When a person shares a personal life crisis here, on an open forum, do you relate to them?

Question

..... do you think they are weak, or seeking attention? I have just learned that my only living son is critically ill. I would give anything to trade places with him and let his suffering be my own. I am a Christian, and this has not shaken my faith one bit, but I am not going to neglect to seek out every medical option available for him. Call me a fool for praying to my Lord, but I will pray all the harder. I am likely not going to be answering questions for a time, but will attempt to keep in touch with personal mail.

He has been disabled by a degenerative bone disease for three years, but this is a new diagnosis that will likely further shorten his life. I have custody of his nine year old daughter, and I know I have to be strong for her. I am saying nothing to her yet.

Answer 1

I am sorry to hear this news, and I have gone through this with family members. I also pray and ask God to help me through prayer and medicine. I will pray for you and your son that you can get the best medical care out there.

I wish you all the best Eagle, please take care.

Answer 2

((hugs and prayers))

I don't think people are weak or just seeking attention when they post personal life crisis on here. I think they are making the most of what is available to them.

I do not have any children so i cannot fully imagine what you are going through, especially with having to consider the 9 yr old's feelings also. I know that your faith is strong! I am glad that you trust God. I hope your son does also. It is wonderful that this little girl will have such a wonderful role model as you to look up to during all this. Knowing that how you handle things will impact her probably puts another stress on you but try to see it as an opportunity to strengthen her early in life so she can also handle things and look to the Lord later in life as you do.

I will put your son and you and your family on my prayer list.
Remember that life is the tiniest part of the wonderful journey that God has given us. It is so nice to have the ones we love here to take that journey with us. But sometimes one person will get ahead of the other even though you are on the same path. Just remember that you ARE on the same path and in time, you will catch up.

God bless you my friend! If I can do anything else feel free to email me.

With love in Christ,
JC

Answer 3

Oh, Eagle. I am so sorry. I just... I came here to look something up and noticed you had asked a question - I wish I had so much more to say. I have always felt closer to people who are willing to share of themselves and their experiences. I've found also that being too open and honest with others can work against a person hugely. I try to keep myself surrounded by those who don't judge by what they don't know. Because however much we think we have someone "figured out" we often have no idea who they really are.

You, however, have always been a wonderful friend and I am literally sickened by your news. I don't know how you do it, E., but I want you to know from the bottom of my heart that all of my thoughts and best wishes are with you, your son and your granddaughter. I love you and I think you're wonderful. I don't see at all how this would shake your faith in God. A belief in God doesn't guarantee a lack of tragedy in one's life. You truly believe and it is a huge part of who you are. I find it ridiculous when people assign attributes to God - God should just be, as a spiritual entity and source of comfort and wisdom. To give God human attributes is to assume that God is human. I may not believe in God, honey, but I find your faith to be a wonderful aspect of who you are personally. You don't use your faith as a weapon. You don't use it to blame God when things go wrong. You understand that humanity and divinity are often very different things.

I am praying for your son. I've gotten in "trouble" before for saying that because I am an atheist and I find it ridiculous. I pray to whatever it is out there, whatever great energy that connects us all to the other. I have always prayed, perhaps differently than most, but certainly not less so. We all pray differently. I knew about your son's bone disease but I didn't realize how bad things had gotten. I pray for the technology of the future to save him; for his diagnosis to change. I pray for his comfort and the easing of his pain. I pray the same for you and your family. Please know that you can write me any time - you have the address. I'm rarely on here any more but I always check my e-mail.

(((((((((EW))))))))))

Answer 4

To answer your question:yes.
It is times like this that even in this forum when all the vile rudeness, silly banter and basic bullshit it said and done we are all still left human.
When someone shares a life crisis I am in awe. Awed by the fact that that person sees the same as I do, that we are all just human and in more ways that we care to admit we do relate. See that whatever one believes we believe the human spirit prevails.
I am also in awe that this does not shake your faith. While I do not have faith as you do I feel humbled to see someone who has the faith you do.
Funny as when I hear things as such I do pray. I do not know what or who I am praying to, but I do not feel as it can hurt anything.

Answer 5

We feel your pain sister! I have prayed for God's spirit to be poured out on you both.

"Dr" Jesus knows all about it, dear friend, and His peace surpasses understanding.

I certainly relate to the pains of others. In fact I'm involved in our church's prayer ministry, where a person may share a personal life crisis at any time of day.

I was the executive director of a united way agency, Teleshare, a telephone hot line.

I amused to suddenly have t deal with abuse, substance abuse, grief, crisis calls from rape to burned out of home or apartment, and the scary suicidal calls.

I have buried the wife of my youth (who I thought would outlive me), my kid brother (who I thought would outlive me), and both parents...but an only child's critically illness trumps any mountain I have had to climb.

God bless you both. Hugs, in His love, Michael

Answer 6

I am a nurse; at this season in my life I am in hospice..
One thing I know this from experience. God has the last word
I am a trophy of God's grace. God specializes in the impossible. Do not listen to Job;s friends. Pray read the word trust God; I go thru the bible and write down God's promises to me. I pray these promises according to your word;
be putting him on every prayer chain from here to where every.I relate to anyone with the sacred breath of life in them.......
I will be praying for you and your son.
I can relate believe me.I believe just as we are soul;spirit and body; all must be ministered too. I have seen with my own human eyes unexplainable medical miracles.God bless;
not anyone goes thru life without going thru crisis........
remember when you walk thru the fire it wont burn you; when you walk thru the flood it will not over flow you.......
Have you studied the eagles how the renew their selves.
cool............. read about the eagles. they go in a cave pluck all their old feathers out....... grow new feathers and soar even higher. Read Joyce meyers study on the eagles........ amazing amen. your sister in tennessee is praying for you

Answer 7

I try to give sensible advice if I can, but some of these kinds of questions are considered "personal chat" by the Y!A moderators and they get removed before I can even write a decent answer.
Prayer requests are one of the types of "questions" that they delete pretty often since a prayer request doesn't really ask a question that can be answered.
I recommend that you try a different venue for prayer requests, perhaps a Yahoo group or a 360 page. It takes a bit of courage to ask for help and it would be a shame to work up the courage, then have your request removed because Y!A finds it inappropriate.

Answer 8

Your life crisis touches the heart deeply and it is such crisis with deep emotional impact. Even I'm an Atheist I would tell you to keep your faith strong, and pray more for your son. Hope this will heal him from his disease. Be always there for him, this will always lift his spirit and I'm sure you are a great caring mother.

((((Eagle Woman))))

Answer 9

I can relate and will say a prayer myself also for you and your son . There is nothing weak about sharing your feelings and emotions and letting off some tension , I would even recommend it . May God bless your son and give you strength as you battle the challenges you face , good luck.

Answer 10

My thoughts are with you and your son. There is nothing wrong with have faith in a time of crisis. You are not a fool for praying to your Lord. I hope he answers your prayers.

Blessed Be.

Answer 11

No sister, you are neither of those. You need the loving embrace that your friends here are most willing to give. Myself and many included relate to your pain.
There is always hope so continue to search all avenues of specialist for your son. We both know the Lord does work miracles and I will be praying with you.
This saddens me to the core.
Be brave and strong and if you need a group hug we are here for you. ((((((((((EAGLE)))))))))))))))