An aquaintance i have in my life has a 2 yr old kid and suffers from depression ALOT. She is a single mother of her son and not physically able to do some things that you and i would be able to do, cause of her disability from birth. She will correct him and tell him "no" and he laughs at her and continues to do exactly what she told him not to do. She is at her whits end with him, but she doesnt want to spank him, she has never believed in it. Because she suffers from depression she gets aggravated alot easier than normal and she will sometimes at 5 o clock in the afternoon put him to bed, but he does go to sleep. But is it wrong in anyones eyes for her to put him to bed and basically just "get rid of him" when she is aggravted. I sometimes look at it as her putting her responsibility off and not wanting to deal with it and i feel you cant do that as a parent, other than that she is a great mother. What can she do about his behavioral problems?...Any one got any discipline techniques
2007-11-27 10:11:26 · 9 answers · asked by sweet_loveing_country_girl_2004 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Well she needs to get off her butt and spank him or correct him instead of just telling him no. Kids cath onto you when you don't show them that you mean business. It's not right for her to put him to bed at 5 in the afternoon. This is irresponsible. He is the way he is due to her parenting, so the boy should not have to suffer because she uses her depression as an excuse. She needs to be firm and only tell him no one time. After that it's time out, toy loss, corner, or spankings.
2007-11-27 10:16:27 · answer #1 · answered by ~Sara~ 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
If she is just telling him no and then letting him get away with what is wrong then that is an indulgent parent. The best parenting technique is the Authoritative. You set certain rules and if they are broken then there are certain consequences. Have her try 123 magic. That is a technique that I will describe with this example: My son Aaron was hitting his brother with a toy. I told him that I would count to three and when I got to three, he was still hitting his brother than he would be in time out for 15 mins. Say 1 be sure you don't argue with the child or explain the rules you have already done that before you started counting. 2 same thing no other communication about the behavior or saying repeated no's. 3 ok now take the child to the corner or chair and have him sit. Do not debate him and each time he gets up quietly guide him back to the corner. She needs to be more disciplined and CONSISTENT. Without it that child will be unruley and end up being diagnosed with a behavior disorder such as Oppostional Defiant Disorder. 123 Magic is also the title for a book. Most of all she needs to take parenting classes and be more attentive to her child before the behvaior gets too far out of hand.
2007-11-27 18:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She has to decide to stick with something in order for him to learn. She can use time outs if she wants, but she must follow through or he will not learn. It is neglectful of her to not get help for her depression in order to care for her son. He is probably cranky as well if he is not on a regular sleeping and eating schedule. If he goes to sleep at 5 when she puts him to bed, then he must be tired and perhaps this is why he is not listening.
2007-11-27 18:24:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe she's putting him in a safe place so she doesn't fly off the deep end and hurt him. She should try time outs, but unfortunatly 2 is a time fr this type of behavior.
2007-11-27 18:27:37 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
toddlers are very hard work and sometimes I just put my son in his room or in front of the tv and try to relax for a few minutes. does he get a daly nap? my son does and it is a sanity-saving break! it is also a good time to clean up, catch up on chores and eat the things I would rather my son not eat. but toddlers are hard and I don't know how to fix that! if anyone does let me know!
2007-11-27 18:31:26 · answer #5 · answered by 1 Hott Mami 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to realize her parenting methods are NOT working.She needs to spank him if he needs it otherwise if she thinks he is bad now, wait until she tries to put him to bed at 5 when he turns 10-12-15.
She thinks she is depressed ow?She is digging a very miserable hole for her future.
She also needs to do something about her depression.
If all else fails, call super nanny.
2007-11-27 18:18:53 · answer #6 · answered by Joe F 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
she needs to start correcting him when he is doing something wrong that is the way he will stop bad behavior, but I would rather her put him to bed early then get to the point where she wants to beat him.
2007-11-27 18:20:41 · answer #7 · answered by imamom 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
no I don't think it's wrong. it's whole lot better then what some parents do to their kids when they get frustrated. would you rather her put him to bed early or shake him so hard he gets brain damage? she should get help for her depression though.
2007-11-27 20:18:35 · answer #8 · answered by Far Dreamer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she has depression, she needs to get help. Encourage her to talk to a doctor!!
2007-11-27 18:26:06 · answer #9 · answered by elloel 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋