I can't ever see myself loving a child that i did not give birth to. Or a foster child. I have thought of adopting when im older (im 14). But i wouldn't do it, if i'm not sure that I could love the child. Please give me stories if you have them. Thanks
2007-11-27 09:02:54 · 21 answers · asked by ipod 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adoption
I dont mean to to mean. or rude. I'm sorry.
2007-11-27 09:39:47 · update #1
First of all you are really to young to understand how a person can love a child that they didnt have. My husband and I adopted our daughter from birth and wouldnt think of her not our child. When we saw her, she was our child. We were there when she was born and have been there from day one even when she had to stay in the NICU for three long weeks. A person can fall in love with a baby or child bc they want too. Not bc they cant see this child not being theres.
2007-11-27 12:18:15 · answer #1 · answered by Amie M 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I really don’t think this could ever truly be explained to some people. As there are some people that will never understand it. If a person cant see themselves loving an adopted child or Foster child the same as a biological child then that person should not adopt or become a foster parent. Its better to be honest with yourself then to lie to yourself. That’s not fair to the child(ren). Of course you’re young so one day you might understand.
Loving is not about loving someone more or less. Its just about love and love grows and expands. i would safe both kids ,In hardships people find strength that they didn't know they had. Or i would die trying.
2007-11-27 20:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You love them all equally! They are YOUR child! They are very special. If I were you, I'd meet people that have adopted and or do foster care. We are in the process. That was the best thing for us is meeting other people. Seeing how they love them so much, all the positiveness. If that is your calling in life, you will be greatly blessed. I've heard people say that their adopted kids are so perfect and if they had their own they wouldn't have been so perfect, they feel that since they were incapable, that God blessed them with extremely wonderful kids. Meet people online or read biographies about adopted kids or adoptive parents. Just get into it and research it! You'll see that the blood and genes have nothing to do with loving a child!
2007-11-27 17:09:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
Its even more important to love the adopted child or foster kid b /c they may have already had a really tough start and dont feel like they belong anywhere or to anyone and feel very lonely and unwanted. Biological kids already have that "belong" status and dont usually have unwanted feelings. It takes special people with big hearts who can and do adopt or foster kids and if they are able to love them as they deserve, that really makes a difference in those kids lives.
2007-11-27 17:13:44 · answer #4 · answered by GisL4all 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Since you are only 14, it may be hard to understand how two people or one person can adopt a child and love it as your own. I'm very confident that as you grow up your feelings on this may change or you will at least understand people that adopt. I will tell you this my parent love me as their own. And i love them just as much.
2007-11-27 17:43:02 · answer #5 · answered by a healing adoptee 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Your 14, once you mature a little you will realize that a child is a child. Once you have kids you will realize too. Then again there are some people who are not meant to adopt.
2007-11-27 17:14:11 · answer #6 · answered by MamaM3gan 3 · 9⤊ 0⤋
A child is a child no matter where they come from. Just because they have parents that arnt responsible doesn't mean that they dont deserve them. Every kid should have love no matter if they are yours or not.
2007-11-27 21:22:20 · answer #7 · answered by Caroline 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your feeling. I once felt as you do.
However, I can say without any doubt that is makes no difference. I love my adopted sons every bit as much as I love my natural daughter. In fact, because I am older now, I believe I feel my love for them more deeply than I could when I was a young father.
2007-11-27 17:27:33 · answer #8 · answered by Wundt 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Our son is adopted and he is our child even though I didn't give birth to him. I can't imagine loving a child anymore that I love him! He's the center of our world! He has brought so much joy to us. Trust me...genes have nothing to do with love!
2007-11-27 19:37:12 · answer #9 · answered by Butterfly heart 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Because the kids I adopted ARE my own kids. They may not have been born to me, but they are all mine.
Who do you think takes care of them every day and night? Who do they go to when they are scared or sad or sick? I'm their mom, and they are my kids, my own kids. How could I love them any more if they *were* born to me?
I guess if you don't understand how this is, you just don't understand what adoption really is.
2007-11-27 18:53:32 · answer #10 · answered by LJ 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋