My parents really hate my boyfriend. I am 25 and he is 30. We both have good stable jobs, and we each own a house. One problem is that I live next door, so everytime he comes over or I leave to see him they know about it. They say he is using me and that I am in denial. They do not feel as though he has an interest in knowing them and resent the entire relationship. We have been together a year and a half. I know my parents only want the best for me, but the arguing has torn me up and made me feel distant from them and from my boyfriend. It hurts me to see the people I love upset, but I know if I break up with my boyfriend only because they want me to I will always wonder what if.
2007-11-27 10:34:37 · 7 answers · asked by WaterLady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm in a kinda similar situation, my parents hate my girlfriend but for other reasons (morals, financial stability..blah). Now I live with my girlfriend, and hardly see my parents. Everytime they used to tell me when am I going to break up with her, but I just ignore the question. Do what you want, who cares what they want. They're not the one going out with your other half. Do what's best for you and do what you want to do. That's what I'm doing...
2007-11-27 10:41:15 · answer #1 · answered by dyang23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People make mistakes. People make irrational decisions. If your parents have no rational reason for disliking your boyfriend, if they have no examples or logic behind their dislike, they are acting on emotion created by their own previous experiences - which may be nothing more than t.v. shows they've watched in the past. How do they think you are being "used"? On the other hand, people who are in relationships are often blinded by emotion and can't see that their partner is a loser. "Love is blind" is true. You might not see something other people see clearly. How many women go for the "bad boys" when they know they will be treated like dirt? Ask your friends about the guy. If they tell you the truth and it matches your parents' objections, you are in for a wild ride.
2007-11-27 10:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by californiainfidel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I think you are more then old enough to make your own decisions. You have to realize that your parents ain't always going like who you are dating, but it's not there place to but in. If you were say 15 and living with them, and they didn't want the guy over, then that would be different, but you have your own place and a good job. I know you love your parents, but you need to tell them to back off and let them be an adult. I can guarantee if they were having marital troubles, and you told them to go See someone they would tell you to butt out. So do the same to them. Hope this helps.
-Ty
2007-11-27 10:42:47 · answer #3 · answered by Tyler C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you take a trip. Go be with just him and spend time with him and make sure your parents don't see something you're missing. If you feel confident that they're just off their rockers, then sit them both down and simply remind them that you are an adult, as is he and if they will not respect your decisions, it's as though they are disrespecting you as well and you're not going to take it anymore. Believe me, even your parents can be wrong.
2007-11-27 10:40:18 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, cherish your parents everyday. you are right.. they want the best for you. but let them know that your older and wiser and they can let you go and let you fly. your going to make mistakes in life and if anything ... at least you will have learned a valuable lesson. explain to them that your hurting because of this dilemma...more than likely they should understand your point of view better.
2ndly, your bf.... well... if he has a job and a house and not asking for anything from you then you shouldn't worry about it. and if your bf knows of your parents - he should understand their views... your their child and they only want the best for you.
good luck
2007-11-27 10:41:55 · answer #5 · answered by 1 Love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
isnt that always the case with parents.. think about it there not dating your bf so how would they even know what hes about??? try telling them that.. also remember that YOU are the one dating your boyfirend and if anyone knows him its you.. and you like him and your free to like whoever you want... especially if he treats you good.. tel lthem that im sure they will understand... i guess they have to hear it from you that hes a good man and treats you well ... maybe you dont seem proud of him or u dont tell them the things he does enough for ya...
anyways
good luck!
2007-11-27 10:44:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
possible they see what your love blind eyes can't
2007-11-27 10:38:08 · answer #7 · answered by goat 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋