How can I get over my fear for relationship?

Question

I recently broke up with my bf of two years, and although I am moving on, I noticed one thing that I was scared of saying my true feeling to him. I even noticed that I am scared of being hated by friends.

During we were together, I didn't fight with him and I really haven't fight with my friends either. I have many great friends who understand me, but I just noticed that I am scared of being hated by people.

I talked with one of female friends and she is very expressive person. She is confident and can say anything without having any fear. BUT she told me that until she was over 30 year old, she felt the fear all the time for friends, family, boy friends, etc.

SO,
I am not really concerning about it and trying to tell myself that is normal.

Q1: Do you have a similar feeling?
Q2: Any good way of keeping my fear?
Q3: Have you changed/ improved about your fear? How?

Just let you know my fears so you can understand easily.


when I write emails, I often worry what if my friend get mad at me because I use that phrase or this phrase...


I recently noticed that I have many older friends who I really love, but they are very very older than me and that is because I know they like me no matter what I say. I know they won't hate me.


For school work, I sometimes send emails to my teacher to see if I can turn my paper a little bit late, and I will be very modest to them. I do think being nice to teachers is important but I don't like to be modest for them. But I feel fear that they might be mad if I ask to turn paper late, and so I write very nice and modest... I am just chicken girl!!

Answer 1

Fear is because you lack understanding, its the nature of the human mind. So understand your place with your people.

Q1. Yes, in the beganing it was all I knew
Q2. Fight it, you feel fear, then you know thats were you most fight next, thats the magic of fear, it shows you to your ignorance.
Q3. Thru good people, which you've got, but also by striving to understand this world and myself in it. Really without the understanding that were all the same in how were different, you'll never realize the freedom of understanding, in the end. That your tring to talk to yourself thru other people, so by empathsising with people, and putting yourself in there feet, instead of just seeing it from your postion, you can grow to understand how close we all are together. Or at the least be like me and rant about it constantly to people that are trying to grasp for the fact that you scared of yourself, no offense, you are, to get over that, is to know, that your slacking off on yourself. You feel deep down, your not fighting hard enough, learn to impress yourself, to show yourself that you are a force, and that you are a f'in human the same as us, because quite frankly, sis, we need you, fight for that truth....

Answer 2

That I will turn out to be on my own, that the individual I am with, will depart me for any person else. The disorders I have is believe, being harm relatively dangerous left me in a state wherein I am now not utterly at ease, so I push men and women away. That is a difficult factor to recover from. I even have a difficult time giving up elements of me to make any person comfortable. I am afraid as soon as I do they'll see it as a weak point.