My Boyfreind and i have been going out for about two months. But it seems lik it is getting really boring. Does enyone have any ideas on how to make it more excting or something......
2007-11-27 09:24:38 · 36 answers · asked by Abby S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would recommend that you don't.
Becoming bored of each other is natures way of letting you know that you are not as compatible with each other as either of you hoped you might be, and therefore not ready (at least not yet ready) to be with each other in a long-term relationship.
In spite of the likely obvious painful heartache involved, it is a very good idea to move on and strive to reach intellectual and emotional maturity with someone else.
It is a MUCH better idea to move on, than to try to 'spice up your life' in any kind of way that could wind up backfireing into a life-long mistake, like an unplanned pregnancy or and STD or either of you feeling like the other is trying to manipulate and control you.
Break up with the promise that you'll look him up in the future after you've done some growing up.
I did that with every girl I ever dated more than twice, and by the time we were in college, we realized that we were compatible with other people more than with each other, so it was by far the best thing for us to do.. in spite of the fact that it hurt so much when we broke up.
The biggest part of reaching emotional maturity is that you realize that pain and heartache will become a part of every successful relationship, even those where you successfully recognize your incompatibilities and move on.
2007-11-27 09:37:15 · answer #1 · answered by Robert G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship of only 2 months is already getting boring, that relationship is seriously on the rocks and will be an uphill battle to sustain. Some ideas: find something mutually enjoying outside of the bedroom to do such as tennis, cycling, sports, concerts, hanging with friends, picnics and if its boring in the bedroom, spice it up with some toys and role play.
2007-11-27 09:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Šωèé†íé♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When things get boring sometimes its really nice to buy your special someone a nice gift, maybe flowers or a card to let them know you are thinking of them. It's the little things that keep relationships interesting. Also what's fun is putting a knife to your loved one's throat, maybe drawing just a little bit of blood and telling them if they ever leave you you will f*cking kill them and kill their family and then when they are asleep, wake them up with some forced sodomy.
Also an unexpected vacation makes things fun too! A trip to the beach may be just what the doctor ordered to cure those relationship blues!!
2007-11-27 09:29:43 · answer #3 · answered by toasterdevil jr. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just never, ever take the other person for granted...and make sure the words compromise....respect....and patience are in your active vocabulary along with the word love.......a relationship isn't allways and forever fireworks and roller coaster rides...there has to be substance to the relationship otherwise once the initial rush of new love is over,there is nothing....it's only two months and already you're bored? Jeeze....I've been married for over a year now to my hubby and boring just ain't in our dictionary......
2007-11-27 09:35:52 · answer #4 · answered by The Original GarnetGlitter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep everything new. Never stop "dating" each other. In relationships both men and women tend to get too comfortable too soon. Keep giving each other Valentines gifts, cards for no reasons, surprising him with lunch one day at his job, etc. The more exciting and unexpected you are (in a loving way, of course), the more he will want to stay with you because you always have something new to offer.
2007-11-27 09:28:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go areas in combination like tenting or mountaineering or motorbike driving and many others. It will preserve your brain off whatever so trivial. Relationships difference from being interesting to being extra like a groundwork for luck in existence (whoa).
2016-09-05 15:36:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a bad sign,it either means you two are losing interest or you two have already lost it. Try arangin to go somewhere and talk 2 him about how your feeling, it would help you two understand how the other ones feels at this moment.
2007-11-27 09:31:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be spontaneous. Bring him lunch at work, write notes. If you are sexually active, be creative and spontaneous also. Start stuff with him unexpectedly. But I'm not sure how long your relationship will last if you are bored two months in.
2007-11-27 09:27:43 · answer #8 · answered by ta_stealth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bowling, darts, cards, movies, vacations, shopping, sitting at a coffee shop! If none of these sound fun with him, maybe he's just not the right one and you need to move on to someone more exciting!!
2007-11-27 09:29:50 · answer #9 · answered by Sunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take up an activity together.
Golf lessons, bowling, dance, some sort of class.
Go places....museums, theater, parks, etc.
Bake or cook something.
Find a common hobby....gardening, walking dogs, video games, etc. take up something new here and there....
2007-11-27 09:31:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋