I like him, and he's really nice, but two of my friends like him, and he likes my best friend (not one of the ones who like him) and she's convinced me and him were made for each other, and everyone says we would be cute together.
2007-11-27 09:38:43 · 31 answers · asked by Cupcake 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I like him, and he's really nice, but two of my friends like him, and he likes my best friend (not one of the ones who like him) and she's (the girl that he likes) convinced me and him were made for each other, and everyone says we would be cute together.
ADDED: I just got out of a two year relationship with his best buddy, but he has a new girlfriend, and we are still really good friends. I think I might like him. He's really nice and helps me out with all my "friend" problems and stuff, really rare to find in a guy... But I don't know if I'm ready for another relationship, plus me and him are in different courses at school, and we only have 15 minutes to see each other a day, and he lives 45 minutes away from me, and we both don't know how to drive...
I just wanted to let you know the full story...
Thank you to all who answer(s/ed)
2007-11-27 11:00:46 · update #1
Yes,...Dugh! The best relationships work by having a foundation. The fact you are already friends is a good thing.
2007-11-27 09:42:26 · answer #1 · answered by Darin C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best guy friend?? ok please red it all its going to convince you thats its a bad choice:
So you’re on the phone one night with one of your best guy friends. You’re talking about homework, laughing over stupid jokes and just having fun. When you finally hang up the phone you’re smiling to yourself. That’s right about the moment when this thought pops into your head: Why aren’t he and I dating?
We all know that good guys are hard to find and someone who makes you feel so happy should make a good enough boyfriend, right? Hmm…you may want to think again.
Now there about are about ten million cheesy movies that would say I’m dead wrong about this, but I really don’t think it’s a good idea to date your best guy friend. Here’s why.
First, there’s a reason why you’re friends.
I’m not saying that it’s impossible to make the friendship-to-dating transition. Just remember that who he is as a friend and who he is as a boyfriend are probably at least a little bit different (and you’re probably different too). Girls expect more out of a boyfriend than a friend and that can lead to major disappointment. You’re friends because you like each other the way you are, changing the dynamic of your relationship could turn both of you into different people who don’t really work as well together.
Second, if/when you break up you’ve lost a friend.
It’s true that a good guy is hard to find, but so is a really great friend, especially one who knows you inside and out. Plus, you have to admit that at least some of your attraction to him is out of laziness. You want a boyfriend and there’s no one more accessible than the cool guy you like to hang out with. Believe me, I know it’s hard , but for the sake of your friendship it might be best to just suck it up and stay single and on the lookout for fresh faces.
2007-11-27 17:45:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to then yes do so.The problem will arise if the relationship fails. I dated my best friend years ago...now we don't talk at all. Everything was fine and I am sure we would of stayed friend if we had not crossed that line and dated before we were ready or if we had never dated.
But your friend and you could work out.....good luck
2007-11-27 17:42:49 · answer #3 · answered by robert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know en less you try! Try this, ask him if he would like to go on a date with you, simple movie or hang out, just the two of you. If he says yes, then you have your foot in the door. At the end of the date ask him if he would like to do it again. For any reason during that date you think he doesn't like you, remember, he could have said no when you asked him out. good luck to you.
2007-11-27 17:43:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Don't be obvious but talk to him and give subtle but noticeable hints. If you think that he is taking them and liking them then talk about the "what ifs" of you and him dating. Tell him if you two did go out and ever broke up you wouldn't want that to mess up you're friendship foundation. Let him know how you feel without pressuring him. Also talk to your best friend. That is what she is there for.
EK
2007-11-27 17:47:01 · answer #5 · answered by EmmaLucille 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YEAH!!! Some of the best relationships are between best friends. Also, this could make or break a friendship, so tell him that if he says know, you still wanna be friends.
2007-11-27 17:47:21 · answer #6 · answered by Kylie L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I told one of my good guy friends I liked him, but things didn't really work out. Ask him out, but be careful, and if he says no, just make sure you two can still be friends.
2007-11-27 17:41:46 · answer #7 · answered by Ailec M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll only regret not asking. If he says no, then maybe some short term embarassment. If hes says yes, then you have as good a chance as anyone to be happy. If you dont ask, you'll keep thinking about it for years.
2007-11-27 17:42:46 · answer #8 · answered by Alex 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never go by what friends say. If you like him, give it a try. But be ready for the unexpected, and for unpleasant surprises.
Good luck.
2007-11-27 17:44:45 · answer #9 · answered by aviophage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how long you known him. you dont want ot ruin the friendship turst me it happened to me
if you think he might like you then go for it but if your happy being his friend then stay that way and maybe when the time comes hell ask u out if its mean tto be
2007-11-27 17:42:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋