I want my parents to be proud of me!! They help me ou A lOT and i constantly let myself down with my behaviour and my lack of direction in life!! How do parents get proud of their kids!! Id like parents to tell me their experiences and advice!
2007-11-27 10:28:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
aw! abfabmom!! you brought a tear to my eye!! sniff!
2007-11-27 10:47:52 · update #1
We are always proud of our kids. Always.
There are moments when we also feel disappointment, but not because we're not proud of you...just because we know you have so much potential that we hate to see you not living up to it. The pride is still there...In fact, without the pride, there would be no disappointment. If we didn't know how excellent you really are, then we wouldn't care if you faltered - we'd expect it.
The fact that you feel let down is a sign that your parents have a lot to be proud of. That you know what direction is the right one, even if you're not always on the right path, means your parents have done an excellent job raising you, and have good reason to be proud.
As a kid, you're not supposed to be perfect...that's why you have parents. It's our job to continue turning you toward the right path, and to pick you up when you fall. And we are so happy to do it, because we are so proud of all you have learned, and where we know you're going in life.
Some real-world experiences, to directly answer your question:
I felt proud of my daughter when she said her first word (which was "Hi!"), because it meant she could begin communicating with others around her.
I felt proud of my daughter on her first day of school, and every day that she went and learned something new, because I know how important it is to know things.
I felt proud of my daughter when she ran for student government (it didn't matter if she won the election or not), because she knew she was capable of doing the job.
I felt proud of my daughter when she hated living with me, and could no longer abide by my rules, because this meant she understood what she wanted for herself.
I feel proud of my daughter for struggling through financial hardship with her husband, because I know that she has truly found love, and will make it through the tough times as a stronger person.
2007-11-27 10:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
As long as my kids never break the law or hurt another person i will always be proud of them, i dont care if the leave school without qualifications or dont go to university, as long as they are happy, well mannered individuals then i will be the proudest mum around, they dont have to do anything special to make me proud of them, at the moment they are only 6 and 4, just them being well behaved at school and not getting in to trouble is enough for me thats all i ask of them.
2007-11-28 11:33:01 · answer #2 · answered by Fran D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have always tried to teach my children a few basic morals.
be as honest as you can ( with honest ppl) when very young dont lie.
never steal
treat ppl how they treat you
dont walk past a hungry person (i.e give)
never judge on appearance.
there are a few others, like for my sons never hit a girl.
for my daughter respect yourself first, or dont expect respect.
there are loads but these come with time, which is what a good parent does, guide them along the way, and if they dont listen, then you force them. no messing.
a good parent shouldnt need too much force anyway as the kids automatically respect.
great parenting does not come over night it starts at birth, when the baby learns to trusts you, then you educate her/ him and prepare them for the socialisation etc.
you do lose some when they start school but with a good base they do tend to listen to you more, so long as you never lie or tease them, always be simple but honest with them.
2007-11-27 18:50:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty , reliable, helpful and manners are most important to parents, also thinking of other peoples feeling, the old quote "do unto others as you'd have done unto you" in other words treat people how you would like to be treated. Don't wait for Mum or Dad to tell you what needs to be done in the way of chores around the house, use the brains the god lord gave you and find little things that they haven't got around to doing and do them for them, little things like bringing Mum & Dad breakfast in bed, or telling them to sit down and relax and you do the chores for the day, make them feel how they make you feel, remember life is too short and every little thing you do for them will always be remembered in a special way.
2007-11-27 18:47:45 · answer #4 · answered by Graham M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my kids are only 5, 3 and almost 2....
...But I'm proud of them. my oldest daughter has speech problems so she makes me proud when she does well in school and trying really hard with her speech.
Ive also let my mum down with my behaviour and she never has told me that she is proud, i often feel like she hates me as she has no or what feels like little time for me, i have 2 other sisters and i feel that she favours them over me so i try to compete in a way with them, just try and be careful of your behaviour around them, do well in what you do if its school or college even work, if you get great grades (promotion) then they will be proud of you, may not say it to you but they will.
Keep smiling.
2007-11-27 18:38:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My twin son makes me proud everyday Thomas is nine and has severe autism he is also non verbal, and did the sign language for his name last night which made me cry and he calls his nan 'mammy' which is cute, then there is Kylie his twin sister who's just totally understanding to her brother and the way he is, she has a ballet exam tomorrow and I'm sure she will make me a proud mum
2007-11-28 04:32:07 · answer #6 · answered by Autism's Beautiful Face 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By putting others before themselves. My youngest (8) is a very thoughtful young lady and often reduces me to tears some of things she says and does, she's very loving, caring and generous.
I think as long as you are honest, respectful and kind you won't go far wrong.
2007-11-27 18:34:55 · answer #7 · answered by Jo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my dad isnt around but my mum always says she is proud of me just for the fact that i try my best and put 100% effort into everything that i do. whether i pass or fail if she knows i have tried my best to succeed then she is proud.
2007-11-27 18:32:39 · answer #8 · answered by umbongo1984 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just look at my daughter and I'm proud of her i have never felt anything but pride x
2007-11-29 09:00:46 · answer #9 · answered by noot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt try so hard. ive done the same, my dad has always been there for me and supporting me in everything i do, but i keep messing up, by getting drunk taking drugs, getting arrested. but hes still there no matter wat, thats wat parents are there for t stick by u. abfabmum. that is wat parenting is all about you covered, u also sent chills threw my body as i remembered my childs first words and first steps. being a parent should be a blessing. t teach ure children t be the best they can. and aslong as they try it doesnt matter if they win the race at school or come last. hope u get best answer.
2007-11-27 18:40:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋