My son who is a few months shy of 4 years old is having problems with a bully at his daycare. The other boy is constantly ridiculing him and berating everything about him. From the color of his skin (my son is white the other boy is black) to the clothes on his back. We have talked to the daycare provider and the other child's parents and they basically told our son to suck it up. The daycare provider's hands are tied and she has taken privledges away from the other boy when he begins his taunts but there is only so much she can do. We've told our son to ignore the other child and tried to explain the other boy is jealous because he has nice things. But they are 4 and don't quite understand it all. Any advice?
2007-11-27 09:00:29 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
First of all I would try to refrain from basing the reasons behind the negative activity with more negativity. I know that such is most likely the case (with the other boy maybe being jealous) but this may cause your son to feel anymosity towards the other kid or maybe even develope a sense of conciet. Maybe if you can ask the daycare provider to teach all the kids about bullys and how bullying is very mean and "un cool" then the other children may be able to help ostracize the behavior so that the "mean kid" will have to conform or be a loner....that's just an idea...
2007-11-27 09:10:42 · answer #1 · answered by Nautilus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bullying should not be tolerated, even at age 4. I would demand that the daycare address the situation. Is there another classroom the child can be moved to? I mean is the daycare provider saying she lets the kids run amok and doesn't deal with it? She needs to be dealing with the problem child. Regardless, I would seriously consider removing my child from that daycare if your son is being upset by this bully, AND everyone refuses to deal with it (except you). There are going to be a lot of situations in life growing up where you can't control how kids treat your son.... but this is a case where you do have control. Do what you can. Good luck!
2007-11-27 09:46:57 · answer #2 · answered by Mom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The daycare providers hands are not tied!!! If this other boy is causing that many problems they have the right to kick him out of daycare which it sounds like they should do. I know this isnt an easy thing to do but if the day care provider continues to let this bully attend then I would find another place that your son feels safe and is not ridiculed and teased all time. Good Luck!
2007-11-27 09:09:04 · answer #3 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah quit being gutless.Tell the day care worker if this happens again you are going to SUE her for ""maintaining a hostile environment". THIS will untie her hands REAL quick!
I was in the 2nd grade in an inner city school and my parents let black kids beat on me the whole school yr.Oh they talked to the principal and all,it did no good.By the end of the year I could send 6-8 of them running after hitting a few of them with a hardshell book case.
I tried sneaking a knife to school once but my mom caught me.This was in the late 60's I blame the adults for being gutless.
If I caught someone mistreating my son,I'd say something to them if the parent wanted to get involved I'd say something to them too!
Have your husband to also have a talk with these people.
2007-11-27 10:01:14 · answer #4 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take that little pip-squeak quietly off to the side and tell him if he bothers your son again Santa won't bring him anything for Christmas!
Trust me....he'll understand that!
2007-11-27 09:47:24 · answer #5 · answered by feelin' blue 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Stay home with your son. When you are old and gray, will you say, :"Oh, I wish I would have worked more hours!", or will you say, "Gosh, I wish I would have had more time to spend with my preschooler. He may not have had so many adult problems!"
2007-11-27 09:08:35 · answer #6 · answered by bwlobo 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋