said, "If I ever catch my younger sister or brother doing some of the things that I did, I will go to haunt them down and make them stop".

So, what I'm saying is NOTHING is more important than family!. I believe that you must have done something to make your Aunt do what she did. Big a bigger person now and apologize. Your grandmother will love you more for it, and your Aunt will respect you more. And, your mom will be more proud of you. It's time to grow up and take responsibility before it's too late and you loose more "respect".

Take care.......I'm trying hard to be as open and honest to you. I'm sure you are loved, but you must give love back to those who care. Besides, they are giving you a roof over your head, food, and a place to lay your head. The way I see it is.... You Are Blessed. Please stay blessed?

Answer 2

i am sorry to hear about your problems. first of all, try to be patience OK. what about tell your grandma you cannot bare with this anymore and beg her to tell your mum the truth and you are not lying to your mum. i am not agree with the decision to move out from home because you are still a teenagers and need an adult to look after you. study hard and further your studies so you can stay in hostel far away from your aunt. i think this is a great option. Good luck.

Answer 3

I am sorry to hear about your situation. Do you have any friends that you could move in with? It wouldd be hard for you to move out on your own. You need to make sure that you finish school, and go to college. It would be really hard for you to do this if you move out on your own, an it will be difficult for you to manage expenses without a good education and a degree. I woul suggest sitting down and making a list of goals for yourself. Even if it means toughing it out at grandma's in order for you to achieve your goals, it would be well worth it. Be careful to make sure that you weigh out all of your options before making any final decisions, that will effect the rest of your life.

Good luck.

Answer 4

oh thats so sad and difficult to hear.
would you be ok to live on your own in a womens shelter, there a community housing, and co operative and association housing you can apply for and is so affordable based on wages.
its not fair your mum wont belive you or take you back and you being backed up against the wall with being accused and abused by your aunt.
Goodness me, some people have not a clue do they? be strong!

Answer 5

Whats your dad like?
If nothing else talk to Dept of social services, but the NEXT time your aunt hits you for nothing, call 911 and have her butt jailed!

Answer 6

You would carry a problem withing you no matter where you go or who you live with.
You are almost an adult. Shape up.

Answer 7

you should fing a job, and move out!